hi i posted this in womens issues too... but considering the question i ask at the end i figured it would be helpful to post it here too, please help me. Heya all ok i need a bit of advice. I have always had pretty irregular periods all my life so it came as not supprise that a week or so after my boyfriend had said "shouldnt you been on soon" i was only just geting signs of coming on. However this month was not like any other month. It hit me suddenly half way through the day (i usually come on in evenings) and i got my usual faint feeling and icky belly and feeling kind of dizzy. However this time it just got worse and worse untill i couldnt stand. I began to cry and told work i had to leave and suffured a bus journey home. I crawled into bed and curled up in pain. My flow was incredibly heavy compared to usual as im usually quite light. I put all this down to the fact that I went vegetarian a few weeks before coming on and have had a lot of stress. The vegetarianism had given me very bad toilet habits and ifigured it could have had something to do with this. However i thought not to worry becuase i only ever really get bad pains on the day i come on and the day i come off. The rest of the evening was spent with headaches, dizzyness and a horific belly ache. I awoke the next day with a bad belly stil but to go with it back pains like ive never felt, it hurt to stand. However off i trundled into university thinking it would calm as the day went on. But no by 12 i was feeling so bad i had to go home again. To day i wasnt feeling so bad when i woke up but as soon as i went to walk anywhere again i felt horrible. As soon as i got to uni i spent 10 mins just sitting on the toilet wimpering in pain. My flow again was super heavy. However i took a pill for it (i never ever take medication so this is a rarity for me) This afternoon i rang up my step mummy (who has 3 boys and gave birth to one girl who died at birth. She has also been pregnant numerous amounts of times and had many misscariges) I told her how i had been feeling. she asked if my flow was heavyer than usual and i said yues definatly. She described a few sympons and i said yes to all she had said. She said it sounded like i had been in the early stages of pregnancy and it had terminated itself. She said women get pregnant more often than they realise and it can happen. Now know full well its not unreasonable that i could be pregnant. and it explained the slightly extra length of my cycle. I was just wondering if anyone else could comment on this. Tell me if it sounds like a familiar reason. I dont know why i have the need to know its just i know ive been totally over emotional (more so than usual) lately and suffering from fits of tears (not usual for me although im prone to anxiety attacks) and i have been INCREDIBLY broody (as people in the parenting forums might have noticed) its not like me at all as ive always said i wasnt really dieing to have children. It was like my body was telling me i wanted to have a kid even though my mind was saying "dont be stupid your far to young" please give me some of your thoughts on this. thank you.
hiya fleassy, unfortunatly theres no way to tell for sure but it is possible thats what happened...when you say its not unreasonable you might have been pregnant...are you trying to become pregnant? im not gonna say your too young...im 20 and ive just had my first, just make sure your ready, there is plenty of time and your only young once. having said that i was desperate for my son and love him to bits now he is here. try not to dwell on what might have been, hope you feel better soon.xx
It is hard to tell if you had a miscarraiage or just a bad period. Was your period late? Miscarrages can happen when you are due, but they usually happen when your period is late. It might not be a bad idea to see a doctor. I have had two miscariages and one of them was "incomplete' meaning there was still stuff in me that had to be removed. The pain was almost as bad as childbirth, but after after the D&C I was fine, but tired. The other miscarraige I had passed on it's own without needing any medical help. If it lasts more than a few days, if it smells really bad, it is sign of an infection. If you start to run a fever or vomit or faint, PLEASE see a doctor. I hope you heal well. Love and hugs, Maggie
Yes my period was late. No im not trying for a child. I know im not in the right state financially for haveing a child. What i meant was i am sexualy active with a long term partner and its not impossible for me to have gotten pregnant. Ive decided to go to a doctor when he gets back into the country (he returns tomorrow) we will go together. I got warned in the womens issues thread that i should see a doc. She described her experiance as did my step mum and it seems to match up perfectly. Yet someone also said it happned to her sister and turned out to be cists ad i should definatly go to a doctor just incase. Thank you everyone for your help.
I had a miscarriage. I suffer from endo so my chances were pretty high. The next time I get pregnant I'll probably be on bedrest the entire time.
The hardest part is not knowing for sure. Four years ago, before i had my first child, i *think* i had a miscarriage. Okay, i am almost certain i did, because my period was a couple of weeks late (it had never been even a day late before that), i was in more pain than usual (i had actually never had cramps before that either), and when my period did come, there was "something" in there...eep. Anyway, i was scared to death, and totally embarrassed that i didn't know what was happening to me, so i didnt say anything to anyone. Not even my bf (now my husband). i actually forgot all about it, if you can imagine that, until a few months ago. Out of nowhere it hit me, omg, i lost a baby. I hadn't even given another thought to it since it happened, and all of the sudden i couldn't stop mourning. I finally told my husband about it, and he was just in shock; we had two healthy children together since then, and he couldn't believe i'd never said anything; i couldn't believe i had never thought to say anything. So anyway, i still feel really horrible that i didn't recognize what happened for what it was, and even now, if asked...no, i've never had a miscarriage, because i don't know what it's like to go through with one, because i didn't know it was happening. If that makes any sense at all. And even though i am sure that's what happened, mentally, i can't really admit it to myself. I almost wish it was later along, so i would have had to go to the hospital or something, and known for sure; at least by knowing, i could mourn for my child, but this way, i just feel confused and lost. So yeah, definately go to the doc, and see if you can find out what really happened.
Heya all. Quick update... well my flow haslightned a bit, and today the pains havnt been there. However i have an odd pulling feeling in the front of my belly.. lie you get when your hungry only ive eaten plenty. My boyfriend gets home tonight (at 1am) and hes going to help me book a doctors appointment. Thank you all for your kind words... its nice to know that you can get support from people even when you dont know them.
