only good enough for secret sex?

well i heard a guy once say a fat gil is lke a scooter, its fun to ride around when noone is watching you but you woul tell your friendsabout it. guys are strange creatures babe, plus you may be acting needy, let mesuggest the book that helped me as an attractive female, i use to repeal guys lol "why men love bitches" by sherry argov. great book!

 

It's strange that u immediately think that that has to do with your looks. I mean i'd be more inclined to think that it has to do with your personality.

I mean, the guy f*cks u but doesn't want to go out to dinner with u... to me the logical conclusion would be that he doesn't want to chat with u, he thinks u're not interesting/ funny/ etc.
So yea, nothing u can really do about that, stop sleeping with him and find a guy who likes u.

also,

^ that.

 

And this too... ( i had wanted to include that to my previous post but I had no time before).

Apart from taking care of your appearance, your psychology is a major factor; i have friends that are overweight and they are the joy of the day, always cheerful and fun to be around and believe me they are not singles; one of the two actually is married. And while weight is always an issue, they are even laughing with it and their efforts to lose weight (but the fact is that they do take care of the rest of themselves in general).

And see it and in another way if you met a guy that was feeling bad and miserable, you would not date him or be attracted to him. Whereas a guy that has humors, confidence and brightens up your day, no matter his looks (I am not only speaking sexually here) would be someone that you would like around you. I think that's a common truth for all of us.

 

I just feel I have to clear something up, because it seems I've made myself out to be quite the slut.

I have slept with 3 guys total - none of whom have wanted to date.

I don't need to tell the public who I am sleeping with, but I would like to think that they weren't ashamed of it.

I have plenty of good friends, so I assume I have a half decent personality.

I don't tend to walk around telling people how much I hate myself....I'm pretty good at faking it.

And I don't measure my worth by my ability to find a man, but surely I'm not alone in feeling sad that someone is ashamed to be seen in public with me?

 

maybe your standards are too high?

 

Don't give it up so much

 

Three times is too much for a 33 year old?

And I don't think my standards are to high...I didn't feel I was even working to a standard? But besides that, why should a person be able to think they are too good for anyone?

 

they shouldn't necessarily, but realistically how often do you see a couple where one person is amazingly good looking and the other is extremely unattractive?

 

Maybe you should ask yourself the same question; and give fat, ugly people a chance.

 

I'm sorry, did I give the impression that I thought I was above anyone?

The men I have been with couldn't be more different than each other...tall, short, thin, chubby, very attractive, average looks, smart, stupid....only thing in common is that they all turned out to be assholes.

 

Well played. This is my last contribution to this thread: you did not mention anyone who`s ugly.

Best of luck. :2thumbsup:

 

They may have been exactly that but you also picked them to associate with.

Three people to have been with is nothing. Honestly no judgment.

I would simply suggest that you have more to a relationship before you engage in intimacy. It gives you more of a chance for a relationship that is more than just sexual.

There is nothing wrong with two people wishing to have nothing more than a physical relationship and if both agree it tends to work out well.

If you want a connection with someone based upon more than just physical then you have to cultivate interests and likes and then go from there. If it is not there then walk away and find it with someone else rather than fill in with what does not meet your needs.