Miscarriage...

I started bleeding on thursday after I'd come back from a walk. My future sister-in-law took me to the ER and they checked me out but there wasn't much to do aside from taking some blood samples. I called my doctor the next morning and she saw me that day and did a pap test and checked my body and had me come in the next day for more blood work to compare hormone levels. Thursday night my HCG count was about 1800 and on Saturday if things were normal, it should've doubled to over 3000.... it was down to about 300 which signifies miscarriage.

According to my own thoughts and that of a few others, we believe that the stress of telling my parents was too much for my body and my baby to handle. To be honest though, we have no idea.

My first pregnancy ended with my first miscarriage...

 

I'm SOO sorry. :[ That's terrible.

<3

 

Don't blame anything ..maybe it just wasn't meant to be

 

^^What he said. Honestly having no idea seems like a better idea than blaming your parents. That won't help anything.

 

:grouphug:I'm sorry to hear that.

 

Yeah a few years back my mom lost twins. She jus got pregnant a few months ago, and she lost it too. No lie I see that this is one of the hardest things a woman can go through. I mean you cant really blame anyhting. And dont get me wrong it sucks, but it will be okay, and everything will get better. Its not your fault, or anyones. I mean it coulda jus been a mess up, or maybe something coulda been wrong with the baby and God didnt want it to go through life in pain. You never know.

 

How do you feel about it? You are 19, you must have had a lot of fears.

 

I did have a lot of fears, but that was nothing compared to a joy of having a baby.

And Thank you everyone, but I'd just as soon blame my parents. And I will tell them that I blame them. They never take any responsibility for stuff that's happened to me that I try to talk to them about and the amount of guilt-tripping and anger and self-centeredness they had when I told them I was pregnant, at this point I don't care if it really wasn't them. I want to blame them and I will.

 

this may not be what you want to hear at the moment. but, it's not your parent's fault. yeah, i'm sure they suck. but, you are an adult now. you choose to associate with your parents.

i'm sorry that this happened.

 

I get very worked up other telling my parents things, and used to get so anxious over it. So I get where you're coming from.

I'm sorry you've had to go through it.

 

Errrghh, I hate that sentiment, even though technically true.


She was really looking forward to having a kid, would have made a great mum, a life lost before it even got a chance to start.

I think we should acknowledge that this situation completely blows

 

I agree. True certain things "happen for a reason". But the idea of god being the cause of people dying who havent been born yet is the reason so many people dont believe in him.

This is extremely unfortunate, possibly stress related as she says. Sometimes things happen for a reason, sometimes terrible things just happen to good people. For that we're all sorry girl

 

I am really sorry this happened

Sending much love your way :hugs

 

I'm sorry you had to go through this, but DON"T blame ANYONE-most of all don't blame yourself, I have had 2 miscarriages and I did things I shouldn't have , so I KNEW it was my own fault.

You didn't say how far along you were, I was 3 weeks the first time and 7 weeks the second time.

I have a daughter, but the powers that be decided I wasn't a fit Mother--so esoecially at your age, its psibly a good thing it happened, and if your parents were that nasty about it, they could have tried to have your child taken away

Lois

 

I have had 8 miscarriages, my 2 children are miracles, adn I think it was the progesterone supplementation that saved them. though doctors are stupid and dont realize it. I am so r sorry for your loss. It sucks badly . Hope things get better for you. *hugs* If you need to talk I am just an pm away.

 

My mom had 3 miscarriages before I came into the world. I'm sorry for your loss sweetie, I hope you feel better soon.

 

sorry to hear you are going through this... virtual hugs and love coming your way!!! hope you can put it behind you soon...

 

Not Sure How A Guy Is Supposed To Reply To This, But Here Goes......

I Am The Oldest, And Before I Was Born, My Mom Had Three Miscarriages

That I Know Of....

But When It Came To Pregnancy No 4, She Was Rewarded With As Close

To Perfection As You Can Get In A Child....

Chin Up My Dear, You Can't Change The Past, So Look Foward To The

Future...:grouphug:.



Cheers Glen.

 

Im sorry i havent posted in a while especialy on this subject.... I just wanted to thank everyone for their support and im sure aine thanks you too. Were both doing much better than we were but I dont know if we will ever really get compleatly over it.

 

Such negative thinking will only lead to more negative events.