My boyfriend thinks Im fat

The other day I was having a bit of a whinge about my weight (Im not that big, but I could probably do to shake off a few kilo) My boyfriend was like "Ahhh yeah, ya still look good babe, but I prefered you thinner."
Mo fo.

 

I'm not sure I'd be dating an asshat who said that.

 

i agree
if he dont love u enough to just love u u deserve someone who can

 

maybe he could've been a bit nicer...but at least he was being honest.

he didn't say he doesn't care about you or still find you attractive, but just that he preferred you physically when you were thinner. it's a statement of asthetic preference - some people like fat, some like thin, and everything inbetween. it sounds like *you* prefered you thinner as well! if you're complaining, then why do you get annoyed when he agrees - or were you hoping he'd disagree and reassure you? sometimes some people need things spellt out - if he's the honest, blunt type then perhaps you needed to say "i'm feeling bad about myself because of my weight; i need you to reassure me i'm still loved and sexy". maybe you need to have a talk to him absout senseitivity - maybe he can help you get fitter and lose weight [you could exercise together] - talk about constructive suggestions rather than just "facts" which don't help.

but i wouldn't get too het up about it. it's only a few kilos of fat - it doesn't define your whole existance. it's up to you if you want someone who is blunt and honest or someone who will lie [or at least not tell the truth] but try to make you feel better.

 

Like soaring eagle he loves everyone! but espically me!

 

hahaha wsoooooo funny i just came here to say i love ya

 

He told the truth... He doesn't like the fact that you're fat... I don't see what the problem is, don't complain about your weight to him if you don't want his honest response.

 

I always was more of an honesty type of person

if you are gonna whine about your weight, you shouldn't get mad at anyone for agreeing

also, either way he is going to be thinking it
one way he is lying to you
this way he is telling you the truth

furthermore, you agree with him

if it's somehting that is bothering both of you, maybe you could start excercising, maybe even see if he'd join you

 

dumb responce if you understood anything about how things work
many women obsess over every single pound, they gain 2 pounds and feel like its a big deal so complain about it
ignorant guys are like yea u SHOULD be thinner
which causes the women to obsess even more
its the reason why so many women are so unhealthily obsessive over theyre weight
she said she COULD lose a couple pounds
a couple pounds is nothing
an anorexic COULD lose a couple pounds.. but SHOULD they? no
its the constantly calling perfectly normal girls fat thats made this society so sick when it comes to body image acceptance

lol i hope next time your with your girl and ya ask her do u like the size of my dick she tells ya you should be bigger

only way you'll understand how inferiour and low your words make em feel

 

I honestly would not care if my girl thought my cock was small

the physical side isn't very important to me
everyone looks bad when they get old anyways =P

 

hahaha
yea i kno..just thought that was the only way hed understand

 

No one is keeping him with you, if he really didnt like how you look he would have dumped you by now lol. But anyway, you could do that to him after he said that to you.

 

ask him how he spells it? if he's spells it "phat", he's making a compliment and thinks you're really cool

 

ah, guys don't know anything about weight really. i'm like 1.71m tall and my weight is 47-49 kg i dont really know. and that's natural for me, i can eat whatever i want, and it wont change. when i started dating my bf he made sure i ate 3 times a day, and every day he took me to some really nice place and sat next to me while i was eating... because he thought i was too skinny.(his ex was twice my size and that seemed normal for him)
after 3 months he gave up, cos there was no change, i was still just as skinny and he learned to like it. we have been together for 3 years and by now he thinks i'm perfect size.

so what i'm trying to say is that boys dont really know what they are talking about, they dont always know what they want.
i think it should be illegal for guys to say anything about girls weight!

 

dump him. Not for what he thinks or perfers but because he doesn't have any tact or social graces about it. And I hope he is in perfect shape...it's funny the only guy who ever mentioned my weight when I packed it on was horribley out of shape, was a binge eater, an alchoholic and smoked packs of cigarettes a day. I am betting like my situation your guy is insecure about his own body and is transferiring it onto you.

 

how is that fair at all?
"dump him cause he was honest"
that's ridiculous
if she really wanted to go on and deny it, she shouildn't have borught it up

and it's not like he went "yeah, you are getting pretty fat"
he said it gently, he told her that he loves her no matter what too, which should matter a helluva a lot more than any of that physical bullshit

I used to think of you as proof that rational women exist =/

 

Hah me as proof that rational women exist??? That is by far the funniest thing I have heard in my lifetime!!! But thank you.

I just have sour grapes over my past experiences. I did not read that she asked his opinion, that is totally different. Women should never ask men if they look fat and men should never answer that question.

 

yeah, I know not to

you should always avoid the answer
never hinting towards either side
and try to do it in a flirtatious manner, as to distract her away from it even more

I got my game plan

 

why shouldnt men answer the question?
if a guy told me i need to lose weight, i'd agree with him.
it wouldn't upset me though...i already know my size and what size would be healthier.

 

Yeah, sometimes I think I should dump him, he has been on thin ice a bit lately, but we've been together for so long, I dont think I even know how to be single.
All you people who said I shouldnt complain if I didnt want an honest response are probably right...