Need an NSA arrangement, but I never get out of the house.

I know there's very little real advice anyone can give me, but I have sexual frustration and I want to vent. Please feel free to pick at my psychology or whatever response you are moved to make.

So... I *just* ended a 10 and a half year long relationship early this year. I had been with him since I was 19. It was a messy, codependent relationship. We had spent the entire time growing apart. But he doesn't want to be alone and I liked having a good-looking guy at home that always found me attractive.

If I hadn't gotten pregnant, god only knows how long this would have gone on for. Probably another decade. But it did end.

So now my baby's almost 2 months old and I've spent most of those 2 months in the house / bedroom with him. I am totally sexually frustrated, like pre-occupied. I keep my mind on other things, but it doesn't help much.

So like I really really don't want to date or anything. I don't even know what that would look like at this point. But after being with this guy for so long, I don't think it would be healthy for me to just into getting emotionally involved with someone else. And I don't even think I am capable of it right now, like I don't think I *can* have romantic feelings toward a person right now.

But I *do* wanna get some.

I guess this is a normal part of being newly single. I'm so spoiled, I've had someone in my bed for all of my adult life.

It's so dang impossible if I don't ever even get out.

 

Online or the pizza delivery boy, UPS guy.... Mailman.

 

Haha! I need to start eating more pizza.

 

Or getting more things... Pun intended... delivered.

 

Masturbation. We do it for a reason. I mean hell, we do it for MANY reasons. You already do probably..or, most likely. So, just keep doing it.

Sorry to hear about the break up, though. Well, maybe you aren't as sorry as I am right now, lol. I just wish you and your kid all the best from here and onward.

 

Lol why can't I live next door to a hot chick when she is going through something like this? I don't know what to tell ya? It is probably easier than you think to get a guy in your bed, by your pics you are attractive, if you know any male friends call them and tell them what you just wrote here. I would be on that like white on rice. Anyway you should probably reach out to some lucky dude and tell him to come and get it.

 

i can imaging its quite hard right now,10and a half years is a long time,but you cannot change things straight away

 

don't worry, the NSA will come to you...

 

Do you have Skype?

 

i know t sounds silly but forget the sex , fair enough there isnt any intimacy with anyone but what is sex?

 

I don't know that I understand the question. What is sex without intimacy? I mean some level of intimacy is inherent, you are naked. To me that's intimate, vulnerable and exposed.

I'm not just horny though. I'm bored and a little stressed and anxious. I've spent 2 months holed up with a needy baby. I want to exhaust myself and blow of some steam. I want to sweat *on to* a person.

Skype is not the answer.

 

I was just joking about the Skype thing.

 

can you not let youre ex look after youre baby so you can go out and let off some steam?

 

My ex left the state because he had no job / money / place to stay.

I hired a sitter and went out for a few hours Saturday night. Came home alone...

I know I just need to chill out. Get out of the house from time to time and eventually I'll meet a person I can convince to come over once in a while... I just need to be patient.

 

Also, I'm a little too picky to be as desperate as I am.

 

whats so wrong with coming home alone?,the only people you will probably meet if you go out with that attitude will use you for one thing

 

well, that seems to be more or less what she wants

 

yes but deep down is it?

 

there's usually plenty of guys out there who are down w/ nsa sex

it's just a matter of finding some that are sufficiently attractive and not evil/dangerous/ otherwise unappealing

I'm sure there are on-line sources where you could set something up and have a chance to look over photos and personal information

you just have to be careful to avoid a total asshole or somebody dangerous

 

I'm all for folks making close emotional connections. I also think it may be impossible to have a sexual relationship without it having some consequences for one's emotional well being

however, it's not really anyone's place to dictate to someone else what kind of relationship they should have