men's disgusting obsession...

why are some men obsessed with ejaculating on women's faces??? this is really getting to me, sorry...

i think it has something to do with humiliating women, and men wanting overall power, but even my boyfriend of two years (who i believe loves me) gets turned on by the very thought of it. and he tells me he doesn't know why.

(BTW i didn't put this in the love and sex forum because i didn't want to get a surplus of male responses. {Although an enlightened male view would be very much appreciated.} I want to know what women think! and I need help!)

 

I've never been with a guy that seemed to be that obsessed about it. The only guy that's ever done it to me was my boyfriend that I kind of have now. He's only done it like twice, and I guess I was just kind of in the mood for it and going with the flow.


It probably is some empowering thing. It's like hanging their drawings on the refridgerator in Kindergarten..... they get to see their little creation displayed....

 

I'm glad your so relaxed about it. I need to be more easy going i guess. Refrigerator drawings, thats awesome. but still, for some reason it's like an itch under my skin.... ahhhh. I guess it makes me mad that i can't do anything back to him.

(Actually i did something one time. He came on my chest, so i rolled over and spat on his. He got really pissed off and said, "that was uncalled for")

what the hell? haha

 

You have to be kind of open to things like that (hehe). Like, if he really wants to do it, he'll ask, or he'll wait for me to say something. Sometimes, I don't necessarily want a whole bunch of goop all over my boobs, but I know that he'd probably enjoy doing it, so I tell him to and pretend that it drives me nuts. I'm not being weak and submissive, only considerate and sweet. It helps if you're really "connected" or whatever. Or tuned into each other's feelings, I guess.

 

that's good advice. thanks. i need some positive thoughts to get me off of this subject. (haha, no pun intended.) i guess i just have to look at it from a different perspective.

 

Sorry but this thread is about the equivellent of me asking why women are obsessed with fucking their guy with a strap on. Simply put, some do it, some don't.

 

She said "some" when she asked the question. She wasn't making a general statement. She has every right to be curious.


Did you even read the post? You might want to check out the very last part......

 

you know that would be an amazing come back. from me to him. problem is he wont let me touch that "area" with a ten foot pole.

b.t.w. i think girls like the idea of screwing their guys because it's a way of giving back what their getting.

i dont like it though cause there's nothing in store for me, it being plastic and all.

 

good point happy.

 

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what?

 

There is a LOT of variation in sexual practices. I don't find ejaculate discusting at all, no matter where it ends up. Personally, I don't think a man wanting to come places other than my yoni disgusting either. It is a matter of personal choice. I don't think men who do like this want to do it out of an idea of oppression, they just like it. Lots of womyn like it too.

If you don't like it, though, you and your man will have to come to an agreement. Does he know how you feel about it? A man shouldn't insist on a sexual practice which makes his womyn feel bad. Sex is supposed to feel good, and you are both supposed to feel good about what you do. If he doesn't understand that you don't want to do this, you both have a lot of work to do.

I know my dh would never try to pressure me into anything sexual I didn't want to do. In the past he as asked a few times for things I didn't want, and a simple, "That doesn't sound good to me." ended it. We have a pretty damn good sex life!!!! There isn't much I don't like, but the few things I don't have never been an issue.

You and your man need to talk when you are NOT in bed. Sex is important, and both people need to be happy and comfortable with what is being done. If he won't talk, or insists on stuff you feel degraded by, then there probaly isn't anything that will change that. DON'T do things that make you feel bad. It will only breed resentment or even fear towards your partner, and that isn't good for either of you.

Sex is supposed to make both of you feel good. Don't consent to something which makes you feel bad.

 

i'm not quite sure what the thrill in it is, but my husband enjoys it so much that i'm thrilled to give that to him. dave has such profound respect for me and treats me so well that there's no feeling of disrespect. i trust him enough to let him dominate me that way. it's a give and take, i suppose. i guess one part of it would be to see his cum somewhere it isn't necessarily supposed to be, something that he and everyone else looks at every day.

 

Yep, we're all out to control and dominate you. Maybe guys just like cumming on a girl's body, why does it have to be a control issue? Still though, you should'nt do it if you don't want to, just like anything else in bed.

 

I've told him that it bothers me and that i don't like it, but it still comes up a lot. I know that guys like it because it's a girls body and its thrilling or something, but i guess i was just trying to figure out: why the face? because i've watched pornos and i know that's where he got the idea in the first place, and they do it in such a mean way. maybe i just wish i could jizz on his face too?? oh well :H

BTW it's a control issue because i can't do it back to him.

 

DarkLunacy was talking about strap-ons.

 

The way I figure it, I cum on my bf's face everytime he goes down on me. I prefer having him cum on my breasts myself, I've never had a guy cum on my face. I don't necessarily see it as a power issue, though I'm sure some men view it that way. I think it's just that men today watch so much porn thanks to the internet than they think that all women want them to cum on their faces.

 

Well you could. But only because you both want to. Don't do it to "get back at him" nothing could be worse for your relationship. The bedroom isn't a place for revenge. Only do this if it is something you want. Who knows, you both may like it.

 

I heard that jizz was good for you and your skin etc. Is meant to make a good face mask full of nutrients and stuff.. can't remember, think I read that somewhere

 

From a man's point of view. I think it has to do with marking or claiming rather than dominating. The statement "she is my woman" does not imply that she is my servant. Most men will agree that "my woman" does what she wants and that a man does not control "his" woman.
There is also the aspect that porn (which needs external ejaculation for photographability) teaches men that this is sexy.

 

i will tell you why guys like to do it.

its because women are CUMDUMPSTERS!