My girlfriend won't use condoms please help

I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months, I consider myself lucky to have a great relationship and sex life (though I also believe the two go hand-in-hand). My girlfriend has a very high sex drive, through the first 3 or 4 months of the relationship we had sex an average of once or twice a day. We've both always enjoyed the sex, but recently I've been more and more concerned about a major detail of our intimate life: we hardly ever use a condom. From the very beginning of our relationship she insisted on leaving condoms out the picture. I made various feeble attempts at being more consistent with their use, but to no avail. She claims that condoms, for her, make a huge difference in terms of sensation; however, many female friends of mine have said it's not true. My girlfriend is quite experienced, so it's hard for me to disqualify her viewpoint. I always figured, perhaps selfishly, that the sensation difference in wearing a condom versus not wearing one was far more intense for guys than it is for girls. I figure if I am willing to make a small sacrifice, so should she for safety's sake. In addition to her views on sensation, she also insists that condoms are a waste of money (how can they be with risk prevention in mind!). More recently in our relationship, I have been constantly worried about pregnancy and STDs, and these worries are beginning to have negative consequences on my sexual experience. I have been concerned about not using condoms from the very beginning of our relationship, sometimes to the point where it affects how I perform sexually, but my girlfriend is never critical which gives me an excuse to hide from my worries rather than discuss them openly with her. So here are my main questions:

How can I get my girlfriend to wear a condom consistently? Does her point about sensation for her have any validity?

How do I bring up my concerns about STDs especially?

All advice is welcome and I thank anyone who gives me their input.

 

is she on the pill? the ring or patch? has an IUD? has a medical condition that means she cant get pregnant?

some women have strong reactions to the spermicide (nonoxynol9) that they use on condoms and in spermicide gels, i always used to get yeast infections from them. it was mighty shitty. my guy and i rely on the pill, no pregnancies in our year together

 

i'm in the u.s.a., are you in the u.s.a. too? if so, go to the planned parenthood in your area with your girlfriend. (if your outside the u.s.a., there are organizations like planned parenthood in all countries.) you both can get low cost professional medical counseling and medical care there about birth control options and std's. (in some cases you could qualify for free services, and free birth control.)

i hate to say this but, if your girlfriend won't seek other options for birth control... she is most likely playing a psychological game of some kind to fuck you over but good! she shows right now by her actions that she is a reckless fool who gives does not give a shit about anyone but herself. (including you!) she may not even give a shit about herself either or, she is just plain stupid by living in denial of reality. (pragency and std's.) she might be fucking around with other people behind your back. she might already have an std (or even several std's.) and have given it to you already! GO AND GET A COMPLET STD BLOOD TEST RIGHT NOW! planned parenthood can do that for you AND, GET TREATMENT FOR IT RIGHT AWAY... DON'T FUCK AROUND WITH AN STD! i know you don't want to hear what i just said and, i know it is hard to accept that there are people like that out there in the world and, your girlfriend just might be one of them. PLEASE DON'T LIVE IN DENIAL THAT THIS MIGHT JUST WELL BE THE CASE! you may very well die if you deny this just might be true!

 

If she's not allergic to latex, use a condom.

 

If she's not on the pill and you guys are not in a monogamous relationship... well then that's just stupid and incredibly irresponsible. It's your dick so wrap it up and if she has a problem with that then don't have sex with her.

 

win.

 

don't be a fool wrap the tool.

 

wrap before you pack.

 

Indeed. If she has any kind of sense she will realize that slightly less pleasure is better than none at all.

 

first thing first tell her that if she wants to continue like that both of you go to check for STDs after that start talking to her about your concerns and ask for alterntives like the pill

 

use a love glove,
saran wrap your chap
just use a rubber, it may not feel as nice, but it sure as hell feels alot nicer than giving birth, or having a nasty sti or something of the like.

 

she sounds like a selfish manipulative bitch.

 

Tell her you have herpes, then she'll be the one "convincing" you to wear a condom. You need to be able to take the mind games and turn them around three fold.