Could someone give me advice about my situation. You see back when my parents found out I was gay I called my brother and told him. He was really nice to me and said that he loved me and that he was glad I came out. Anyway, he came around on New Years. But when he found out I had a boyfriend. Even though he was really nice to me he was a real jerk to Garrett. The thing is he wouldn't let Garrett be alone with me or sleep in my bedroom. He even went as far as to sleep next to me in my bed at night to make sure Garrett couldn't touch me. The only time he "gave permission" for me and Garrett to have sex was on New Years Eve. I thought after he left after New Years that it was over then. But now he's coming been coming back regularly for the past two weeks. He's been staying over on weekends and he is really mean to Garrett. He won't let Garrett touch me or go out with me. He spys on us to make sure we aren't doing anything when we are together. Garrett has been really pissed. And both of them have nearly gotten in to fights over me. It was fine when he only did it on New Years, but now that he is doing it all the time I really don't know what to do. What do you guys think?
He really loves you and doesn't want you to get hurt. Tell him honestly (as calmly as possible) that you appreciate what he is doing, but that his attitude is f***ing up things between you and your boyfriend. He should be able to understand.
or he could be attracted to your boyfriend, if he's homophobic I can't imagine him sleeping between the two of you S
Ita hard ....but , you have to remember that your brother loves you...and this might be just his way of trying to protect you. And Garrett will have to learn to deal with things , if he really loves you , because its your family , and they will always be there.
E if his brothers being a pain in the butt, he needs to be told, bad behavior can't be put up with just because its family S
just.....family ......they only do things because they are scared...and they love the family member......and yes , they can be a pain.......but , usually....with time....it gets better..and you dont want to say things that will cause a wound that will never heal. I know what it feels like to have to be a different way around family......but...they will always be there..and i have to work around them.
Just...when you tell your brother to back off.....say it gently....tell him you love him...but , you love you man too. You dont want to lose a brother...they are verry special people.
your presuming that all families love each other and have each others best interests at heart, I think its great you have that, but not everyone does. regardless even if his family is close theres some behavour that is unacceptable and needs to be made clear what i'm saying is boyfriend doesn't have to put up with a load of crap just because its coming from a family member. oh and E if my brother asked me to choose between him and a friend (not even boyfriend) the choice would be clear, friend every time S
Ok......it was just a thought......i also have refused to choose...but I was as gentle about it as I possibly could be.....no one needs more fear and anger thrown into the mix.
Hip-Hoplover, You need to be straight with your brother I have two they can be a real pain in the ass at times. Tell him that you would appreciate it if he gave Garrett the recpect that he deserves as your partner. Let him know that he is welcome to visit but he has no right to interfear with your relationship with Garrett at all. Tell him that you expect him to sleep on the couch or where ever but Garret is going to sleep where he normally does in your room no exceptions. If he loves you he will respect you and understand. It could be he is not as comfortable with you sexual prefference as he puts on. I know there is now way my family would except the fact that I am Bi with the exception of my neice and my husband and there fore it goes un mentioned. Which I find very sad. Be up front and honest he may get mad but if he loves you he will get over it. Best of luck to you.
Okay, I told him just a half an hour ago. I told him that I loved him and that even though I understood him being protective that Garrett is my boyfriend and he shouldn't interfere with our relationship. He hugged me and told me it was okay and he wouldn't interfere anymore. But from the look on his face I could tell he was pretty mad. But he didn't say anything. He went into the next room, but I knew Garrett was in there so I listened at the door. I heard what sounded like someone getting shoved up against a wall and then I heard my brother say, "You better take really good care of him. 'Cause if you hurt him, I'll hurt you!" Then Garrett came out looking really pissed. What do you guys think?
well, the only thing I can think of is most people don't like to be threatened, regardless of the intent of the threat "if you hurt my brother I'm break you in half" kinda thing. I'd make sure that Garrett knows your brother is just being overly protective and that is where he is coming from. perhaps getting both of them to sit down and LISTEN to you and explain to each what they mean to you.
So did you talk to them? Well, i can understand that your mad at your brother for being over protected, but hes just protecting you from gettin hurt. He probaly thinks (dont take this offensively) that garrett is just there for sex. Which im not saying Garrett is because he does love you especially when he only wants to be with you. Good luck and please keep us updated i love reading your post.
Sorry, I never replied. I haven't looked at this post in a while. We talked and everythings cool now. My brother still comes around but he is way more respectful of my relationship with Garrett. Don't worry I'll keep you posted.
You better be more careful on what you do with your boyfriend. Because your dad and your brother are probably raping eachother in throat... Good luck!
