My father passed away this week

Discussion in 'All in the Family' started by sam.yeah!, Feb 25, 2010.

  1. sam.yeah!

    sam.yeah! Member

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    I went to court on tuesday for my mischef under $5000 charge, and my mom was there. ( I live with my girlfriend) She told me that my dad died of a heart attack this week and his funeral was the same day that i was at court. She didn't tell me before because she didn't want me to get too upset. Since then i've been sitting here thinking. Why didn't she just tell me? I'm so fucking pissed I don't even know what to think.
     
  2. goodvibes83

    goodvibes83 Senior Member

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    i am so sorry to hear that. good energy to you and your family...and no matter what your beliefs are, your father isn't all that far away
     
  3. rollingalong

    rollingalong Banned

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    sam...my condolences on your fathers passing

    try to remember people dont think straight when they are traumatized by something like this...cut mom some slack
     
  4. MaccaByrd

    MaccaByrd Member

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    I understand your frustration and anger but perhaps she really did have the best intentions. Even if she told you as soon as she knew, you still wouldn't have been there when it happened. I have often wondered how much time passed between my dad's death and me finding out. It's strange. But I am so very sorry. Losing a parent at your age is rough no matter what but you will learn to cope with the passing years. Peace and luck to you.
     
  5. MrDot

    MrDot Senior Member

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    sorry to hear that... ehh... she was wrong by not telling you, but at that time maybe it was best? she's just acting like the typical mother imo
     
  6. stinkfoot

    stinkfoot truth

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    I'm sorry for your loss and sorry for the manner in which you found out.
     
  7. Nyxx

    Nyxx HELLO STALKER

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    I am truly sorry for your loss. Peace be with you.
     
  8. sam.yeah!

    sam.yeah! Member

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    Thanks everyone, I really wanted to tell someone because i've been sitting here alone since I found out.
     
  9. itsallgood

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    Sorry about that dude
     
  10. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Visitor

    Yes..this is what I first thought too

    shit man...15 is too young to lose a Dad:(
     
  11. FreshDacre

    FreshDacre Senior Member

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    Yeah I know how it feels I lost my mom at 11. Fukd up shit.
     
  12. SweetEmotion

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    Damn dude, best wishes to you and your family, stay strong.
     
  13. deleted

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    i somewhat feared my dad dying while I was away. My aunt, uncle and brother all passed while I was serving the government..

    sorry for your loss..
     
  14. sea of grass

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    Deepest condolences for your loss!
     
  15. BatRachael

    BatRachael Guest

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    I get how you must be feeling, my dad died the day before my birthday while I was out with friends. When I got back home my mum didn't tell me so I just went to bed. She told me the next morning, but I was still angry she hadn't told me right away.
    Think about it from your mums point of view, chances are didn't want to overload you with everything or maybe she hadn't come to grips with it.
    Sorry for you loss.
     
  16. SageDreamer

    SageDreamer Senior Member

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    It sounds like there's no good way to handle this one. Can you imagine going to court on the day of your father's funeral? No matter what you did, you would have been an absolute mess...I know I would have been.

    I think your mother was only doing the best she could.
     
  17. Lucywu2012

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    Sorry to hear that. I hope you can take good care of youe Mama and yourself. Everything will be better tomorrow.
     
  18. hahaha04

    hahaha04 Whatevers Clever

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    I am very sorry to hear that man. :( my deepest sympathy to you and your family. If I was in your situation, I would be very upset that I hadn't been informed of what had happened. However I suppose that your mum thought it was best to not tell you until after court. From your post it seems as though you did not feel the way your mother thought you did. This is often the case with teenagers and their parents. They believe they know what their child will want but they do not really know. Or in some cases try do. She probably thought she was doing what was best. You should confront her and tell her that you did not appreciate her actions, and you should explain to her why. Hope this idea helps. Again my deepest condolences.
     
  19. yellowcab

    yellowcab Fresh baked

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    Sorry to hear of your loss, but yea cut mom some slack, very difficult time for everyone. I,m sure she had the best intentions. Best wishes to you and your family. Well I have to start checking dates, this was 5 months ago, anyway I hope everything is going well.
     
  20. Duck

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    First of all, you have my sympathy: I also lost my father at a young age, and it really sucks.

    Secondly, I think Sage Dreamer said it best:
     

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