my man wont go down on me!

have a major problem
my man refuses to go down on me!
well he will but only for a few minutes at a time
this itself isnt a problem, i respect the fact that he doesnt want to do it and that he doesnt enjoy it

the prolem is that i cant stop thinking about it!!!

he will sometimes go down ther and give it a couple of licks but thats it and it just leaves me wanting it even more

he knows how much i want it which is why he does those couple of licks, but he just wont do it for longer than that and all i want is for him to make me come

shld i tell him to stop the teasing?

Kxxx

 

no, you should come to me.


i mean, everyone likes something different....but jesus....i like a lot of kinky stuff, and like to be in control and everything....but as much as i like being dominant and being pleased and all, there is almost nothing that i like more than going down on a girl, and the most turned on i've ever been in my life was the time (sadly, the only time) that a girl kneeled over me while i was lying down, grabbed me by the hair and pulled me up to her, making me eat her out, grinding herself into me and barely even giving me the time to get a breath of air....

the female form is a beautiful thing, and the genitals are no exception....if someone cares about their sexual partner, they want to please them as much as they want to be pleased...for me, going down on a woman is every bit as enjoyable, sometimes moreso, than being pleased myself. not to mention that in my experience the taste and aroma is, contrary to what people joke about, quite wonderful!

but maybe some guys dont feel the same way. maybe some guys get grossed out by pussy? the idea seems so foreign to me....

theres the chance that he doesnt like it. a strong chance, given what you said...but maybe not all hope is lost....

sex is an important part of a relationship, and if you aren't being satisfied you might want to consider ending the relationship. if it gets bad enough, that is.

first try enticing him. perhaps he doesn't like the way you groom yourself and is too polite to say, or perhaps he needs an incentive. if you're shaved, maybe try growing out your pubic hair a bit and keeping it nicely trimmed instead of shaved, or if you trim perhaps try shaving instead...a tiny amount of really nice perfume just below the navel may get him excited as well...also make sure you ALWAYS wash thoroughly and eat well.

there is usually something one partner wants that the other doesnt....oral sex, anal sex, role playing, whatever. is there something he wants that you aren't as keen on? if so, you might consider giving him a little more in exchange for oral sex...for instance, tell him if he goes down on you well enough and long enough to make you cum, you might be willing to do something for him that you haven't up til now. this could be anything from giving him head, deepthroating him, giving him anal, letting him tie you up, playing dress up, whatever it is that you aren't into as much as he would like (but that you're willing to do!)

a last resort, and only if you REALLY want this, would be to deny him something you're already giving him until he gives in to your wishes. he wont give you head? dont give him any! of course this type of thing could make things turn even worse depending on the situation. like i said, its a last resort.

he may also just not have the stamina for it. going down on a woman can actually be very tiring. the muscles used are not muscles that are used extensively in most day-to-day activities, and a guy not used to giving oral sex to a girl may easily get tired or sore in a matter of minutes. considering that women generally take longer to get off than most guys, the discomfort can be significant. things like practicing licking the palm of the hand when alone for extended periods of time can help the guy be more comfortable in the situation.

if he just wont satisfy you this way and refuses to budge, then i'd tell him to stop teasing you. if worse comes to worse maybe its time to look for someone new....

i've read that a meager 30% of women are able to orgasm simply from intercourse alone. if you're one of the lucky 30%, then you're not in too bad a situation. if you're not, hopefully he at least will get you off manually or with sex toys or something. but if he simply won't satisfy your needs or desires at all, and expects his to be met, then you definitely are being used and ought to consider alternatives to being with him....


hope i was at least a little bit helpful.

but still. damn. never met a straight guy who didnt adore pussy....

 

*shrugs* some people just don't like oral sex, giving or receiving or both, depending on the individual. Sexual compatibility is awfully important to me so I don't think I could date someone who wasn't willing to go down on me (nor could I date someone who wasn't willing to at least occasionally play dominant)

At least you know this now, rather than 10 years into marriage hey? You can't force people to change (and I REALLY don't recommend denying him intercourse as a means to force him to go down on you... I mean, do you want someones face in your genitals who doesn't want to be there?), if he doesn't like it then he doesn't like it. Either you're patient and understanding and self-sacrificing and can deal with, or you break it off.

