I'm more than sure I'm pregnant....I talked to a doctor today that told me to go ahead and start taking my prenatal vitamins until he can run a test to tell me for sure, he says he's pretty positive that I'm pregnant. But, my boobs are starting to look bigger. They feel tighter and my nipples are really sensitive. My boyfriend says he can definitely see a difference in them (He doesn't know I may be pregnant....any tips on how to tell him?? I'm afraid he'll freak out and leave me if I do tell him). Are my boobs supposed to start getting bigger although I'm not even 4 months pregnant, or could there be something wrong with them? I'm new at this and do not know anything about how pregnancy is supposed to go....I tried looking on websites for an answer to this....but I couldn't find anything.... I'm getting so frustrated.
i don't know about the boob thing...mine never changed lol, but from what i've heard they can change drastically even before you know you're pregnant. About how to tell your boyfriend...wow, that's a tough one without knowing him. You better tell him ASAP though, because it's not the sort of thing that can get easier with time--the sooner the better in my opinion, you know, give him as much time to take it in as possible.
Some womyn have breast changes even before they miss a period. I did, I slept in a bra for the first trimester of all my pregnancies. Are you living with your boyfriend? You really do have to tell him. Why do you think he will freak out and leave you? Did you two have a plan for what would happen in the event of a pregnancy? My Bear and I did, before the first time we had sex. (He was 18 and I had just turned 17.) A good man doesn't leave when a pregnancy happens. I can understand that you are upset, but he is just as responsible as you for the pregnancy. I hope you can work things out with him. My now dh (then boyfriend) was there when I took the first pregnancy test, when I was 23. So, we found out together. Have you taken a home preg test? They are usually pretty accurate. Can I ask how the doctor "knew" over the phone you were pregnant? Just wondering, as my doc doesn't even tell moms anything until he examines them, doing a pelvic (pregnancy is confirmed at the pelvic, as the organs change during pregnancy) and does urine and blood work. Really bad PMS and really early pregnancy have almost identical symtoms. Most docs don't suggest Prenatals, until you are past the first trimester. As many pregnancies end in miscarraige and Prenatal vitamins are expensive. I just take 800 micros of Folic Acid if my period is a day or so late, and then I know the baby's neural tube will be protected. I never take prenatals. You may want to see a doctor who will do the appropriate testing, or see a midwife, who will see you immediately as well as take a home test. They are as accurate as the test in the doctor's office, an occasional womyn responds badly to the urine tests, so a blood test has to be done. But your doctor should do one immediately. Good luck.
We have talked about it. He said he would stick around and take care of it....but people say things like that and change their tune when the situation actually happens. I know I have to tell him....but I think I want to put it off until I hear from a doctor that I'm really pregnant. I've taken 5 home tests. They've all, but one, came out really positive. I was with the doctor in person....to set up an appointment. He give me a real quick exam, as he was on a schedule, and I told him about the home pregnancy tests I've taken....that's how he was pretty sure. He told me to do the Folic Acid thing....and my mom just bought some prenatal vitamins as they have folic acid and all those other good things in them. This doctor is going to do my blood and urine tests next Wednesday. That is the earliest he could get me in. Thank ya.
If you had 4 positive pg tests, you are pregnant. It's good that you are starting the prenatal vitamins, but you think that you are already 4 months pg? Wow, I'm only 6 weeks and my boobs are already changing, they are huge and sensitive as well. I would tell your boyfriend, those home pg tests are the same as the ones that they use in the doctors offices. Good luck!!
No. I'm about 2 or 3 months along. I've decided to tell him today. It's bugging me that he doesn't know....plus if he's going to skip out I'd rather he do it when I'm not that far along as not to put too much stress on the baby.
be careful about the stress thing, miscarrage is a great risk before the 5th month, so yeah, if he does by any chance decide to go, remember to *try* to stay as relaxed as you can, even though it would be hard. good luck, though hugz
Well, I just told him. He really freaked out. He was screaming and cussing. It was over the phone because I made the mistake of saying "I have to talk to you about something important". I hung up after about a half minute of profanities. So, I don't know if he'll come over later to talk or not....right now I'm just confused. Thanks for the support, though, ladies. I appreciate it.
i'm so sorry that it didn't go that well. (((((((((((((((moon flower)))))))))))))))))))) Hopefully he'll come around. Do you live together, or with roomates or at home?
Thanks. I'm talking to him now. He's calmed down a lot. We're talking rationally. He says he's not ready to be a dad, that he's too young, but he is going to stick around and take care of it. He even apologized for screaming at me and freaking out.
