Something happened between me and my girlfriend, long story short we got into an argument and she got arrested for domestic violence against me, I am the named victim. What happened was not all that bad at all, im not emotionally hurt, or physically for that matter, except for that the police showed up out of nowhere and took her away. They said I would get a call in 2-3 days, which I still havn't, it's been 10 days. They said we can't talk for 72 hours, which after I tried to talk to my girlfriend with no response... I got a letter a few days ago stating that she is going to have to go to court, and the police appologizing for all that happened to me at the incident(which again is nowhere near bad enough for any of this to be happeneing). today I find out from a friend that she can't talk to me at all until the 21st of january because of a restraining order, which is also her court date. How can she have a restraining order of not being able to have contact with me when she hasn't even been to court yet? Every bit of this is bullshit, is there any way I could possibly get this restraining order lifted before the court date? I have some very important things i'd like to talk to her about, namely this whole thing being complete nonsense and trying to figure something out on how to prevent it and have everything turn out the best it can... Any sort of info or insight would be greatly appriciated. The police made everything so bad and horrible, when everything would have been ok, is there anything I can do to help my girlfriend out?
If it's a restraining order that's been placed by the court and not you there is no way to remove it until court.
as far as i know there is no way to get a restraining order lifted without going to court.. as far as the order itself,in some states with the new family violence laws they automatically put a restraining order on the parties involved till the court date..that may be what it is... hope that helps....
I have not been told or informed of me not being allowed to talk to her the last thing I was told by law enforcement is that I could talk to her 72 hours after the incident and I havnt heard anything from them since besides that letter. This is all so rediculus, I can't even spend the holidays with her or anything because of this nonsense.
How bad would it be to break the rules of a restraing order, even if both sides are ok with it and don't say anything, how risky is that?
its a no contact order.. Not really a restraining order. This is to prevent Vic/Def from interacting. So not influence the Vic/Def. Techically its illegal for you to see eachother. And when it come to the law if she broke it. The cops have to take her to jail.. The way the police would know is if you told them she violated to order. Since you are the Vic.. Yes thats How I sees it..Her court doc, States the conditions of her bond..no contact with victim.
