Opinionated Women versus Passive Women....

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my husband prefers intelligently opinionated.

 

The word "opinionated" just has a bad feel to it

 

the negative connotation is purely in the eye of the beholder. do you want a girl who will never put forth or defend her own views on things? one who will just mindlessly agree with you on everything? or a woman who can actually talk to you and put forth some views of her own?

 

May be you mean: Do men prefer women who have opinions of their own? or passive women?

It depends. Usually when a man tries to go for a woman, first of all it is because of her looks. The question is "Is she hot?". Then, he will continue to see what type of a woman she is.. if she is too passive then I don't think that will give a good impression. However, if she is too "opinionated" or uses "mind control" on her mates then its not exactly impressing him either.

Usually women unknowingly make a guy fall in crazy love with them.. and they do it by making him think that she needs him. The message that man hears from a woman he likes would be "You do this, I will be happy because you did it". This stimulates him to give his love and "cherish". Usually a man only gets love by giving... because he feels 'needed' ...


So, I guess the question is - what sort of a woman is a man looking for?

The answer would be- A woman who is pretty and has her own values but also "needs" him.

 

You know better than to use big words with me

 

so...i'm thinking you like passive women.

 

Nope, I can't have a passive girl, one of us has to ake charge. I just meant there is probably a better word to use for this than "opinionated". It makes me think of marcy from "married with children"

 

opinionated... unless her opinions are completely different than mine... than that'd just be annoying.

 

Nope can't think of a better word, I have sophisticated vocabulary too.

No idea about men's prefferences. Just know that I'm opinionated, so if a guy likes that, great. If not, oh well his loss.
I'm not going to change, it's taken a long of work to get like this. So undoing it all for a guy is out of the question.

 

I prefer a balanced woman. one who is independant, yet can be one with me. paradox is the way of truth. the one for me is distinct, yet completely connected with all that is.

 

just because someone is passive doesnt mean that they're not opinionated.. i happen to be both passive and opinionated... not all opinionated people are aggressive.

 

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i agree, i dont see why you cant be 'opinionated' and passive at the same time. Opinionated does have a bad connotation to it though. It is refreshing when a woman is intelligent and smart and can stimulate my mind, and not a barbie doll. But know-it-all's are annoying as hell, that goes for both genders. I've run across some women who feel the need to 'prove' they are equal to men, its like, uh, please stop, only you think you're less of a human being. That goes for men too...who feel the need to prove they are intelligent or more brave or whatever. It's annoying when someone tries so hard to prove something. Being overly aggressive(outside the bedroom) is pretty much a turn off though.

 

neither.. but I don't like either as individuals whether male/female. I prefer the company of confident people who are secure enough to hold a viewpoint yet see the merits of a different opinion and who can hold an intelligent discussion about the differences. oh and who can accept that there may be a difference at the end of the day.

 

HUH?

Strong, intelligent, self confident men have no problem with "opinionated" womyn. Wienies do.

Nuff said.

 

Not necessarily. I'm one of those strong, opinionated and sometimes aggressive women. In my experience, it's been "strong, intelligent, self-confident" men that have butted heads with me. They married wives that are not anywhere near like they are in this area. When they encounter me, we are like two male deer locking antlers. We piss each other off and neither backs down. The only difference is that they behave very childishly and "pout" whilst I am forgiving and willing to agree to disagree. I can think of three such men off the top of my head.

The weenie men usually just run away from me with their tails between their legs.

 

can I ask why you want to know?

 

I prefer women who are comfortable and happy with who they are no matter if they are opinionated or passive.

 

I like aggressive opinionate women who have valid ideas, and ideals, but will change them when they know they have found information to the contrary that makes them change their mind, like me, but I only like women like this who understand that I may be like this too and that we should stop fighting and just get into the bedroom.