i met a guy, we 'fell in love' we play in a band together, we've been 'together' a week. last night, he said, he loved me, did i love him?, and i said , yes i did. then we nearly slept together, but i got freaked out it was too soon, and had flashbacks of my ex, and i wanted to cry, so i said, can we take it slow?, and he said, of course, id do anything for you. But then he also said, 'this isnt the best start to a relationship is it?' and now im confused, and wonder what is going on. What does he mean?, why did he say these things?, if im going to talk to him, what should i say? the next day he told me he'd written a song about me. which is promising. BUT IM SO SCARED. did i send out confusing signals?, i want to sleep with him, but just not yet. i love him, truly, but dont know how to express that love for him, without using sex as an expression tool for that. i want o make love to him, but i cant do that yet, i cant do that until we're closer, i've only known him three weeks. help, please... whats going on..i cant see the wood for trees here. please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yer doing the right thang. make him wait long. very long. 3 weeks is too soon to shag. this isn't the '60s. he could have an std.
My advice to you is trust yourself don't do anything that feels or seems uncomfortable to you, maybe he sincere and maybe he's not, some guys just fall fast and hard, but more importantly if your having doubts maybe your just not ready to feel the way he feels about you. However if you do want to do him be safe and use a condom. No harm there... Good Luck
thank you very much guys, the idea about it not being the 60's.. haha, i agreee. the problem is i am a nymphomaniac, and also use sex as a comfort thing, which aint good for true love, becuase true love isnt like that. But., hell, true love may just be a myth, and at the end of the day, everything boils down to sex. or is that just me? my ex boyfriend, what we did was shag all day long, get high, and then do some more. and oh god.. this is why am i fucked up, becuase that is just the crudest, lowliest thing ever, i must have had serisouly low self esteem, becuase i became addicted to sex, and it was just a way of wanting to be loved, but i hate the fucking fact that i have been , in the past, one of those girls who looks for love in mens pants. and now ive changed, but im so freaked out about having sex with this new guy, becuase i have TRAUMA associated with it, trauma becuase my ex was an asshole, the sex was so unlving, and just a complete shambles, we'd go for it, for hours, becuase we were so out of minds on drugs... and i dont know what was wrong with me, i was just a slut i guess, at the end of the day, but not a bad one. one i should care for and try to look after, becuase after all, she was only doing what she thought would make her feel loved, and now, here i am, facing the same issues again. sex or love, which one is more real?,
I feel your pain I've been there and my ex was an asshole too but now I have the love of my life and it happen very fast, he said he loved me after knowing me for two days and I took a chance and went with it and now it's a year later and we are very much in love and he has recently ask me to marry him, keep your head up it'll all fall into place and I'm sure you'll be very happy.
thank you my friend.... i really needed to hear that. i am in love..and it feels really real this time. i just dont quite belive it. thank you so much for your support, im really happy for you too!!!
And the lord spoke to you in the middle of the night and said Upon our Savior Jesus Christ you are forgiven. Now pray for those you have hurt and those that have hurt you. If it is wisdom you seek you must concede your self obsession to me and through your outwardly thinking you will possess the pure truth of love itself.
