Punishment Spanking?!

My girlfriend gets aggressive sometimes, and physiclly attacked me before. I´d never punch her or even slap her, as I´m afraid of hurting her.

Is it OK to put her over my knee and smack her bum?! Or is this out of order, too? The bonus is I think I´d enjoy it...

 

If she says it's ok, it's ok. If she says it's not ok, it's not ok.

 

definitely make sure she is okay with it, otherwise it's assault, but then that is what it is when she smacks you. when she is aggressive and attacking--is that a part of your sex or just plain fighting?

 

Are you sure you want to hang with someone who acts that way toward you?

Think about it. Such things typically only get worse over time.

Oh and "punishment" spanking only works if she doesn't enjoy it AND accepts your control and authority with respect and (optimally, IMO,) love.

Good luck.

 

maybe she's trying to get you to spank her? ask. it's okay if it's consensual.

 

Some people like playing "punishment" spanking. Spankos will often act like brats just to get what they really want.

If you get as far as pants down, over your knee, one or two easy swats will tell you whether she 'wants' to be spanked.

If she is attacking you to do harm, you may want to reconsider being with this person. If it's a game she's playing.......Well, have fun!!!!

 

So you would inflict pain upon your girlfirend so you can get off, but not so she can become a better person?...That's incredibley selfish imo unless you don't love her or aren't serious with her.

 

Hummm, In our case "M" is the one who gets off on pain the most. Not to say it doesn't excite me, but I'm giving her what she likes.

We found her interest in spanking nearly 2 years ago when I gave her birthday swats. She made a comment about it being a shame that it only comes once a year.

We pushed a lot of limits since then and I must say I've never known anyone who could take pain like she can. She loves it, and is showering in preparation at this moment for tonite's session with a strap. And I will get excited, yes, but I will 'get off' on the great sex we have afterwards, as always.

I don't need anyone in my life who needs to be punished to be a better person.

 

Okay i missunderstood you. I am not into s&m and would be incredibley hurt emotionaly if my boyfriend got off on leaving marks on me. Whatever floats your boat though.
I would also be incredibley hurt though if I did something to harm myself or the relationship and he didn't care enough or wasn't secure enough with his role in the relationship to do a damn thing about it. I have major issues left over from not growing up with my dad and am really self-destructive and difficult in relationships because of it. I've done a really good job at hiding this from the person I am seeing right now, but it's bound to come out eventualy and if the person I am with cares enough to help heal those and improve how I treat him and myself I would feel blessed that he loved me that much-not incompetent or like 'he does't need that in his life'.
I like my ass slapped in bed, but not at all hard...more like a dominance thing. Outside of bed it's completley different for me though. I was in a non-traditional relationship for 5 years and never felt so loved.
I've dated guys who did not get a lot of attention from their mother so I would cook for them and dote on them...to society that is completley acceptable-but for some reason men are so afraid of being viewed as violent or predatory and women are so afraid of being viewed as weak that wecan't even practice marraige in the way the bible says it should be.

 

Well, it would seem that your self-distructive issues would need some special understanding....Not punishment. So, you don't meet the limits of my statement ("I don't need anyone in my life who needs to be punished to be a better person.").

I am, however, sorry you are having to deal with this sort of thing in your life. I can only hope that the men you share time with can and will help you thru moments of need.

My comment is pointed toward those who act like BRATS, causing problems to 'earn' a spanking. Role playing is one thing, but stiring shit is what I don't need and will not stand for.

I feel we have a good relationship, as we have fun and LIKE each other a bunch. (LIKE is important.) "M" happens to love spankings and I fill her need without her having to piss me off in the process. She just wants the endorphines...Her drug of choice.

 

She opened the door when she hit you. I'd say go for it, if she doesn't want you spanking her, tell her to stop hitting you.

It may be a good alternative since you won't attck her in return, which I don't think would be a good idea anyway. It may seem like a violent approach to some people, but spanking her won't hurt her, punching her might.

I think it would work out pretty well. If not you can always try a more peaceful solution.

 

i think u shud let her spank u or beat up up for once or twice, maybe she is holding a lot of anger inside her and want to release it.. give her the chance to spank ur buts, maybe you will love it too

 

his girlfriend would still have to say it was okay first...also I couldn't imagine letting just a boyfriend have that kind of control over me. Would def have to have the promise of marriage first, which the members of that forum really do enforce. Also, it's about embodying your gender the way god intended it, not just being a general christian. If youre not a good protector and provider and can't love your wife more than you love yourself then you really don't have any buisness inflicting pain on her. He should also look at what he's doing wrong to get her that upset. If he's not doing his job as a man then he needs to change-not her. But it is a great lifestyle for anyone who has a ring ont heir finger. I adore my fiance and respect him more than I do or have anyone else, but at the same time he would do anything for me so I am okay with him making 100 percent of the decisions because they are always in my favor and good for me.

 

Hawkrider, maybe you should let her tie you up and give you a good working over with a plastic rod or a riding crop. Safe words should be used, of course, and I assume you know what those are now and how to use them.

She might like to play Zorro and leave a "Z" engraved on your bare bottom!

 

if she accepts it as an authority thing, then it would be actual punishment. If shes like me, shes acting like a bitch just so you will spank the shit our of her. XD

 

I get punished with a spanking by my partner and to be quite honest i thoroughly enjoy it. I think from reading forums and stuff that most women find it a turnon.

 

I totally agree, the sex that we have after i receive a spanking is the best sex i have ever had and to think that i only found out how enjoyable it is just by fooling around.

 

I don`t think that`s ok. Your girlfriend might have a problem. You should go with her to a drug treatment maybe she got something. Anything is possible, and if you say that she gets aggressive, that is a bad sign.

 

Have you ever heard of Domestic Discipline? Many couples practice this style of relationship and it works for them. There is also what is termed as consensual non-consent. Where the spankee agrees to allow the spanker to discipline them, even when they don't want it and don't feel like they deserve it, they have agreed to operate their relationship this way as a method of structure and order. They are comfortable with this type of structure. Some couples will incorporate both erotic spanking and disciplinary spanking into their relationship because that is what fulfills them. It is up to each couple to determine together what works for them, not what works for others who think that they should live a certain way.

If it puts wind in your sails, then set a course and enjoy your lives together. If it doesn't, then start rowing until the wind picks up.

David in Miami

 

Put her over you knee and spank her !!! That sounds awesome !! It's like a bad girl and needs to be punished thing... I was tied up in a loft awhile back and my ass is still bruised almost 2 weeks later... gotta love it !!