perhaps you can help

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=156047

 

i have your sig for my backround and buddy icon

 

well thank you for that helpful piece of advice

 

dood yer 18... come on down an spend some time here..
if a change of scenary dont help..
then yer one sad sack o pitty..

yer 18..

love is a splendid thing it should be cherrished an it should be forever,, but that doesnt meen it should be on the ultimate scale..

yer hearts broke,, blah blah blah,,..
rejuvinate it..
get over it..
enjoy the pain an learn from it..

you dont seem like the cry baby type..
so step up warrior..

luv n lite..

 

If you BOTH still love each other and want to be together, then you will find a way to fix whatever it is that's wrong in your relationship even if it takes a lot of work. Don't end it just because it seems like the easy solution..

 

Can I come over even though I'm not heartbroken?

 

any time sister,, doors always open here..

luv n lite..

 

well the fact that i'm 18 has nothing to do with it really
as i could be going through this same thing if i were 48
which doesn't matter to me anyways, because i don't really care if i was only 13
the fact is, age doesn't change the problem or help the situation
i want the problem to be fixed
i don't want to say "oh, okay, it's alright babe, i forgot, i'm only 18, let's just forget it all"
if i wanted to be gay, i'd be gay
if i wanted to be a republican, i'd be one
so, i want to be in love, so i will be
18 or not...













...
perhaps i just answered my question...

 

you gotta sit back, and ask yourself 2 things.

1. Is it worth fighting for? i think that you'll prob. answer yes to that one.

2. The more difficult one. Would it be a fight in vein? because if not, then, you no what you gotta do, and thats work as hard as you can to make it work.

 

the latter is what i'm asking
i want it all to work out, i really do
obviously, i love her
but there's 2 basic options
stick with it and work out the problems, which could end up causing more
or take a break to get away from the problems
obviously you see how the latter is easiest
but i just feel that's not a smart thing to do
but i don't want more problems to keep popping up
i'm in debt with problems that i'm trying to fix
i just feel like there's 45 tons of shit on top of me and i don't know where to go or how to get out from under it

 

scuse me for offending you..

 

I'll keep that in mind. :sunglasse

 

well i wasn't offended
i understand what you were saying
and believe me, i keep that in mind
i know i still have my life ahead of me for this stuff
in case this doesn't work out
but...
i want this to work out
so i don't really worry about "other future relationships"
does that make sense?

 

man,, dilligaf is the guru of that kinda shit here..

ive just discussed it with her an ill make sure she replies when she gets on the puter..

right now shes readin the oracles of our community..

luv n lite..

 

awesome

 

step back from all the situations, dont let them overwhelm you any more than they already are... do what ever it is you like to do and do it.... once you unwind you can begin to think things through and see a bit more clearly,,, almost from a third person vantage point.... Step back n look at what you just posted here,,, not quite real rational thinking for someone of yer mentality under normal brain function, its ok it happens to everyone,,, we get a bit clouded.. i honestly cant believe you want this to be a forever relationship when there are this many difficulties at the ages you are, and to think you are just beginning to bloom into the person you will forever be, you know that your life is just now beginning to open itself to new horizons n yet at the same time you are clinging to what shouldnt be clung too,,, very few are life long some are a few short moments and others for several years,,, but few are forever and when the time for them to end they do,, no matter what you want or intend it to be,,, you need to embrace what you had at one point ,,, and let it go and continue on,,, take the love you have and let it flow to other areas dont look at it as a loss,,, its not,,, its life, its learning, experiencing and taking the good along n leaving the rest behind,,,...
now iffin ya dont quite get what i mean ,, holler,,, just hit 420 n all so my thinkin goes on lil tangents ,,,
of course iffin you could smoke a bit n then reread it ,,, i am pretty sure you'll get it as well... yer one of the few on here i have a morsel or three of hope for...
luv n lite

 

very well said.

 

Hot damn.

 

man my heart goes out to you. i'm in the middle of ending an 11 year relationship right now. it sux - it hurts - i'm not sure if i'm doing the right thing (thought i found a soul mate) - but in time the right answers will come and you will heal.... no great words of wisdom i know but i send reassuring {{{hugs}}} your way.

peace & love,
twist

 

sister,,, soul mate does not always mean life mate... treasure that thought ,,, think on it and you will have your answers..