My friends think I'm a dyke because I've never had an actual boyfirend.

Okay, so now my friends think I'm a dyke because I have never had an actual boyfriend. Can anyone answer my question on how that possibly makes me a dyke. They talk behind my back about it all the time and they have no idea how much it pisses me off. I try to get out there to look for someone but I'm a little shallow and wont go with the ugly ones manily because they smell. But, who wants to hug a smelly kid? Then the good looking ones are only in it for sex. I'm 15 and a virgin and I don't want sex just yet.

I'm also shy I don't have a way with words or expressing my thoughts like I mean it unless I'm behind a computer screen but sometimes that doesn't even help. It's not that I'm ugly because I'm actually a pretty girl not to be conceded. Can anyone give me some advice?

 

i dont know why ur friends are calling u names, i didnt get my first bf till i was 16! if u really want to meet the right person, stay patient and wait for the right person instead of rushing off now trying to find someone. and also remember, if you dont want to get together with some jerk who only wants sex, judge personality higher than looks and im sure you'll find a real sweet guy soon

 

Your friends suck. They sound jealous. Maybe they are upset because you have standards

 

Most boys like girls like you...they just don't know it till there 28 , and then its too late.

Most girls are for most guys .... stick to the way you are and let some bloke like you for who you are... you may end up being a spinster......but i doubt it.


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Don't do anything in your life to fit into your friends standards. When you grow older you will realize their stupidity.
I didn't have my first bf till I was 20. People think I'm a lesbian. I get hit on by many chicks. It doesn't worry me though. I know that I am not so I'm not too worried about it. I live my own life and don't let others influence me. I know I am not a lesbian and don't give a shit what other people think about me.

-CB

 

You're only 15. I'm assuming most of your "friends" are of the same age, roughly. People at that age will say such things - it's just a fact of life. I'd suggest you a) not worry about it and just get on with it, b) find some better friends.

If you don't want to have sex just yet, then DON'T! you're only 15 - you've got plenty of time ahead of you, so please don't let people pressure you.

When I was that age, I made the mistake of using sex as a means of finding acceptance. Don't make the same mistake... you just end up feeling awful about yourself later on.

 

dont worry, you will find someone. it is none of your friends business though. some friends, huh? i wouldnt worry about it. i have never actually had a boyfriend that really cared about me, so i admire you for not wanting sex at your age. its just not worth it. any guy OR girl would be lucky to have you. dont worry about what your dumbass "friends" think.

 

Why is virginity such a big deal??? I mean, you're just 15...you said you didnt feel ready for it yet, so why would you "do it" if your dont want to? cos your friends will call you a "dyke"???
First of all, those people are not your friends. That's clear as water. Friends never try to put you down. Friends respect your decisions, because after all it's your life. I dont think that not having a boyfriend at your age is the end of the world. A nice boy will come to you eventually, you dont have to force it, cos you'll end up getting into stuff that could be avoided.
Probably you should try to understand that external beauty
(especially in someone like a boyfriend) is a complement to what you can find internally. I used to be a little shallow when i was younger, probably because of peer pressure. But that got me into relationships I didnt really want. Perhaps you're not ready for something like that yet. Dont pressure yourself into sex because of others...it's a decision you have to make, dont let others make decisions for you.

Good luck

 

Either that, or maybe your standards are too high? Not everyone in this world can be perfect.

Your telling me if this absolutely sweetest guy in the world who would do anything for you, never hurt you, never doa nything wrong to you, and you wouldn't take him just because he isn't the best looking? Maybe you need to get fucked over and hurt first. Then maybe you'll see things differently.

As well, ego-styled girls[people] are an extreme turnoff to me. I can't stand it. People thinking their better then other people just because of looks. lol at some point in time they get a rude awakening. Its just takes time I guess.

As for saying your only 15 and you dont want to have sex. Then dont. its no one elses discission except your own. Your friends are ass's and you need to find new ones. If they are 15 as well, then they aswell as you, and I do not understand a hella lot about life yet. Tell them to stfu

 

Is it just me or are kids starting to think about having sex way too early now.

When I was 15 the only sexual pressure I felt was to play spin the bottle at birthday parties. I didn't know one person who had sex or wanted to have sex when we were 15.

-CB

 

i would get different friends if i were you. and also dont care about what other people say or think about you your life will be alot better if you dont. when i moved here i tried to hang out with the "cool kids"but they talked about me behind my back so then i foudn other people and they are some of the coolest people ive ever met. and i didnt have sex till i was 16 which is still kinda young i think

 

I am about to be 18 on June 29, and I'm still a virgin. I remember my friends losing their virginity at like 13 & 14. I never understood why they felt the need to do it. A lot of it probably has to do with the media. You turn on the TV or open up a magazine and there it is: SEX. SEX all over the place. A lot of my friends have also came up pregnant and are mothers now. I know they all regret their choices, so please girl, do yourself a big favor and remember that true love WAITS!!! You are still so young, and you should put your life before boys. Do what YOU want, and tell your friends to fuck off if they can't respect your decision to be single. Not everyone jumps into relationships at your age.... and you know, they're just doing it to be "cool" because they think it's so cool to have a significant other. I just graduated from high school and your post made me look back to those days. If you only knew how much this wont matter in a few years. Please, don't stress yourself over this anymore. Those people aren't your true friends. Peace and Hugs!!!!

 

well, let them think that. i wouldn't let it worry me if i was in that situation.

 

Well, if your friends act like that, they're not your friends. Anyone who treats you like that doesn't deserve to be your friend. Don't let other people get you down. Find friends who support you and don't care that you've never had a boyfriend. Just because you've never been in a relationship w/a guy doesn't make you a dyke. I don't know what's wrong w/those people.

 

YOUR NOT A DYKE! im 16 never had an actual girlfriend. they tell me im gunna get head or lose my virginity soon but does that happen, NOOOOO. THey just LOVE my hair though, curly hair just like the lead singer of "the who" but dark brown, ive been told i look like Jim Morrison when i wear a black shirt. god i hate being so fucking shy. sorry, had to vent...

 

your friends suck. when the time comes to have a boyfirend, it will.

just remeber- tere is nothing wrong with being les. im bi and i am fine with it!

 

You need new friends and there's more to life then boys. What's the hurry? There isn't one.One day you'll have all the boys chasing you, you know why? because you have a great personallity, and you have standards. Do you know what these girls that are calling you names will have? KIDS, many, many KIDS!!!

 

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR ADVICE. IT HELPED. IN KNOW MY FRIENDS OPINIONS DONT MATTER BUT WHEN THEY TELL OTHER PEOPLE IM A DYKE I GET MAD. I USUSLLY DONT CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK BESIDES IN THIS CASE. THANK YOU AGAIN!