She hadn't been treating me well lately for the past couple weeks, I wasn't sure why. She finally called me Sunday night and told me she just didn't want a relationship any more, she's too young (17). She is the love of my life, my best friend, the most beautiful girl in the world, the person I go to when I have a problem, my everything. She left me. I am just crushed, I haven't eaten a meal in 4 days, I cry at random times, I can't even go to school. I am completely devastated, I was sure she was the one. Yesterday I had to see her so I asked if I could come over for a bit, and she let me. I found out the day she left me, a friend introduced me to another guy, who she started to date, she had spent the night with him THE VERY NIGHT SHE LEFT ME! She still wants to be friends, because we are each, each other's best friend but she is seeing another guy. He is 24, fat, a virgin, and not very good looking. I have no idea why she left me and now is with this guy already. We had plans to get married, we already named our children. We were moving away together to go to college. I loved that girl so much I would do anything for her. She has been so nice the me the last couple days we hung out as friends, but I am completely devastated to the extreme. She keeps touching me, and getting all feely, but then stops because she can't, she says she doesn't want to hurt this new guy. When we are hanging out as friends I feel ok, my pain goes away, but when I leave and am alone, I just break down. I break down even when I don't see her. I don't know what to do I am just so hurt, should I try to get her back or just give up and not see her? I seems like she still has feelings for me, she wants to see me, and this new guy just doesnt seem to offer anything. I am so upset and I would be the happiest man in the world to get her back. Well I guess I just had to vent. I also have been on oxycontin for the past 3 nights to help dull the pain, and even that doesn't even work. There's nothing I can do, I want her SOOO bad I cry and I am a grown man I haven't cried since 8th grade, now I am all the time. I guess I need some advice...
i was with a girl where it ended randomly like this + the weeks before she was weird. at the time i was really down for weeks, but realised she wasnt worth it. it is tough but youll realise it too. i found it way easier to get over it by not being friends and forgetting about it completly you just gotta get a grip man ps. you must be fucking hungry so get a big pizza or something
wow. sorry to hear that story. The girl is 17 though, im not sure what illusion you visioned when you got with her. At 17 you are just starting to experience pre adult hood life. you want to go out have fun, meet people, you are not ready to settle down at that age. atleast most 17yr olds are not. and if you are 40, you have had that chance, you have plenty of experience, if you love her like you say you do, let her go, again let her go...she will come back to you if it is meant, but at 17, she wants to experience new things live life and have fun. when she finds that there is no one else out there for her or treats her like you have, she will come back. i cant even say remain friends with her, because by the sounds of it, you will continue and continue to try and get back with her immediately..you just have to let her experience life.
Damn dude, just go date some other chicks. A girl like that leaving you is a good thing, its easy at a young age to get obsessed with one person, I know I remeber what it was like. You watch, the minute that she sees you dating other people and acting like you really don't care what happens with her, she will come running back. They always do. You need to be out having fun, don't let some woman drag you down. There are so many fish in the sea!!!
Okay Axcc, I understand you are hurting, but you really should eat. Not eating + pills = bad news. Please eat something and for goodness sake drink something. You're no good to anyone if you are dead. Plus, you will be less apt to emotionally heal yourself if your electrolytes and body chem are screwed up. You will just sink deeper and deeper into the pit of despair and that won't be good for anyone. You don't want to hurt this girl, right? So don't be one of those guys that goes, "See how I suffer for you? See how I pine and waste and die?" It doesn't impress us or make us want you back. It may make us feel guilty, but that doesn't mean we'll come back to you. I'm not trying to sound mean or condescending (especially since I am 20 years your junior- respect, man)- only trying to cover all the bases. I know you don't have much of a will for anything right now, but the time may come when you do if you only take care of what your body needs now. You'll love again... if not her, then someone more deserving. But keep yourself healthy or there will be no love for anyone if you know what I mean. (((((((hugz))))))))
If she hadn't been treating you well lately then you probably should have seen this coming. She fell out of love with you and the best thing you can do is 1- eat and 2- find a means of not being depressed.. find happiness being alone otherwise your emotional low will likely short-circuit number 3- start dating again. Don't discount what has already been offered for advice above too.
I know what you are going through.I have lost over 35 lbs. from this and no sleep for days and even now I don't sleep good at night. Just hang in there. With time you will heal. I know because my fiancee for 3 years. Togather for 11 years.We were getting married and agreed we DID NOT want kids. Just US. We broke up. I thought it was the end of the world. But I realized that I have alot to offer someone and if he don't see that. Then his loss. He was seeing someone from work she is 36 years old with 3 kids. I am 27 with no kids. He said he needed time to clear his mind.Because he did not know his feelings for her, but He loves me. But he told me if I date or see anyone else, that it was over with for good. Tells me he loves me , wants to marry me, live in the house we are building togather, Etc. He is crazy. I don't know what to do. I love him but this is killing me inside. I can't tell you the feeling I feel when I start thinking about it. So hang in there it will take time. We will be broke up for a month on March 4. He still calls me every morning and night and we text through the day. He needs help. If you have any for him. PLEASE HELP.
