I'm nearly 19, started having sex in Febraury, and so far haven't lasted over a minute or two. I was a chronic masturbator. Since I've started having sex, porn/masturbating hasn't been interesting me that much. I wonder if this will help me last longer or hurt my length. I've read a lot about PE and found that excessive masturbation can be a cause of it, but I also see suggestions to start masturbating/to practice control during masturbation. Could anyone give some insight on how they got over PE, how masturbation affects their sex life, etc. etc. Also, if you are in a similar boat, talk about it; bump the thread, and see if you can find any help.
Sex is something that you have to learn, when you are young and don't really know what you are doing you tend to just jump on and bang away, take your time, build up to it, keep your head in it, think about what you are doing, if you feel you are about cum, maybe try to think of something else for a moment, then get back into it, take your time, it will all come together, and relax don't look at it as a performance. Peace
Thanks man. I don't look at it as performance, but despite a bit of pain, my girlfriend seems to respond better to intercourse than anything else - and I want to be able to make her that hot for longer =) I think there are issues other than age/experience here, but I know that will definitely help. As far as the masturbation goes, here's what I decided, tell me what you think: When I looked at porn in the past, I would go the easy route, look at tons of porn through google images, find some nice free pics and clips. And do other things while doing that. Tons of start and stop. So I would look at porn for a long time, but I would only be masturbating for a bit before I cum. Also, I have trouble not thinking about how hot cumming will be when I feel I'm about to cum. Which, makes it very hard for me to stop and hold it in. When I watched porn in the past, I would tend to skip right to the money shot. Sooooo when I watch porn/masturbate now: Less cum porn. Longer vids. Focus on the masturbation/no other stuff. + no more than once a day. I think this, while incorporated with your advice + some kegels will really help me out. =)
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Wow man, the first time I had sex I was 19 also and I couldn't last more than a min or 2 either! Fucken still have a hard time, but I'm grateful I have a patient girlfriend who understands haha and lets me please her in other ways if I only last 7.5 seconds hahaha
Most of these techniques apply to masturbation as well. Check out the one on "edging" - bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, then bring the intensity down, and do it again and again, for a half hour or so, until you have the most powerful orgasm of your life. You will learn to recognize the changes in your body as you approach orgasm, and when the last moment is you can reverse the process. Many of us are actually able to have the first orgasmic contraction (before any cum comes out), and still stop the process, using our mind control, kegels, and change of hand position.
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If you're 19 you should be able fuck several times a night. In my experience, the second time around always lasts longer than the first.
You can crank the shaft just before your date and that will help you to last longer. If I know i'm in for some amazing fun I will jack off before hand and that helps me go longer.Thats just a quick crude fix. I'm sure there are more scientific measures you can practice but this has worked for me since I have been fucking.
The whole thing where as soon as you feel the sensation like your about to climax and cum, just back out (or if your a solo artist, let go) when you feel the sensation go away then get back at it. As with everything, you wont see results right away. it worked for me though. Another note...my friends are ultra homophobic so i dont want to talk to them about this, but is it uncommon to cum and stay hard? A couple years ago I came while having sex with my then girlfriend and i didnt stop. I ended up getting off twice before i got tired...the second time took alot longer than the first. Every since then I do it all the time. I dont know...i just told myself it was a special skill i have because im so full of myself
