Officiating a commitment ceramony..Need help

I need to officiate a commitment ceremony this weekend (and a friend will be officiating mine) but we have no idea what to say/how to perform this.


We are all young and want to show our love for each other and thought this would just be cute
(ok,let me pause here to say I know this is obviously a scheme hatched by the two females (me and my friend) to get the boys to do something sweet and to get them to admit they are serious about us but I think it is a lovely idea and we are all adults and I think this could just be beautiful)

But I was thinking that the rites (isnt that what they are called..well the whole "do you take this man...do you take this woman" shit) should be unique, there without a doubt should be something about being faithful with the exception of group sexual activities...and sharing drugs and alcohol..stuff like that...

anyone got any ideas???

 

what the hell is a commitment ceremony? Like marriage-lite?

 

lol yeah like for us it is a way of saying we love each other and plan to be with each other the rest of our lives but arent really liking the thought of a legal marraige...it is our way of telling each other and everyone else that we are in love and are serious about each other without being married (since we all have our won isssues with that)

 

Right... So that you don't have to go through all the hassle of divorce? Good plan. I guess it'll save money too - no license and so forth.

 

lol not so much that...none of us are sure we really buy in to the whole marraige thing...out of all of our closest frineds I am the only one who's parents are still together, but it is more of a situation where we all love each other very much and want to spend our lives together and want to express that but there is also a certain stigma that comes with marrying so young.

Basically I need to know what are good and bad idea for it
Like I said it is sincere and I intend to include something about being with only your partner unless you both are engaing in group sex, and something about sharing drugs and alcohol with your partner. but I dont know anything else....

this whole thing really means alot to my best friend, she is going to buy a new dress and is preparing alot...so I want to do it right ya know?

 

I don't want to sound mean, but if the most sincere vows you can come up with are 'faithfulness unless it's a clusterfuck' and 'sharing drugs and booze', then you might want to look into something like 'blind man's buff', or 'spin the bottle'...

 

I think it's a good idea, but I think if you're as serious as you say you are then you'll be able to come up with something to say on your own. I don't know, maybe I'm wrong, but I think it should all come from the heart. And by the way, jim w, I don't want to sound mean either, but have you ever heard of an "open relationship?" A lot of the reasons people divorce is due to what a lot of people view as unfaithfulness, but people with an open relationship are allowed to be with others as long as everyone consents. It's not like she's planning on going out sleeping around with everyone behind his back (or vice versa). And the drugs.... at least they have something in common. No point getting together if you're not going to enjoy one another's company, even if drugs were the only thing they did have in common (not saying it is because then I definitely would disagree with the "union").

 

By the way, good luck, daisy. My husband and I went for the legal marriage, but it's an open marriage, and we're going on 4 years (I think if neither of us was as open-minded as we are, it would have ended in a year or two). I hope you and your friend and whoever else is involved are all happy together and don't have to face the hardships my husband and I have had to face. Your happiness is all that really matters.

 

Ok, I guess I see Jim's point considering he doesn't know us, we realize we are all young and do intend to experiment with our own sexuality, hence the reason we are not planning on having a legal marraige any time soon. As far as the drugs that is something we have in common (by far NOT the only thing) but it is something we both enjoy and the idea of that vow was to inply that the other is considered to be an equal, that what one has they share, in all cases but drugs was the most obvious choice.

As far as coming up with them on my own, I have my own for MY cermony that will be performed, but remember there is another couple involved and the girl asked me to come up with them for her becuase she said I was more creative, I had a few ideas but wondered if anyone had any ideas what should be said....