Never going on birth control again!

I'm 22 years old, and I haven't been on the pill for about a year. I don't think I'm ever going on it, or bc patches, or any type of hormone-based bc method again, even if I end in a serious relationship with the same sexual partner regularly and for a long period of time. I will then get one of the new, apparently safe IUD's. Now I know those kinda are like a mini-abortion, that they pierce eggs... but... it's as safe as the bc pill or patch or ring... even safer since you don't forget to take or put on those... but they DON'T put any HORMONES in your body.

I don't wanna get breast cancer, or uterus cancer or who-knows-what cancer because of hormones, and I don't wanna gain weight, even if it's a few pounds, because of hormones, and I don't wanna lessen my chances of having a baby, if I should wanna try and have one, when the time comes, because I have been on the pill for so long (I started age 16, non-stop til age 21, it's TOO long)

I don't want kids any time soon, and I don't even know if I'll want kids any time later... I don't care, it's in the future, I don't wanna know or make any plans. But still, I'd rather not put anymore hormones into my body... just in case, and even just for the other side effects... true the pill helped me have normal periods, regularly, and I put on some weight which was good cause I'm underweight (5'5'' and 100 lbs, should be 120 at least, on the pill, I went up to 116 lbs), but... I just can't.

So IUD it'll be, if need be... cause condoms are okay when it's sex once in while, but all the time, regularly, I can't stand them, and I know men don't really like them either, so we'll just do a blood test, trust each other, and be done... if I should have a regular sexual partner again.

What's your opinion on IUD's?

 

I have not had one personally but a friend of mine has one. She said it hurt like hell for the first day or so, but another friend said it did not hurt at all. So far neither has got pregnant but the periods are back to being unpredictable again. Also I know you do not like condoms but they are important regardless because people can carry things that do not always show up on blood tests as HIV or Hepatitis C would. You have to watch out for Herpes; HPV that people can be the carriers of but not have the symptoms like warts and such.
So IUDs are ok I guess but still the condom is essential.
Hope this helps a little.

 

yes thanks, in fact, std's REALLY worry me and I know guys (and girls) who have them and don't tell you shit. that's just wrong. I never got anything serious but I got mono, obviously from kissing, and I suspect my ex Ty but I recently found out it could have been in my system for a while before him so maybe it's another ex or some guy I hooked-up with?... and I constantly get myself checked for Hepatitis (although I got the shot for Hepatitis B at 12) and AIDS of course... Herpes really worries me too but usually that's recognizable by sight, right? you can easily tell if a guy or a girl has herpes, right? I always have condoms with me, cause you can't count on guys for that, I've found out... but seriously, I don't like them, and they don't like them either... I know that... that's what sucks when having sex irregularly with different partners, diseases, and... the sex doesn't get any better.

 

In my sex ed class in high school I think I remember hearing IUDs have killed a few people... or they hadn't been able to get them out or something... if its even true (cuz who knows, it was high school), then its probably really rare. But I would look up stuff on it before deciding to do it, and yeah you should have your partner tested fully before having sex without a condom. But yeah it sounds like it might be a good idea

 

I dont know about IUD's. But I do know t hat BC pills are evil. I've never taken them before, until very recently and it just feels like you are doing something into your body that you are not supposed to be doing. I hated it.

 

My friend IUD fell out.... not too good...

 

well I heard that the new ones, not to cooper ones are really safe.. they're made out of some plastic that ins't dangerous for your body unlike cooper that rots.. or something..

 

Hers was a new style one and she liked it but it fell out. I don't know if she found out what happened but if your body doesn't like something it will reject it.

 

Have you tried fertility Awareness, Penny? Just tracking your body temperature upon waking (before leaving your bed), and your cervical mucous tells you everything you need to know about how fertile you are at any given moment. That should help on the not-getting-preganant end. Lots of books on it.

Condoms, otherwise?

 

hmm the temperature method scares me a little, I don't trust it that much.. and condoms, I hate them, but use them.. I mean unless I have a long-term boyfriend who I have sex with every day, kinda have to, cause we're not getting blood tests and I pretty much have been in open relationships only in the past year (the only real boyfriends I had, didn't last long enough, and wasn't serious enough to give up on condoms)

 

I won't have sex unless there's at least 2 forms of birth control going on (pill for me, condom and/or pull out for him) and I really like the pill. I might get an IUD when I go abroad just for the sake of not having to worry about getting the pill in Mexico and Bolivia. The pill and I are buddies though- doesn't bother me at all *shrug*

 

Hate pills… Love condoms…

Things might change when I marry someday…

 

I don't think IUD's have been perfected yet. If they come out with a VERY VERY safe one where there is no possibility of it falling out, I will definitely go on it.

 

FYI, the IUD does NOT cause a mini-abortion. It doesn't pierce the egg in any way. It makes the cervical mucus thicker so the sperm can't get to the egg, it helps the women not to ovulate (like the pill) and it makes the uterus inhospitable to the egg so it can't implant even if the woman does ovulate and the sperm happens to get to the egg.


I have a Mirena IUD. It's the plastic kind with hormones. I chose the hormonal kind rather than the copper kind because I have polycystic ovary syndrome and the hormones can help control the symptoms. I wanted to get off the pill because I had a lowered sex drive and some depression because of it.

The kind of IUD that caused problems and led to some deaths was the Dalkon Shield, which was taken off the market in 1974 because it was associated with septic abortions (miscarriages that cause really bad infections). The modern types of IUDs are shaped differently and do not carry this risk.

 

fertility awareness isn't the best method for someone who definitely does not want to get pregnant... it's far too risky. Plus, who wants to stop having sex just because you're ovulating?

Also, I believe IUDs contain hormones as well.

 

The Mirena IUD contains hormones. The copper one doesn't.

 

all this is really good to know, see I thought the copper ones caused death and the other kind didn't have hormones in it... well I have a gyno appointment in a week I'll talk about it with her then I guess

 

really? now I'm starting to realize I started feeling better in my head and getting a much stronger sex-drive when I got off the pill... I thought it might be associated with my coma last summer and emotional shocks or just... I dunno... age... time... whatever but this is interesting, maybe the pill made me depressed, anxious, and not myself most of the time

1 more reason to hate it, it did so much harm in my life

besides, I got pregnant while being on it, had a miscarriage, but still...

 

hippy freek, or anyone else who has used fertility awareness, can you point me to some good websites to learn more about it?
ive been on the pill before and im never going on hormonal birth control again. and i hate condoms. baloon sex is seriously sub-par.
i havnt had sex for the better part of a year and i dont have sex randomly or with just anyone, i sorta feel like i just wont do it till im ready to have kids.... theres been a shortage of men in my life who arnt total douchebags. but id like to try charting. it would be nice to know when im fertile as a way to be in touch with my body.

 

NOT TRUE. Herpes and HPV CAN be spread even when the person is not having an outbreak. The virus is always there, even when the sores are not. And there's no vaccine for Hep C.

NO method of bc is 100% effective, and ALL of them carry risks. If the pill did not work out for you, fine. But for other women, it's no big deal. Just so you know, the IUD does not "pierce" the egg, as the other poster said. And even if it did, it wouldn't be a "mini-abortion" unless the egg was already fertilized.

IUDs increase your chances of having an ectopic pregnancy, and can increase menstrual cramps. Everyone who is sexually active needs to decide what type of risk they are willing to take, because, like everything in life, there are risks involved. Hopefully, it'll work out for you.