Parenting and Pot 101

My daughter went to use the comp after my husband had just left me some weed on the desk. Well she is almost 10 and must've totally saw it. It was in a bag, she's not that "clued in" she doesnt usually look around too much BUT MAN it was right there.

Can anyone give me some advice around this? I read in MClanes that kids dont want to know about whether their parents do or not. My husband wants to tell her that we smoke.

What can I do?

 

Dang... Well, I'm not much older than her, and that's about the time I started. (did three times when I was 10... young I know)

 

If she asks about it fill her in honestly

 

I think you should tell her before she gets to that age where the curiousity really kicks in. That way she'll feel more comfortable coming up to you and her dad to discuss drugs and what not.

Let her know why you smoke and that you know the effects marijuana has on your body.

I wish my parents had told me when I was younger they used to smoke pot.

 

My parents don't smoke, but as a kid, they always told me that as an adult, they would be okay with it if I did. I started when I was 13 or 14, and they're pretty upset about it, especially because I have tendencies towards depression. They're pretty angry about me being into psychedelics, but they understand that it can be mind-expanding, now they want me to get into meditation, which I will do.

My friends parents smoke pot, and they're cool with my friends and I doing it there. They are really open with their kids about it, and that's the right thing to do. If you hide something from your kids (other than sex), then you're being hipocritical, because if it's right, you shouldn't have to hide it. Raising kids to know their parents smoke pot will set a better example, and reduce substance abuse in the future. I read that Mcleans article, and it was shit. My dad saw me read it, and he laughed at me, saying "we're never gonna be ok with it like some people's parents..."

If you tell your kids you do it, they'll be more open with you about other things as well. The parents who tell their kids vs. the parents who don't, I can see that the ones who do have a better relationship with their kids.

It might be better not to make an effort to hide it now, but not get into a discussion about it until the kids are old enough for it to mean something (beginning to figure out what kind of an independant person they want to be.) They won't be traumatized by seeing you do it.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I hope this advice helps.

 

Hey , yes that was some great foor for thought thanks. lol Yeah the article was shit, what'd they do a couple interviews?

 

Learning my dad smoked pot when I was 10 wasn't tramatizing, even if he never did tell me and I found out myself. I think they'd be OK with it.

 

yo do you want to be the one to explain stuff to your kid or do ya want a stranger?just be honest,thats what you expect from the rug rat

 

Don't give your kids pot until they're older though. If you do, it's good, because then it can be something positive between you and them instead of something negative against you.

 

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By age 10, she most likely doesn't know much about drugs, except that "drugs are bad" because of what she learns in school, etc. If she does have this negative view of drugs, she might be somewhat disturbed to see marijuana in your possession (which, as you said, she may have), and is probably even intimidated by their presense, making it very difficult to even ask you about it. You might want to talk to her about it before she goes telling her friends that her parents do drugs. That could turn into a bad situation.

 

Years ago i picked up a copy of USA Today only to see my buddy's picture on the front cover.His daughter had turned him in "for his own good".You see she too found out by accident about his drug use.This was a close family except for this secret from the daughter.When she discovered the drugs,her church group convinced her to do "the right thing".Everything got totally screwed up.i've always been open with my son.Today he is well adjusted,doesn't drink or do drugs,but he smokes a little pot.Teach her what you believe.If you think a little pot is alright,teach her that,if you don't believe that then you should quit.

 

better have yoh children teach U what iz right.

 

Better learn to hide your stash well, or the kids will soon be raiding it.

 

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better to teach em the effects of weed , and their mind expasions trait, then teaching them economy, the fucker of all things.

 

whut duh vuk duh yoh tink Uh no?

 

well she is only 10, and when i was 10 i was in 4th or 5th grade and i didnt know what weed was. i didnt know what it looked like, smelled like, i didnt even know it was really bad for you in a way. I smoked for my first time in 5th grade a couple times, adn this was during DARE, ya know that thing they have in schools about drugs. I didnt know my parents used to or anything. I say wait until she is in middle school, like 6th grade, because by then most kids know what weed is. and tell her that u smoke, and why ya know like mentioned before. But also if u dont want people to know, like family or friends, you dont want teachers finding out and stuff, you might wanna tell her to not tell anyone or at least dont talk about it in the open because it could get you in trouble. Im sure she wont be traumatized. when she gets older she will love that you two smoke, especially if u let her smoke in her room with her friends. that would be awesome. i mean its better than letting her go off and bowl cruise in a car, or be somewhere where they could easily get caught. I wouldnt worry too much about if she saw it or not. Im sure she wont do much about it. peace~

 

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