Oh, moonflower. I am so sorry he is taking it so badly. Some men don't realize it is just as much their fault (not really fault, you know what I mean) as yours. It's not like you went and got pregnant all by yourself. I know you know all this........ Is it out of character for him to get out of control like that, and then apologise? If so, it may just be he's under a lot of stress. If he does this kind of thing all the time, you may actually be better off thinking about being a single mom, as making a break after bad things start happening is harder. I'm hoping it's just the stress that got to him. I don't want you to have to deal with a boy with anger issues while you are pregnant (if you do decide to stay pregnant, which is entirely your choice.) I hope he gets his act together. A man can still be a father, even if the relationship doesn't survive, I'm just worried about you, being young and all. Blessings.
{{{Hugs}}} Moon Flower...I don't know what else to say as Maggie Sugar had some very loving advice that I can't really add anything more to, but I just wanted you to know that you have my love and support. Take care, and vent anytime you need to, we're here for you!
Thank you both very much. Yes, it is out of character....I mean, we fight, but what couple doesn't. He said he was just really stressed with the news and overreacted. I'm definitely staying pregnant. I'm very against abortion for myself. It's just not an option I would consider. I'm pretty worried too....whether I'll make the right decisions, but my mother is behind me 100% so that really helps a lot. Plus, she's raised two of her own....and I know if she can't tell me what to do in a certain situation, I can always come here and ask. Thanks for the support and love, again.
Yes. I just said I was going through with the pregnancy. I'm also keeping the baby. I'm eligible for that program....WIC. Which will help a lot, plus, as I've already said, I have the support of my mother and these fine folks in here, so I can make it. It'll be tough, I'm sure, that's no reason to give the baby up.
Hey Megan. Just came across this... I wish the best for you, your baby, and your boyfriend. Guess reality has to hit people in the face sooner or later, then others live in their dreams...
IMO, that was a pretty discouraging comment. When it comes to raising children, financial security is optional. Love is not, and obviously this lady loves her baby and wants to keep it, no matter what, so MAYBE you could back off? Mull that over, eh?
First of all, my age has nothing to do with this. Secondly, plenty of unwed mothers raise babies just fine. Third, my boyfriend is fine right now. He just freaked, as did I, when he first found out. It's understandable. Never, ever did I say I am apprehensive....I am just a freaked out woman who is pregnant with her first baby....it's definitely normal for that to freak someone out. I will be using WIC because I am eligible for it....I'm not the richest person in the world and I do know that babies are expensive. There's no shame in using financial aid. Thanks. Love may not be all it takes, but I'm damn well positive it plays a big role. My parents were dirt poor when I was growing up, and I turned out just fine. You basically just said I'll be a bad mother....but, you know what? It's people like you that just make me want this that much more just to prove you wrong. Thanks, but no thanks. I said NO. You will not adopt my baby. I don't know you, and from your posts, I do not want to know you. I wouldn't trust a person like you with my chihuahua.
Oh. And, thank you Georgy-Peorgy. Yes, life slaps you in the face sometimes....that's just something we all have to expect. I appreciate your kind words. And, Ryvre, thanks for your defense.
Sorry i went off a bit, but i DO take comments like that a bit personally myself. 1. She is 19, a little young. Maybe so, but she is an adult. Women have done it even younger, myself included. 2. Unmarried. Wow, such a *rare* thing these days. right. We all know how vital a husband is for a woman's survival... 3. Boyfriend is apprehensive YEAH most new dads are. Hell, i told my husband i was prengnant with #3 about a year ago, and HE was apprehensive too! 4. She seems apprehensive. She already addressed this concern. 5. She claims she will be depending on WIC right out of the gate. Actually, just about everyone qualifies for WIC. Seriously. And it's not exactly welfare in its truest form, it's really like a food surplus program. i mean come on, the insane amount of milk they give you speaks for itself. In my opinion, the biggest reason alot of young moms don't think they can do it is because of comments like these. There's this horrible idea out there that young women with kids have made a "mistake" when, at worst, they could do just fine with some guidance (if desired) and compassion. Instead they're looked down on, and told things like "well you should have done this" or "it would have been better if you did that" Well guess what, life doesn't work that way, and you can plan and plot your family all you want to, but that doesn't guarantee you'll be a good parent. It's alot more complicated than that. Babies come when they're meant to, NOT when it's convenient. If you waited for the perfect time to have a child, few people would ever have them.
