Now the time to Conclude- Morale of the stories

Friends,

So far, I put forth four actual incidences from the real life.

The first- supermarket girl, gave me a message to mind my own business and not run after women.

The second- She ran her own bakery, after hubby's paralysis, took charge of all affairs and managed in better way.

The third- in a playful and teasing way, made me smile and changed my mood.

The fourth- in her innovative way, tried to ensure peace and harmony in her own life, by making her hubby marry her own friends, rather than some new unknown women.

Morale---

The reality, the facts, are bare in front of us. Its our choice to interprete them. It depends a lot upon our way of thinking.

My observation is - normally, we are in a hurry to put lables and conclude, rather than thinking in depth.

 

Humans have a tendency to stereotype and to see what they are prepared to see. Our brains conserves processing power by grouping and predicting. The lack of clutter allows us to focus on the important task such as survival. Bias and gender stereotyping are some of the consequences of these natural tendencies. Men and women who are aware, labour against these falicies. Those who are incapable of seeing the big picture, don't..

 

not really. by the time i got to most of those threads, your posts had been edited to just a period.

 

I dont get it. And i like to think im smarter than your average bear. but what exactly are you gettin at besides pointing out your opinion of human instincts?

 

it was fun- watching the interpretations and reactions from people around here- Some were unique and some with "pre-conceived openion" but mostly- Negative

 

Yeah, you've deleted your content, therefore one can only guess what it was. I understand editing, because sometimes we read and realize our text is a mess, full of grammar mistakes. But deleting everything sends a different message.

Anyway, you give/gave four stories involving women. What would four stories teach you about women? Nothing. Four stories about men wouldn't make me form an opinion about the whole male population.

I think it's always better to try to understand ourselves better and take responsibility for what happens to us, instead of adopting the paranoia that there is a plot of the members of the opposite sex to treat all of us (men, or women) in a certain way. If women always react in a certain way towards you, think that it is perhaps something related to YOU, not to "women."

Whenever you generalize, you're doing a disservice to yourself.

Self-criticism is a good thing. You'll at least realize human nature is complex and never again be tempted to draw conclusions about other people you've only met for 5 minutes, 5 days, or even 5 years. I've known myself for 44 years and I still don't know all there is to know about me. Even when I think I understand, comes something knew and throws me out of balance, or makes me learn and rethink and will to change.

So, to think some men think they know me, because "women" are like this, or that... what a joke!! I'm a woman, but you don't know me. You've met four? 4000 women? It's nothing. You didn't meet me. We're not linear. I've met many men. I've interacted with many men. But I don't know you. The only thing I think I know about you is that you're a person who seems to think you can draw any conclusion about life based on four stories about four women. As if a picture of a rose could give you its scent, it's textures... or any clue of what makes it thrive.

 

Looks like I have hurt some people over here.

Now, what should I do to repair the damage?

 

Oh, so at least you admit you stand a chance of being wrong.

The NAWALT strawman is merely a political correct card (like the race card, the homophobia card, the class card, the list goes on) to silence group criticism. Literally nobody ever makes AWALT arguments ever, unless they are guilty of irony or hyperbole.

Maybe the OP is a balanced, fair man. Who notices social patterns, and yet acknowledges the exceptions. Which, to my way of thinking, is the way to be.

 

It's a NEILT argument, Cherea, not a NAWALT. And I think there is a lot of SWHYRBAYWVATFP going on. Just saying.

 

That's pretty funny. But I did take the time to google that (the first one).