The title says it all. The relationship between my sister and me is hell, the relationship between my sister and mom is hell, and the relationship between my sister and grandmother is hell. Now the relationship between my sister and dad is non existent. Basically he is 45, lives with mom, has no job, pays no bills, and a drug addict. Him and his girlfriend sponge off of my dads mom. I also live with my grandma. My mom and sister constantly have uproars so far, that my mom suggest to my sister, "Why don't you divorce me then?" I don't know if this is legal or not for a daughter to divorce mother. Anyway, me my mom and sister all have anger inside. Mom and daughter seem to relieve there's every night though. I sort of hold mine in. The relationship between them and me have gotten so bad that i moved out and now stay with my grandma. My mom has it tough, 1 full time job, 2 part time jobs, a husband that has 20+ jobs in 2 years, about to foreclose on the house, and has too many bills. My grandmother and sister do not get along because sister is a bitch. My grandmother just rather ignore her behavior and have nothing to do with her. I honestly cannot stand my sister. In my words, she is a raging psycho bitch. This is coming from the brother. This is also more than just sibling rivalry. I myself have been unemployed for the last month, and had to settle for a $7 an hour job. I am ready to pack up and move to new england where some of my other family lives. I would do this in a heart beat if i had the funds. Basically, i do not know it any one here can help, of give some sort of insight. Tonight, i walked into the house and my sister is yelling at my mom. I went and tried to stop them and my mom stormed off. I then told my sister to chill out. He started to yell at me and i left to talk to my mom. She slammed the door in my face. So i just left. i am 19, sister is 17, and mom is 43 and dad is 45.
I'll tell you what, every time I go to the house, i cant help but feel how negative everything is. I was just reading another post about hating your sister. This is how i feel. I told her that the only time i will ever see you will be at funerals and weddings.
corrupt is one way to look at it. i would also add the words diseased and dysfunctional or, just plain mega fucked-up! man, oh man, i sure as hell do pitty any psychotherapist, who tries to work with your family in group therapy! in my case my mother was a drunk as, was my grandmother. my brother and sister were both junkies. both my dad was a dry drunk as, am i (a dry drunk is someone does not get addicted but, is still fucked up none the less from growing up in that shit.) mate, the only thing i can say is you, your mother, sister and, grandmother need to be in al-anon, alateen and/or acoa. your father needs to be in AA. your in a typical alcoholic family. your not alone though, every family is alone in their own private hell.
do what i did: move far far away. i did it on $7/hr. find a couch to sleep on until you get a job and start over. i'm terrified of being totally alone, but i did it. life has been good.
