once a week is not enough!

Me and my girl (Erin) met in high school after she lost her virginity to me we have been bang buddies for the last 5 or 6 years. 7 months ago she started showing up after we hadn't talked for 6 months or so bc she was seeing someone she was kind of serious with. She wanted to be my girl, like always, so i gave in and here we are together and fairly happy.. But, she doesn't like to have sex anywhere near as much as i do, i would like it 2 or 3 times a day and she could deal with once a week.

We have talked about it and she says its b/c she is stressed out and tired, she works a good 30 hrs a week and goes to school full time too. I don't blame her, but i neeed to have sex more often.

It's not like i get on top and pump away for 10 min then go to sleep. I do everything for her and do my best to get her off 2,3,4 times. We both agree it's the best sex we have ever had and really love eachother very much.

All i really want is to have good sex on the nights we get to spend together, (I work overnights and get about 3 nights a week off) but that doesn't happen I'm honistly lucky if i get it 2 times a week. It's hard for me to go to sleep if we don't, i love to snuggle up with her but i can't if we don't make the love.

The real problem here is i think i might cheat on her, not bc im horny but bc i like to please girls. I get a lot of advancements from the opposit sex and it's getting harder and harder to turn them down. when we were younger i always use to cheat on my girls with her (I haven't had a girl friend that i didn't cheat on with her since we met) and i don't want to do that to her.

Our sex is great i don't know if it could be better with another person or not, i don't care all i want is her, but like i said it's hard when i don't get it enough to satisfy my urges..... Any thoughts....anybody have a problem like this, what do you guys think i should do ???? thanks

O yea... I know how to get what i want all i have to do is ignore her a little, ya know make her think I'm upset or something.. then she comes over and we have great sex .... but i don't want to play her like that, she is my little peanut and i like to talk to her and be sweet to her... It jus sux it can't be the other way around.. =(

 

Maybe you should just grow the fuck up. Sounds like, if she is working a lot, and is tired, maybe you should back off (sexually), as I know how frustrating it can be working rediculous hours.

Sounds shitty, but such is life.

 

You should not be dating anyone right now.

 

I don't need to grow up, I just need to help my girl be more relaxed and stress free, so we can enjoy having sex more. It's not like I pressure her at all in anyway when it comes to sex. We have talked, she knows where I stand that's that im not going to keep bringing it up... If you know how frusterating it is then help me understand what would turn you on at the end of the day, if anything at all.. It's not like I want to cheat on her, I just feel I might slip up or do something stupid. She is the only girl I have ever dated that I didn't want to cheat on... So saying that I shouldn't be dating anyone doesn't really make much since to me either.

 

Have you talk with her about this?
Have you asked her permission to "please (other) girls."

I think that you should be straight with your girlfriend. And until she agrees (or you break up), there's always Momma thumb and her 4 nimble daughters.

 

well, MAYBE, just MAYBE she doesnt have as much fun as you when having sex... so MAYBE, just MAYBE ask yourself if your way of having sex satisfies your GF .....; yes, women ARE strange (to me anyway), but generally they will do something they like, even if working 30 hours a week and going to school. From the way you write and describe the situation it sounds more like you want your GF to get your rocks off 2, 3 times a day and not actually having sex. Make the sex relaxing, try to look after your woman and dont just limit yourself to a pure humping session. Long massages, kisses and slow, tender sex is in my experience theway to go with a stressed woman.

 

you sound like a caveman

 

Perhaps she would be more open to having more frequent sex, if she didn't feel as though the sex to come were to take so long.
Don't get me wrong, everyone likes a good long romp, but if shes feeling tired from school and work she probably doesn't want to commit to an entire afternoon (or what have you) of sex.
In all honesty, I'm the kind of person who could go with having sex once a week, and I know that because I've chosen not to have a boyfriend, but a singular and FANTASTIC man to come over and ravage me, and it usually comes up to be about once a week.
I compare that lifestyle to the relationship I had last year and I find this difference:
When I was having sex very often with my former bf, I would get bored of the sex if it lasted too long, no matter how good it was. In that relationship I enjoyed the 10 - 20 min. sessions much more, and of course, in turn enjoyed the longer ones that much more.

