I have the most perfect person in my life right now and I should be happier than I am. I have what I've always wanted, what I've always searched for and yet I still have doubt. Doubt clouds my thoughts as I force myself to forget about the past and focus on the present and the future. Our future together even brings me doubts. I woke up one morning and realized that he was the person I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. I still wake up every morning knowing that this is the person I want to always be with. What makes me so sure that I won't wake up one morning and realize that I don't love him anymore. After all the legal bindings, the family bindings, emotional bindings, so on and so forth, what if we decide the spark is gone? What if we just can't make it? I realize that we have the most perfect relationship ever. We communicate, we love, want, and need each other, we're best friends. We hardly ever fight and if we do it lasts for 2 seconds. We compliment each other. Out of every couple I know, we are the best. Normal thoughts I guess, when I'm about to make the biggest decision of my life. A decision that not only effects me, it effects him, my family, his family, and our family to be. Huge decision when I think of it this way. Out of everyone in the whole world is it logical to think you've met your soul mate? Maybe a million kinred souls, but your soul mate? I believe I have found mine. We're soul mates, but only because we both believe it. I'm scared I guess, does anyone have any advice?
To be totally honest, the idea of a soul mate kinda "scares" me too. I'm not really sure if I believe that just one person can be the "only" one, but the thought of only being with one person for a long amount of time is kinda scary. But, if you feel that it is right, go for it. I'm not saying it's not possible to have a soul mate...cause I do believe you can feel that someone is totally right. I feel the way about the girl I'm dating right now...but sometimes thinking/talking about the future scares me just a little. I hope I helped somehow, Cody
I thought I had found my soul mate. I was wrong. Oh well, such is life. Another lesson learned. I don't mean to suggest that you haven't found yours. You very well may, but there are no guarantees in life. You have to take risks. It's good, though. Being aware of the risks and pressing forward anyway is what it's all about. Best of luck!
you can't predict the future you can only live in the here and now. if you two are honest, communicating, and all that then enjoy what you have and believe in your heart and his heart. i don't know about the whole soulmate thing but i do know if you constantly worry and believe that something will go wrong, then something WILL go wrong. life follows what we believe. i wish you luck and lots of happiness, it sounds like you have something really great going!
Well, first, I think you need to sorta calm down. You're 20 years old, and yet here you are saying that you're about to make the biggest decision of your life? Marriage? Has he proposed? Why can't you just relax and enjoy what you two have without having to get all legal with it? Sigh...I just don't understand why people have to bring legality into the picture all the time. Isn't the love enough? It sounds like you have an amazing relationship...one that many people would kill for. I'm in such a relationship right now, too, and it feels great...but at the same time...I'm not worrying about the future. You have something wonderful in the here and now...enjoy it. Who knows where you'll be tomorrow or in a year from now? All you know is how you feel now, and you shouldn't be clouding your mind with meaningless, unnecessary worry and doubt. I don't think I believe in one soul mate for every person. I believe there are people out there who are your soul mates...who you have a deep connection with...but one you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with? I just don't know. I believe my boyfriend and I are soul mates...but then again, I also think my father and I are soulmates. It all boils down to how you two feel. If you feel you want to and are meant to be together forever, then be together. But please, stop causing yourself unnecessary stress. Life is too short. Enjoy the love you have. It sounds beautiful.
Thanks to everyone who responded. I was just having a bad day, know how that goes? I need to just relax in the moment I guess. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I know we both feel the same. The reason marriage is an issue, b/c I know it doesn't change a thing, is b/c I know how my family is. They consider us to be living in sin and I was raised in a traditional family so it holds some importance to me. My family is important to me. We have a rich, deep, connection. Marriage is actually important to me also. It's a celebration of a couple's love for one another and a commitment for life. A commitment saying that no matter what I will be here for you and I will try my hardest to keep our relationship alive, happy, and healthy. It means a lot to make a commitment like that in front of your whole family and all of your closest friends. Some may disagree with me and that's okay. I see where you are coming from. But everyone has their own values in life and this happens to be one of mine.
Hey there... I wasn't dissing any of your values. I hold love and commitment in high esteem as well. I guess I just have a different view on marriage. But that's cool that you want to do that. It's all up to you and what is important to you. And I understand that you have a traditional family and certain things are important to them. I guess when I think of commitment, I believe that two people can have that without legality. But still, I understand where you're coming from, and I respect that. Anyway, just relax, enjoy what you have, and good luck on your relationship and in life...
I know you weren't trying to dis my values. Thanks so much for responding and adding your opinions. I like to think I try look at every side of an issue which I know you are doing also.
