My husband suggested

I get a personal trainer ): after I said I was goimg to go to the gym a few times a week for half an hour or so to tone up where I have lost a lot of weight.
How would you react to this if a loved one said it to you?
I thik i remained relativley neutral, besides expressing my desire for not liking people I hardly know that physically close to me, especially when I am sweaty.

 

If he was paying for it, I would be like HELLZ YES!

 

Word.
If I was expressing my desire to tone up and get in shape and hubby offered that a personal trainer would help it wouldn't hurt my feelings at all. In fact , I'd pretty much agree with him.


...now, if he just out of the blue said. "you should go to the gym and get a personal trainer to help you with that junk in your trunk "
then he wouldn't be getting laid for awhile

 

I wouldn't be flattered, but having a personal trainer paid for would make up for whatever might be implied in the suggestion.

 

a personal trainer pushes you past your limitations
and helps you learn how to use the machines properly and effectively
i wouldn't take it as an insult
andy probably just ment that a trainer could help you learn how to properly work out to achieve your goals

i have a personal trainer and i fucking love it

 

You're right, maybe I should get a personal trainer. Just the personal space thing. I am really sensitive to body ordors too. What if they smell? I have had a bad experience with a smelly personal trainer?

 

i dunno.. my best advice is get a personal trainer for the first month and then go for it on your own, just so long as you can keep motivated

 

I wouldn't be offended, a PT is there for help you use your gym time effectively not to stand uncomfortably close while calling you a fat ass or something to that effect.

My $.02

 

if you are motivated you don't need a trainer for shit.


no offense to you indian autumn.

 

that's if you know how to use the equipment properly

 

Personal trainers tend to make unmotivated fat people less fat and slightly more motivated.

 

some things to consider lyns...

1. your (or andy's) money, your time
2 . assessments - if the trainer does not do any sort of assessment of how you move (sit, stand, exercise) - get out quick
3. gives a cookie cutter routine - get out quick
4. if they give little to no feedback on how you execute the exercise - if they are not giving you cues to ingrain the technique - get out quick

i would ask to shadow the trainer as they train another person to see if they are a good match for you. this way you can get an idea of how they train, what they know, how a client responds, etc...

 

It's our money, since we're married and all .
Thanks for the advice. I am going to consider getting one. I don't know. The personal space thing is still a big issue. Plus, I hate beign told what to do, as you know.

 

The problem is, I lost a lot of weight in a short amount of time and it's made me very flabby.
I am just thinking 30 minutes every other day at the gym-15 minutes of cardio and 15 minutes of weights. I'll also have to walk the dogs everyday since our yard will be smaller.
A personal trainer just seems like such a big commitment. i don;t like commitments.

 

I don't care.

 

Then why reply in all of my threads...you obviously care very much. I do not post in your threads, because I truly do not give a shit.

 

Just commenting on fat people and personal trainers.

Didn't even really read your original post.

 

i would appreciate the fact that they noticed where i could possibly use some improvement to look and feel healthier, especially since a suggestion was given not just a "you have saggy extra skin - go fix". Seems like the other person cares. If he didnt, then he would go elsewhere for some one on one loving

 

I think that is a large point of the point- someone else to make sure you stay on point and committed , and actually put in the work to get what you want

 

He's awesome. i know he just cares and he would never cheat on me. I still hate the idea of a personal trainer though and I hate having to be somewhere at a certain time. I like everythign 100 percent on my terms. It makes life difficult at times.
I wanted to just do a little bit at the gym, start easy and then take pole dancing classes later on while he's deployed.
I stayed neutral and of course didn;t get upset over somethign this small. But, I feel like sometimes I have my own way of doing things. i know what is stickable for me. I know how much of a flake I can be if I commit to somethign that makes me uncomftrable.