New here! Can someone point me in the right direction?

Hi. I just joined today. 31, 2 kids, married. We've been together 13 years, married 10 years. I've always had a sexual deviance about me, from as young as 7. I'm a religious person, I have a ton of will power and respect for myself and my family. Everyday I fight against my flesh to fit in those shoes. I love my husband and would never cheat on him, but I desperately need more from our sex life. Meanwhile, he's perfectly fine and satisfied with it. I've tried very passively in the past to bring up things like BDSM, sex dolls, etc., and even that elicits an "ehh" response from him. I don't think he's taking me seriously. He doesn't know how bad I need this. I don't even know where to start with it all.

 

firstly welcome, you are not alone in your frustrations and this is a good site to explore your kinks in a safe manner. I wish you well and hope you find some relief.

 

Thank you

 

Welcome to HF, I’m sure you’ll find plenty of like minded friends here.

 

Welcome!!!!!!!!

 

Thank you. I hope so

 

You are not the only one who has some kind sex doll desires, so, the only way to achieve them need to talk directly with your husband. Please do not hesitate to pm me to talk more in detail,

 

Thank you. I'm going to set aside a time to talk with him about things, and be serious about it. No giggling, no joking. I'll be back for an update as soon as that happens. Sometimes I'm afraid to ask for certain things, out of fear that he'll actually entertain it (which most likely won't happen). I have something in me that I'm not sure I want to feed tooooo much

 

It sounds like you are on the right track

 

Speak openly with him about your need for more. If nothing happens get a fwb even if it’s never an in person meeting. He can turn you on and fulfill your sexual needs

 

Talking always is better than to be silence, even if there is no agreement. At the beginning , his reaction could be negative , but by passing time and repeating the same requestion , finally, in some points he starts thinking or even he will like to try it. Many guys no matter men or women are interest in a new sex games, so , many times your partner is shy to talk about his desire, and waits you start talking about it.
The bottom like, just start talking in a good and suitable situation like when you are intimating. So, I am sure you will come to a good conclusion.

 

Thank you PGA

 

Thank you. I would definitely like to stay faithful and monogamous in my marriage.

 

Welcome!

 

Welcome.
I'd suggest as a starting point considering a priori that the creative life force of the universe is sex positive, otherwise it wouldn't be the sole means of procreation among all the higher life forms on the planet. Among the majority of creatures on this planet, sex is experienced as a biological imperative. Among humans, sex can also be intensely pleasurable. It would be irreconcilably inconsistent with the concept of a just and loving God to create such an exquisite and compelling need and then condemn humanity for trying to fulfill it.

By the way, "Tried very passively" may be an oxymoron. As Yoda once said; "Do, or do not. There is no try."
We ourselves bear primary responsibility for getting our needs met.
I wish for you the clarity to know what those needs are, the integrity to be true to yourself, and the courage to advocate forcefully on your own behalf.

 

Thank you Piobaire, I agree. I'm definitely going to take more initiative. I can't put this all on him if I'm not taking it seriously either. Love the Yoda quote

 

Hello and welcome. Most likely you will find help and answers here, lots of interesting people who like to share there experiences and advice. Enjoy the site.

 

Hola

 

Hi!

 

Compulsive Cheating Disorder. My father in law was one and had a great grandfather that was one and actually my own wife also and it seems to be about everywhere. Extremely Obsessed with sex at times and just can't get enough. Nempomaniac of both sexes, extremely horny and fantasize at times. Not looking for a replacement and usually quick to satisfy and different one every time and usually never become attached. They want to, they enjoy it and it has the control over them. They can resist for a while but sooner or later they will trigger. This is Not someone looking for a replacement or "Affair". They can be a near perfect as husband or wife otherwise. "The sins of the father shall visit the children". So it can in part be a mental tendency becoming habitual. it happens folks...