I'll try to keep this short... Okay, so basically me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up in midseptember last year. It's been almost six months. He was my first love...I was with him since I was sixteen...I had so many firsts with him and so many memories. I was devastated. I cried everyday, could only think about the good things between us...etc. Then one night I realized how much of an ass he was: he cheated on me and then blamed it on me. And so much more, i'm just sure no one wants to read all about it. He blamed everything on me. So I cut off all contact with him and we ended on a really bad note. That sucked. I met someone new though...who I really think i'm already in love with. We've been together for about a month now. (Trust me, he's no rebound. I really fought not to like him and he let me take my time on everything). He also lets me confide in him about my ex, tell him everything. There aren't any secrets between us. So all was okay until I saw my ex a couple of days ago for the frist time in about four months. We had lunch and talked...and I got to say some of the things I needed to say. it felt like closure. I told my current guy all about it, so it's no secret. The only problem is is that now I'm starting to miss my ex again. Not necessarily want to be with him, but i do miss him deeply. He was so nice to me this time that it brought back so many memories (all good this time) and so many feelings. We just have a comfort with each other. I'm not in love with him anymore but there's a part of me that will always love him I guess I just want to know if this is okay...if it's normal. I want to know how long it's going to take before I fully get over this person. I know it's different for everyone, but how many of you have had your heart broken like that? What was it like to lose your first love and how did you move on?
First boyfriend of 5 years will talk a very long time to get over. Its very natural to miss him and be still be confused about what you want. Try to meet new people. Try this new guy out. Good luck! Hope it goes well.
when your with someone for 5 years, your memories of them wont just dissapear in a few months....it will just take time, and hopefully you can understand that...but yes it IS normal....just try to focus on the present and whats best for you...
I think you are lucky in a sense. I was never with the first and only girl i have ever loved. She had a choice between me and my sleazy friend and she chose him. But who knows. Maybe i don't know what you're going through.
No one is ever 'replaced' really. Think of it like being married twice. You're second marriage isn't really replacing your first, but you moving on. Well here's my better comparison. Best friends. I've had 3 best friends in my life, and someone asked me a question once, "Do you think best friends can be replaced?" I said "No, the best friend you had at whatever time, you'll never forget the memories about it, but you gain a new best friend." Think of that for your situation though. It's only natural.
Thanks for all the advice/comments. I just needed some reassurance. I know that practically everyone has had their heart broken, but this is my first time...and I've never known a pain like this.
thats a really sad story, but i think if you give it time you'll totally move on and be in a better place
