Mom smokes weed..Why can't I!?

My mom smokes weed, I know this for a fact because i've found her bong, bowl, and weed stash. She doesn't know that I know, but once she told me if she ever found out that I smoked, she would send me to live with my dad or something. What gives? How can she be so hypocritical?! And I do smoke, but I doubt she knows...

 

I don't understand either. I've known plenty of parents who smoke, hide it from their kids, and insist that their kids don't. Probably an age/responsibility thing. I mean I can buy and drink alcohol, but I don't want my 16 y/o to have the same access and freedom to drink alcohol that I do. Can a 16 y/o smoke, drink or have sex and keep themselves as safe as I can?

We decided long ago to let our kids smoke weed at home as long as they kept their grades up and their life in order. I though this was a much better scene than having teenagers hide it and smoke at school or in someone elses car.

 

Wish my parents were more like you in that sense

 

Me to..

 

I don't know anything about you so don't take offense to this but a lot of kids don't hold anywhere near as much responsibility as their parents, who go to work every day to put food on your plate (and weed in their stash). I don't know how you do in school but parents of kids who do poorly don't want them to smoke because in a lot of cases (not all of them) the grades drop even more. If you have good grades and are responsible then go have a talk with her about it.

 

Letting your kid smoke weed goes against everything a parent is "supposed" to do in our society today. For one thing if a teenager we're to tell her friends that his/her parents LET them smoke pot and the word got around, who knows what the repercussions could be. Thinking about it I would guess that many parents keep up the probitionary attitude for safety as much as anything.

Our older kids range in age from 22 down to 16 and when we suspected the oldest was interested in smoking we started with a sort of don't ask don't tell policy. After a few years passed and we actually smoked together it was certainly an experiment in liberal parenting.

 

For starters the courts might deem you an unfit parent and take your kids away, along with your house and everything else...

Until and unless the laws change, parents can't be too careful about that stuff, but I agree with freeinalaska's approach.

 

you guys are acting like its assumed....maybe she's "holding it for a friend" hahahahaha

 

Probally....

 

that's what i was thinking lol.

if your parents are separated, she may have a boyfriend you don't know about, and he just keeps his shit at your house.

i've seen it happen.

 

Think he was kidding but its possible

 

For the most part I have to agree with FreeinAlaska. I would still not want to smoke with my child until they were 18 but mine is 8 now so my mind could change in a few years for all I know. Basically, it all boils down to the fact that it is aginst the law. So, we as responsible adults have to make sure that we follow the rules. Remember, don't break the rules unless you are willing to accept the result.

However, I would still feel free to discuss it with your mom. Just remember that as long as you can remain cool, calm and collected and have a reasonable argument / debate then you should be ok. The second it starts with the yelling and accusing thing then you loose.

 

No she does have a boyfriend and he lives with us, but they have been together for like, 10 years. He smokes with her.

 

Originally Posted by freeinalaska
Can a 16 y/o smoke, drink or have sex and keep themselves as safe as I can?

A lot of teenagers consistantly prove that they don't.

 

Good point, haha. I'm actually responsible when I smoke.

 

snatch up her weed and leave a note saying, "if I can't smoke, you can't smoke." and then a lil P.S. saying, "I thought so highly of you until now. =(" The unhappy face is mandatory.

 

You should be happy. She is doing what she is supposed to do, she is a good parent (minus not hiding her stash better). My parents would kick me out if they found out I smoked, and I would prefer it that way because it keeps me from abusing it.

 

Hand your mom a fat sack of some dank shit and she;ll let you smoke :]

and besides she's a bitch.

 

Being a hypocrite is not being a good parent.

 

Agreed.

My dad used to smoke weed when he was my age, and when I got caught I told him, "You shouldn't be such a dick to me about it, you used to do it too."