my mom is losing her foot...

...to diabetes. the whole lower leg, below the knee, actually. she's been suffering a long time & doesn't take care of herself. she's probably going to die soon.

and when she dies, no one will be able to grieve or mourn because will all be busy keeping my crazy, selfish dad held together.

i'm not very close to my parents. i hate to see this happening to mom, but there's a lot of unresolved hurt and resentment. my brother disowned me, and i will probably somehow be blamed for mom's declining health. my father will problaly go into one of his religious frenzies and accuse me of bringing this down upon them by leaving christianity, or worse, intentionally "cursing" them.

my children will probably get the worst of this, especially my son who is emotionally fragile and old enough to remember.

i wish i could just run away...

 

The best help I can give you is to tell you to just run away.

 

gee, thanks for the advice, bird. you're such a ever-flowing fountain of wisdom & compassion.

believe me, if i didn't have kids, i would have left long ago.

 

You are most welcome, I do my best to help.
First of all, I want to wish you all the strength you need and second of all I think you should just take the kids when you run away.
It may come in handy to have a food supply.

 

thanks for the thought, but shakti's barely a mouthful, damien's too stringy, and anyway, i'm vegetarian.

 

I have a friend that died from diabetes....but not after he went completely blind, had a whole shitload of organ transplants, lost a leg, and then lost the other one five years later. It was really awful. I hope everything works out for you as well as it can, though.


Beautiful display of sensitivity, bird....

 

it's not his fault. there's no way he could have known i was vegetarian.

 

Even vegetarians will eat meat when they are really hungry.
Believe me, I tested that.

 

im so sorry to hear that kitty
my cousin has diabetes and she does not take care of herself at all....im so worried about her but no matter what we say she doesnt change

and do i ever wish i could run away also, but ive got no one to run to and no money

 

in the frame of mind i have been in as of late, i am opting to not go there.

i know you're trying, bird. thanks for the almost-laugh.

 

Were you on Survivor, bird!?? I knew you looked familiar....unless you were one of my one night stands....actually....they were more like 5 hour stands...anyway... I'm in love with you. Let's get married, and so on...



Why doesn't your mom take care of herself? I know it's hard, but it's worth it.

 

You are almost welcome.

 

Bird is just a cold-hearted fool. Ignore him.

I hope everything works out all right with your mom, Liz.

 

Probably not.

Possibly, although I do not do much 5 hour stands lately.

w00t!

 

i can never get my "stands" to last 5 hours. not even as a really hungry vegetarian.

i think she's just given up. she just sits in her chair & watches TV. my father's in charge of taking care of her. he never lets her out to socialize, not that she would, anyway. and he's positively killing her with her diet. she's also a renal patient, so her diet is really important. he ignores the doctors, calls me for nutritional advice, and ignores that. he thinks if he allows whole grains into the house he'll suddenly get irresistible urges to start voting green, wearing birkenstocks & doing yoga. he gives her half a day-old, glazed, white-flour donut for breakfast. that's it. he gives her chocolate milk and orange juice. he tells himself that the list of foods to avoid that the dietitian gave him is just "guidelines" and he doesn't have to pay attention to it. he just doesn't want to be bothered changing their habits.

 

i kind of think of him as the hipforums virtual village idiot.

thanks matt. i appreciate your concern.

 

hehe...the virtual village idiot... I love it. We should make you a t-shirt and a crown, bird!

 

thats a bloody shame my dear,
i knew a guy in his forties who had diabetes. he died 2 years ago, i remember my mom and dad used to be in this group called "The Good Medicine Society" and this dude went on a vision quest and didnt last 1 day without his insulin shot. my mom was on peyote and she saw a skull on the dudes face. she was so scared he was gonna die but he recovered. i can totally identify with the situation and i feel for you.

 

he went on a vision quest??? without his insulin??? WTF???

well, that was pretty fucking stupid.