Pregnant x ruining my life

thank you very much. i still won't wish the same on anyone here, or anywhere.

the reason you don't see the analogy is because you don't want to see it. admitting to seeing it would conflict with your strong dislike for the OP, something that might look like yielding a little which you are absolutely adamant not to do. so you have not much left but to fight against it. i get that.

 

Like him? I don't know him... I know what he said... and going by that, I wouldn't like him... but what I am saying is not because 'I don't like him'

What I said are the facts. It should be easy enough for even a completely 100% brain dead moron to understand, so I would hope you should be able to grasp it.

Man puts dick in woman, baby happens, man is father...

 

and i have been trying to say that in my subjective opinion life is a little more complicated than dick=baby=father. it is not that simple. not for everyone at least. if life is that simple for you, good for you. you will do the 'right' thing, and you will always be certain of being in the right. but sometimes life is more than 'right' and 'wrong'. and sometimes there is no 'right' and 'wrong'.

 

No, some people try to add in bullshit to avoid responsibility. But life really is as simple as a man who puts his dick into a woman who then has a baby IS a father...

Apparently I was wrong about it you being able to grasp this... I guess I should re-evaluate my opinion....

 

evaluate all you wish.

 

Man gets cold feet, man not want baby, woman has strong support network anyways, baby not need father so much anyways, "man" require quotation marks :willy_nilly:

 

I like this version better.

 

dunno what any of that has to do with mothering...

actually...

it's a horrible analogy. i don't think it's even an analogy, it's just taking two things that have absolutely nothing in common and saying that they're the same. i guess maybe you could call it a metaphor, but it's still not a very good one.

 

I'm sad that people decided to argue and throw insults around, mainly at the OP, rather than giving calm advice or remaining civil. This could well be a real man and his real unborn child, and he's seeking guidance. The decision he makes now is the difference between a child having their daddy in their life or not...and all you guys seem to give a shit about is your own desire to pick a fight about things that can't be changed anyway. As I said before (burried under this mound of angry crap somewhere) repeatedly insulting someone in a narky, immature way is unlikely to teach them anything.

I'm also pretty sad the OP has been sucked in. It should clearly be ignored. Use your mindspace for your son or daughter right now.

 

completely agree.

 

I agree with this. Although she kept you in the dark about discontinuing birth control, it isn't always 100% effective. If she happened to get pregnant while on the pill, what would the excuse be then? When you realized you weren't in love with her and didn't want to be with her, you should have just broke it off and kept it broken off. Calling you threatening suicide and all that is just a shout for attention, and even if she was, as harsh as this is, you can't live your entire life miserable just because you don't want someone to kill themselves. I was in this situation, "I have a knife at my throat because you won't be with me" was a direct quote. But that was years ago, and he's still alive and moving on, like it should be. In the passion and frenzy of losing someone, people say very desperate things. I know this isn't all cases. And I know being captain hindsight here isn't helping much.
But I think you need to step up and be there for the kid. You don't need to be with the girlfriend, you have someone new, just also some new huge responsibilities.
but regardless of whether you believe you are ready for fatherhood or not, (which btw, nobody is, who knows what they're getting into?) I think once the baby is born and you realize its your own kin, things may change after a while.
Other than that, good luck in the future, and best of wishes with the new child.