 

I agree with a lot of the criticisms against you.
If you care so much about not cheating with this girl - then there should be no pressure to cheat. It seems to me like the idea of cheating is an excuse to blame her for a problem that she can't control (if she doesn't start pleasing me, I will accidentally cheat on her - and it's not like I can help that)

You're going to have to either get used to the amount of sex you are having, do a better job of wooing her and keeping her relaxed, or the relationship will crumble.

I personally like the masturbation suggestion.

Have you thought that maybe the quicky scenario you described might be better for a girl that has so much time consumed and so much work to do?

 

What would turn me on is if my boyfriend didn't pressure me for sex after a long fucking day of work when my back and legs are aching. Oh, he does just that. See, some people can do it.

And if you "feel like you might slip up or do something stupid"... then you do need to grow up. Thems is life, mate

 

I agree with you needing to grow up. If you don't want to cheat on her then you don;t. It's simple. Your a man, not a animal, get some self control.

There could be a few reasons why she's not into sex, she may not enjoy it like you do, she could be too tired from work and school, or the stupid amount of pressure you put on her could turn her off so much she wants nothing to do with you physically.

 

Yea i def accept the criticism, i understand what everyone is getting at

I don't pressure her at all to have sex with me. We have talked about it, that is the extent of me "pressuring" her.

I really don't want to be with other girls at all, i just want her. I'm just pissed that i think cheating is an option for me to get more sex. because all i really want is more of that "connection" between us..

Our sexual bond is amazing, i don't question that i give her what she wants for how long and what not. Some times it does last 10 min or even 5... All i was saying is it's not just lame sex, i know what we have is great and is exactly what we both can enjoy at the time.... I just want that connection between us more

I thought maybe someone has been in a similar circumstance, and could give me a creative way to relieve her stress so we could enjoy each other more often, that's all.

When i do masterbate all it really does (other than making me not horny for like 5 or 10 min) is make me want her even more. So i do do it sometimes at night when i know we wont be doing it, it just sux b/c later i will feel the need to be with her even more...

 

So, do you only feel bonded to her when you're having sex?

 

Cheating is only a option because you're looking at it as one. I work stupid hours at work and my hubby works 50 hour weeks, I think neither of us get the amount of sex that we want during the week but is cheating even running threw our minds? Hell no.

There is clearly some kind of lack of communication in your relationship, maybe shes just not into sex. Maybe her stress is getting to her more than she's letting on so she doesn't worry you? Thats something that I'm guilty of.

If you know that her stresses are something that you can help with then do it, does she worry about cooking when she gets home? Does she forget her lunch? Can you do something about that like bringing her food? Is it school work were it's best to just give her time to get her work done?

You need to ask HER what will help with stress, my stress is always money. My husband helps by helping me plan my bill payments so they all get done.

 

Exactly.

 

I think you should break up with her if you are already realizing you will cheat.

Honestly, it sounds like maybe your sessions are too long. If she is exhausted, she may not even be ABLE to cum more than once, so maybe she is just faking to make you get off of her. Just saying that maybe you need to have more 10 minute sessions instead of it being an olympic event every time. I love sex with my man but it can be 10 mins or 2 hours,it just depends how we are feeling and how much time we have. it doesnt HAVE to be a long time EACH time, ya know?

 

^super true, marathon sex is tiring for women too even if we don't do all the work.

 

Only once every two weeks????? Waaah, boo hoo.

Some people never get to have sex, or experience it only once or a few times (if they're lucky).

You have a hand. You also obviously have internet access. Make good use of them. It's not the same but I've survived the past two years (and 20 more before that, minus the developing years I suppose) with jerking off as my only sexual release.

So what I'm saying is quit your bitching and start finding some good internet porn because you're lucky as hell as it is - not just because of the sex but even more so because a woman you care about actually reciprocates the feelings. Frankly I would kill for that if it wasn't for the fact that killing would not help me to achieve this - and I'm a total pacifist.

 

Right before she comes home draw her a warm bath with bubbles or roses or what ever. Then boom extra night of sex.

Order her flowers and have them sent to work with a cute letter.
Boom another night of sex.

Send her dirty pictures of you when she is at work.
Boom another night of sex.

Massage her back (look up massage strokes of you tube) with oil and make her feel comfortable and rub her feet.
Boom another night of sex.

Make her a sexy dinner with candles.
Boom another night of sex.

Ok there is five days you could increase your sex with her. If you really want to have more sex, you are going to have to work for it. Also if you really doubt that you can stay commited to this girl, thats not fair to her. Beng sexually on the same page might help.