Plz Help Me Plz Plz Plz!

ok i am 13 n i am bisexual n i want to cum out to my mom my friendz alreadii kno but my mom doesnt how do i tell her plz plz plz

 

wellllll thats a tough question & the best way to tell em is dependent on how they are, how open minded or understanding, if theyre pretty good parents & relatively accepting of ppl just tell them straight up, if theyre more close minded, keep in mind that your 13, &8 they may not accept that you are old enough to be sure of your feelings it really depends so much on the type people they are, but most parents do understrand if you just tell em straight up and explain that your quite sure about yourself & theres nothing u can change & that they'll just have to accept who you are
people are getting less close minded all the time but then again some parents can be extremely unforgiving, & uncaring
theyre your folks
you know them best
you'll find a way.. but theres no hurry, & they may take it lil more seriusly when your 15-16 then they might when your 13-14..remember, theyre your parents, & as parents they dont expect a 13 year old to be that aware of theyre sexuality yet (yea i know most people are aware at 5-6..lol but no parent ever likes to think of theyre kids as a sexual being b4 15-16)

 

^ and no matter if they are aware or not
it could just be a phase or a bit of confusion
and parents recognize this as 'it is a phase or a bit of confusion'

 

well my mother is very closed minded she says all bisexuals n gays deserve to burn in hell are not wanted n hv no place in secioty. i am mnore opened minded because my whole family thinks this way and i am affriad that they will shun my from my f

 

that's terrible for them to think that way!
i wish people were'nt so ignorant.

in my books, a mother and father should feel as blessed that they have a gay, lesbian, bi or transgendered child as they do for a straight child.

and why should i burn in hell, i'd like to know? what have i done to have no place in society?

sorry, dont take this personally or anything, but it gets me so annoyed when people come out with remarks like that against their fellow human.

the very best of luck coming out to your family!

in all honesty it seems it will be hard to come out to these sorts of people, but you are what you are and THEY WILL HAVE TO ACCEPT YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.
and if they shun you, they are the real jerks in the family.

it will seem harsh, but if someone is willing to shun a member of their own family for simply liking men and women, they should be ashamed.

again, very best of luck and love goes out to you! keep us informed.

big hugs!
x

 

honeyfulge thank you vry much but thanx to my family's close mindedness it has made me want to be nothing like them at all. I think you are rigt. i hvnt done anything to them or any1 for that matter. and no one else has either. I am still kinda of standoffish to tell them but i told my older brother hu iz 21 and just as closeminded but if he tells anyone else they will not believe him. sadly he didnt except me n told me i wasnt his sister anymore. that cut me so deep but i told him he is my brother wehter he like it or not n if he loves me he'll just accept me because he has no other choice. he told me i should go kill myself because i am nothing and worthless.

 

that comment made me cry. that's just terrible what he did to you.

i am in the process of coming out myself and i can't even imagine this happening to me.
you are so stong.
i so admire you for standing up to him and for what you told him.

you are an amazing person and dont let anyone tell you otherwise.

as i said before, if your brother wants to rid you out of his life, then he is not a brother worth keeping, in my view.
siblings should be there for you.
they should be there to pick you up when you're down, and be a friend when no-one else is around
when i read the line "he told me i should go kill myself because i am nothing and worthless" i cried. that's a despicable thing to say to your own flesh and blood. seriously. DESPICABLE.
and at 21, he should be old enough to know better by now.

you are right when you say you haven't done anything wrong to your family.
sadly a lot of victims blame themselves when they suffer abuse (i see what your brother put you through as abuse, nothing less) when it is not the case.

just hang in there, hun.

again, you are an amazing person and don't let your idiot of a brother (or any other family member) ruin that.

keep your chin up, honey.
you're so much better than these people.


all the love and hugs in the world!
remember, we are always here to help you!
x

 

whoa with a family that close minded your better off being an orphan..
dont worry if your bros too stupid to realize your still the same sweet sister then you'll find other brothers moe willing to accept you
maybe not flesh n blood brothers but more true brothers when it comes to being brotherly
hugs sis
sorry ya were stuck with such close minded fools

 

