old girlfriend's interesting but kinda crazy

she's in england so we are just talking thru emails and chats for now.
Here's the thing: she was seeing my friend and came onto me, then her neighbor lied and said I was bringing someone over becasue he hoped to get her (failed) then she ended up marrying my friend, she was doing escort work and even he had met her when she was a "dancer" stripper reallly. And she's been marriied 4x now, but she doesn't act like a lowlife, she's actually pretty interesting. Now I contacted her ex and he gave her my info. last person i expected to hear from. She is still into me and wants to leave her current husband and move back to the states. I don't meet a lot of interesting people and out here it's all either hicks or conservatives (welcome to Florida) is this just too crazy or what? We both have some mental, emotional problems, and I can't take crazymakers but they tend to be interesting and outgoing. Is this a bad idea. It sounds like it but I already know her, we lived together for a month, but she drove my friend to violence against her, lots of the guys seem to get pushed that way. Even now she's getting involved with me while she's married to this guy in England (though he isn't working and she's working 2 jobs and buying him stuff he begs for.) I think she's being taken advantage of and I emphasize with her, but...so crazy!

 

She's too crazy, the insane sex isn't worth the rest of the insanity. You know it isn't, you keep referring to the craziness, to reasons why you shouldn't go through with this.

 

She's calling someone else while she's already with someone.

Doesn't that tell you something about her character? Being married four times, doesn't that say something about her character?

Get a clue, man...the woman needs to figure out what she wants and who she is. Being in a relationship is not going to help her any...she'll just continue what she seems to have chosen for her life....which, in my opinion, isn't healthy at all.

 

is this person worth the hassle? i think not.

 

If you like her...just keep in touch on a friendly basis...it sounds like she cant do the relationship thing verry well.

 

A little crazy can be entertaining but I don't think this is the one I would be moving in.

 

crazy is interesting, normal is sooo boring. This one's into lots of stuff but who knows? I called my recent ex girlfriend who I'd still be with but she's schitzo and needs to stay in Boulder where she's got a good subsidized Apt and it's safe. Now she is an absolute angel and when well is the most grounded person ever. I love her. I don't love this other one, but I live alone and it's tempting to just move an old girlfriend in. At least I know what to expect. Around here who knows what I'd be getting into?

Erzebet, you are the voice of reason. I think that will be what happens. We can maybe pare things back and just email once in a while (her husband's been going apeshit over her IM me and she told him that she still has feelings for me.)

See, I keep to myself so I don't date a lot. I met Karen because she was in my cab, and I met the crazy one this thread is about because she was dating my friend and came onto me. She wasn't crazy at all to live with though, almost bland. She'd sit on the floor by my feet and change cds while we listened to music. Sometimes she'd bring home a dog for the weekend from the humane society where she worked. It was pretty calm. She's done escort work and guys have got her to to it to buy them stuff but she usually just does a reqular job.

You are all right, she is too crazy. My nerves are not up to it. It would just be nice to have someone here w' me besides my dog and the locals are all bad news cokeheads and shit.

I took some xanax tonight and talked to the good girlfriend so I think I'm getting back to my senses, now you all confirm things. Whew. Thanks

 

just a quick follow up. That girl was trouble, I'm lucky I got to talk w her before getting back in a relationship. I think she's a speed addict and may still be doing prostitution (escort work) dang dodged the bullet there. whew! I see why slow dating is supposed to be the way to go, get to know the person before jumping into bed right

 

I do still talk w' her on the computer though and she recently got off the drugs and is doing better. I can be a friend and likewise. The middle road right.

 

Glad you dodged the bullit. I personally don't like to have these kinds of people around even as friends because when the drama starts dying down they go out of their way to create more. That drives me crazy.

 

Wow, that's an astute observation; that's what I've been noticing and can't have this person even as a friend. It drives me crazy as well Haid.