what are your feelings about no strings attached sex with other people when you're already in a relationship? even if you were honest and open about it? my gf met a guy she was into and wanted to have sex with him and I said I didn't care because we're totally in love with each other and I'd be lying if I said the idea of sleeping with another woman wasn't appealing. so I told her to go for it..as long as we stay honest with each other... well nothing ever happend with her and him and evenually we started arguing about it because she realised that she couldn't go have sex with another guy and expect me to not want to be with another girl....soooo it eventually died and nothing ever happened but I gotta say I LOVE having sex with my girlfriend but having sex with another girl sounds kinda like some cheeky fun...what do you think?
I believe in monogamous relationships FOR ME. If it works for others, that's fine. To each his own...but I don't do open relationships. I have my hands full with one partner...there's no way I could handle two different relationships. It's just not for me.
i couldn't do it. i understand the appeal to it i suppose, but i would feel bad, not to mention jealous if my gf went and did something.
The thought of having sex with someone other than my gf is appealing. The thought of her having sex with someone else is very unappealing.
I think if you both want it and can make it work, why not? But it's not really something I want... I've tried being in a poly relationship and yeah it was fun, but there's no way it would ever get serious for me which is what I'm looking for nowadays. Honestly, I'm suprised you haven't gotten flamed or attacked for this yet... open/poly relationships don't seem to get a lot of respect hereabouts
Ive always had a bit of a problem with no strings attatched sex...its hard for me to do something that personal with someone...like giving them the use of my body..without having my heart involved somewhere.
I would never ever ever be in an open relationship. I don't share or like to be shared. But then whatever floats your boat..
I've been involved in an open relationship as the "girlfriend". It was fun. The woman was predominantly lesbian -- as in, she married the only man she has ever actually been attracted to. The man was, well, a hornball, wanting to get laid at least 5 times a day. She was thrilled that he had a girlfriend so that he wasn't pestering her constantly. The problem was that, while she was fine with him going out, she was having a problem because, if she found a girlfriend, he thought that he should always be included (though the wife was often not included in his escapades). He would get all pouty and jealous if he wasn't included... Which is a different spin on jealousy than I normally hear on the topic! Personally, I have no interest in sharing my man. He has no interest in sharing me. We both agree that, while it's normal to look at other people and think "wow, that person is hot", if either of us actually starts to really want to have sex with someone else, that is a symptom of something going wrong in our relationship. In which case, we need to work on the root of the issue, not just feed the symptom (by allowing sex with others).
I dont want to be with anyone else but my love. Sex is more appealing to me when Im in love with the person. Meaningless sex has never interested me, so I would never have an open relationship. I feel like when two people make a commitment to eachother, they shouldn't want to have sexual relations with anyone but their partner. If I ever start considering sleeping with someone but my boyfriend, I know that their is something wrong with our relationship.
IMO you can't be "in love" with someone and be wanting to sleep with others. When you are in love that person consumes your mind, not the genitals down the street. It sounds to me like you like her but are not in love with her. You are willing to let some other guy have her just so you can have a chance at hitting something else. That is not love but mutually using each other.
for me i preffer monogomy..monogomy by choice that is if my gf though felt she needed to be with another girl id be very understanding because i know the girl/girl bond is very different from the male/female 1 so id be more likely to be ok wioth it if i met the girl and was sure she wouldnt hurt her with guys its different mostly because i dont trust most and would expect themto hurt her..id like tothinkid be openminded if shed met a really decent guy but the trust would be difficult however..saying all that..thats the ideal of my philosophy..but i always hope for a chosen manogomy between us without the desire to look outside the relationship
This may be stereotypical of many guys, but there are a notable few that would rather watch their partner have sex with another guy or girl than actually have sex with someone else themselves. I am one of those guys. I would very much enjoy seeing my partner enjoy sex with another guy or girl. I don't believe that I am so good at giving a woman sexaul pleasure that no one else could do better. Some guys may be better than me, or more correctly, they will feel different than me. I am open to the idea. Rigth now, I'd rather be there in person to watch. I do consider the idea of "open-relationships" to mean dating alone, and not just watching. Threesome, foursomes, and swinging involve more watching than a true "open-relationship". I'm on a journey, and I don't know where I will settle on this issue. For now I'm seeking to find a partner that would enjoy a life of having more than one sex partner. Still, as ezerbet mentioned, sometimes just giving your body away doesn't feel right, so I'm open to polyamory (a polyprimary relationship) also.