This is really incredible, that remind my of my sis and bro calling me a drug addict because i was smoking "camel" brand, and " all people smoking weeds smoke that brand".. and the same when i begin to roll my smoke using that blue packs of tobaco dont recall the name.. they aslo said i was on drugs.
They also called me a lesbian because i had women friends, and insane cause i had epiliepsi, so thats really funny to be surrounded by people with so much prejudices as your closest people to relate to.
I did some bisexual, mostly i think to be against them, cause I was rebel and did one day decided I will be all what they disliked, and in your case, just ignore them, and one day fly away from that stinky nest.
In the mean time dont let them influence you, dont tell them a shit, they wont understand you anyway, tell your bro it was a joke, and keep your jokers to yourself.
One day you will feel like telling them, then do it, before that time dont worry about it.
I had a friend who was lesbian, and even the whole family knew it, they kept asking her when she was going to get married and have children. at family dinner, in front of her gf...
Some folk are so fill with way things shall be and mark by it and got it so deep ingrowed in them that there is no way they are going to change it ever.
Even in face of it they keep denying he reality of thing.
And even if you never tell them, thats all the same, they wont miss it, and they dont want to know it anyway.
So just dont care. Your sexual preferences are none of their busines anyway unless they were open minded.
It could as well have been that you were a bit older and had a bf and that you had sexual problems, even being straigth they will certainly not be the kind of people you could come to with sexual problems and get a good and fruitfull discussion with them about it.
I think they will also see it as taboo.
No matter what you will have to keep it and deal with it on your own.
So view your sexuality that same way, you are bi and thats none of hteir business and they aint interested to know about it anyway.
Thats no big deal, you can relate to them as you always did, and keep that part as your private life, the part of you they will never know.
That way they will be fine, and their reactions will not damage you.
Narrow minded are narrow minded, you can work out a miracle or 2, but until you feel able to do just keep it for yourself.
They shall come up with the subject on their own at some point in the furture, but that wont be before you are 26 or 28 or even more, thats twice your current age, so thats give you both the time to fly out and the time to know more about a whole bunch of things, as how to deal with those things.
Until then, just relax, have a great time, and ignore your current setting.
It aint no big deal, they are yoru family, they are narrow minded, and this is your private life, your own sexuality, just keep it each apart, and all will be fine for you.

Good luck little buddy.

 

i dont really undrstand why youd want to tell people whoyou know wont be supportive.. id unno, i dont think id bother telling people who i didnt think would be cool with it. but thats me. my family was awfully supportive when i told a few of them that im bi so it wasnt too big a deal... but i dont know if id tell them if i were no, not right now, not before you start dating the same gender as you *shrugs*

 

thank u all. Soaring Eagle i wasnt stuck with a bunch of fools i was satuck with unedgucated, un experianced ppl. its not their fault they are so narrowminded because my thing is. we r just getting out of the dark agews where anyone different is looked down apon. it is not that far from when ppl were killing biz n gayz. n sum stiull do. my thing is see it 4m evry1z point of view. no 1 right n no one wrong. i am very displeased my family is closed minded but they r my family and i love them no matter what [hugz new brother] it iz my responsibility as an open minded person to show my closeminded family the light. 1 day the will understand no matter what it takes. evn if i hv to deal with they b.s. i wil take it so it will bttr them.

wow lorna u hv messed up pppl but n thank you for all ur advice i hv really taken it to heart you are a very nice personn i wish u the BEST of luck in all thingxz u dothe thing that hurts the most i hv told ALL OF MY FRIENDZ with range 4 9 to 19 n they say ok n dont care they accept me n they r strait bt my brothr IS GAY!n he wonr except me he told my other brother and they tlked to me n i told them i was n they said ok they dont care still the same thing they always tell me dont get pregnant n i laughed n they said ur the same person n we dont see u differently maybe a lil shorter cuz we grew ovr night lol but they dont care but my brother hu iz gay cant exept me is messed up.

 

Try to write with words and not like msn.. that make it realy scary to understand..
I dont get your bro is gay and dont accept you are bisexual???!!

thats soemthing for the museum of weird things.
I didnt messed people, i dont get what you mean by that..
I think its good you toild your friends and it should be enough, and also it is good if your brother accept you now, well, what i understood from what you just wrote.
You are 13 and he tells you to dont get pregnant???
SOUNDS REALLY ODD TO ME!

SO you are bi in a family whos mum think that gays are abnormal scum who shouldnt be allowed to live with a bro that is gay and hates you for being bisexual and a straight bro that isnt impress by it and love you all the same.
I think a family meeting is needed.
But a pack of valium migth come in handy.
No shcrinck will accept to particiapate at this meeting, unless he is writing a book or a phd about it. So you will have to deal with it all on your own.
Could give some estonishing results, and end up being a real funny memory.

 

no i said I told my eldest brothers and they fully excepted me they told me as long as i dont get pregnant they dont care about my sexuality.

The brother that doesnt exept my is 100% gay. he thinks you are either gay or strait. He calls me worthless for not choosing. My brother Is Gay but he is onlii out to my other brothers and myself. If i can exept him for being who he is. Why is it that I myself cannot be exepted for who I am?

 

no the gay brother is the one that is being mean to me

 

You and me both. I absolutely hate the phrase "Bi now, gay later." Gay prejudice against bi's it's like fighting a war against an opressor, and at the same time oppressing some of your own people. Its so idiotic.

I with the other posters, don't tell any of your family that you think would react poorly right now. They're not likely to take you seriously. It may only cause you more grief, wait until youre at an age where they can't say, its just a phase.

 

oh its because i alreadii hv a girlfriend n we have been going out 4 a while n my mom thinks we r just friendz n itz like lieing to her

 

NO THE GAY BROTHER IS NOT EXEPTING he is mad at me. My gay brother does NOT like me being bisexual

 

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/except
except: 1. with the exclusion of; excluding; save; but: They were all there except me.

i think you mean your gay brother is not "accepting" of you, whichd would be what drumminmama is is saying basically