please help me. ....confused and worried

just hi i really need help/advice.
i have been married for 10 years, we have 2 young children,.
a couple of months ago my husband and i had a foursome with another couple, i have been really good friends with the couple for years but since it happened me and my friend kept texting, then meeting up, then we started a relationship, we have realised that we want to be together as a couple ,i love her so much and we've come to realise that all these years the hole in our marriages have been due to our men, now we have fallen for each other we want to be together. but we both have 2 small children each, so we're worried about the kids. we have alot of steps to complete before we leave our husband's .i just don't know what to do.
I'm now cheating on my husband with another woman

 

Um,welcome to the site? Sorry no words of wisdom from me, I'm not a counselor.

 

you need to do what makes you happy. In the end your life is about YOU. But I think you should break it off for karma's sake. You wouldn't want someone cheating on you after all.

And welcome to hipforums!!

 

Okay Im new here but I have to say its ALL about what makes you happy is a lil selfish. I agree you should love who you wish to love and let nothing stand in your way...but as of now who is really standing in your way? Question is, do you also no longer love your husband, in the intimate way? If so why should you have to choose between the two? There is more to your deal than the simplistic version you have given so far. Figure out what you really want before you act. Thats my advice

 

be honest with your husbands, they deserve to know what is going on x

 

Just do what you think is right, this is the 21st century and you have all the same rights as a hetero couple. If you go for it, i wish you all the luck in the world.

 

thank you for your responses ,
where in the forum is best for me to go and post my issue and get advice

 

There is a relationships forum

And welcome to the site :daisy:

 

If you ask me, write a book about it. At leased keep a diary. It's good to speak your mind in one and might be worth millions because of its content.

 

Since you all were open to doing a 4some I think that the husbands should be approachable to tell the truth to... seems like something that will be a blow to them but that they might be able to handle. Do you feel you are completely lesbian or it is just a case of wanting out of these marriages? Can you imagine the future and really see it working with this woman instead of the husband? I've never had a 4some or done anything lesbian so I don't know how to handle the complications from this. I wish you luck. Keep those kids's welfare first and maybe talk to a counselor alone if you can.

 

Toughen up and make your relationship with your husband work until your kids are 18 you should of realized all this before you brought kids into this world. It's not there fault. Don't be selfish think about you kids. I don't recommend you telling your husband about your relationship.
Oh and WELCOME TO HF

 

Talk about it with your husbands.
Who knows, maybe they have been doing the same thing together behind your backs and everything will work out fine!

welcome to the site

 

I agree ^^^^^

 

yeah i agree with this one.

so you dont want to be with your husband at all?

 

That's very interesting. In all fairness your husband deserves to know the truth. I would be PISSED if it happened behind my back without my knowing for a while…



And welcome! :daisy: