We are a couple of age 41 and 38… in recent years my wife have made a friend that she’s a poly… they have been good friends for years … we do go out together for lunch or drinks. She has never brought it up to us or my wife that she is interested or wants to come in between …. So here is the thing . We have built a gloryhole in our house and we have discussed that if we want to try something new .. we wanted to bring her ( Tina) in and experience with the gloryhole. We have set some rules that the will Not be any pussy fucking but anal/oral only through the gloryhole… I will be behind the curtains with my cock … How do we open up to this and how can we take the steps to tell or ask Tina about this if she’s interested … we as couples we have feelings that she is eager to try it .. but I don’t want my wife to loose her relationship wit her ..
It'll all boil down to asking her and the two of you having plans for (a) if she accepts the invitation and (b) if she doesn't. If she does, you need a "comprehensive plan" on what things are going to look and go like and I can tell you that having two women to deal with might sound like fun - and it sure as hell can be - but you need a plan and some rules that, hopefully, aren't going to be locked in lead and she gets to have some input into what this new relationship is going to look like - if she accepts the invitation. I actually don't know which is harder: Putting a plan together or getting up the gumption to ask her if she'd like to be a part of your relationship... Good luck and, please, if you ask her, let us know how it went, okay?
What you're wanting and indicating Tina is are two completely different positions. You and spouse seem to be wanting a no touch, no emotion, sexual relationship. That is not what Tina, being poly, is about. Polyamory is about more than 2 forming a relationship that shares each other with the consent of all involved. We had a polyamorous relationship with a woman my spouse first became friends with and later we both fell in love with. Pat joined our household living with us and all of us nurtured and supported each other. Yes, I had sex with Pat at times with the consent and support of my spouse. But the relationship was more than that. Now, if you wish to know if Tina is interested in a sex activity I suggest your spouse bring the subject up. A casual mention at some point and it might be best if you are not around if and when discussed. Your wife can then gage where Tina is with her own promiscuity and either let it die or expand the idea. But it is not a poly situation that you are proposing.