 

I'll give it and love doing it.

Eating pussy is one of my top 3 favorite activities.

 

ok lets see,

there is nothing i havent done for him he wants.. im a bit of a kinky bitch tbh

he loves the way i 'groom myself' in fact he asked me to have it this way

i am NOT denying him bjs i love them too much

i am DEFINATELY not denying him sex

i am one of the lucky 30%

bu there is no way in hell i will break it off... everything else is the best i've evr had! plus how can i leave the guy who took my anal virginity lol

any more suggestions? or am i gonna just have to accept that im not gonna get this?

 

damn, What a fool. If that is you in the pic above this post then Your freaking Hot, Love sex obviously, love giving head, and love getting it.

If it was me and you then we would never leave the house. Thats for sure.

 

It also ranks among my top 3 favorite things to do......maybe you just need to talk to him....tell him how you honestly feel.....I dont see what the problem could be myself...I would be on it in a heartbeat.

 

I really think you should tell him what you feel like erzebet said...keep it up ... c ya around

 

tell him that u want tht and if he doesnt give it den u have no other option but go to somebody else for it

 

im not going to somebody else 4 it! i love my man!!!!!

and yes that is me

 

You should just tell him straight out that this is what you want. It's obviously bothering you, which is going to put a strain on the relationship one way or another. If he loves you, he wouldn't deny you pleasure. What ever his problem is, it's probably 99% mental.

You should just have a straight up conversation with him to discover what the root of his refusal (Fear, disgust, etc). Knowing exactly what the problem is, is the first step to solving it.

And in my opinion, if you've done anal with him, and he won't even eat your pussy til you cum, you are one generous woman. Gift is in the giving i guess.

 

You need to talk to him about it. Maybe he thinks he's bad at it or isn't experienced. If you can make him understand how much you love it and he, er, hears and feels how much you enjoy it he might get a confidence boost and feel really great about pleasing you. I agree with Zanarkand - it's probably 99% mental.

 

So he gets everything he wants, you groom the way he wants, you suck him off, and you gave him your ass (do you like anal btw, or is it something you do just because he likes it?). He won't go down on you... there is something very wrong with that. You are giving everything and can't get that one thing. Have you asked him what the problem is? Maybe he doesn't like the scent or taste--no I am not even suggesting anything about you personally, just some guys don't like it the same way some girls don't like the taste of a mans cum, no matter who the man is. If it is that there are flavored/scented lubes that he might like. If that isn't it then I don't know what to tell you because that is really the only reason not to do it.

I am going to have to echo some of the folks above and say that if you were my gf, there is NO WAY I would not do anything you wanted when you are putting so much of yourself out there for him. Besides, you really are very hot

 

You are very hot, I can't imagine why he wouldn't do that small favor for you. You should just point blank ask him if there is a problem with pleasing you. Like most of the other posters I love doing that for a lady.

Good luck....

 

Ask yourself this question, dear girl: "Do I want to remain this frustrated and anxious for the next-----years/rest of my life?" He ain't gonna change, things are gonna get worse, he's gonna get more 'n more selfish, and this is a big deal! Sorry, but all else is not perfect. Never will be. Sex is a part of love, as is desire. So is his respect of you!!

 

dont be silly the anal is for me!!!! hehe

well since i last posted we have talked about it and it turnsa out he really detests the taste, hes tried it witrh a few girls and hated it. the reason he does it for a little while then stops is that he really doesnt like it.

poor baby lol

 

Awww, well there are a lot of different flavored lubes out there. Try ordering a sample pack and give it a go. That might make all the difference for him.

 

Just letting everybody now we found a solution!! i bought him choc body paint 4 valentine's which is apparantly very tatsy!
so we spread it between my legs and well .... u can guess the rest!

 

you got that right libertine.. i have been told by several women that's the ONE thing i do very well (i don't mean to brag,but it's a fact)i am a very good pussy-eater ..btw kaden, if that really is your pic there,you come to the bluegrass,and i'll show you what a good likkin is all about.