Hi, new here but just wanted some input! Recently, my girlfriend told me she really didn't want to have sex anymore. The reason for that is we just went through a kind of big pregnancy scare, but luckily it turned out she's not. But the scare has kinda put her off of sex, and it's that it's not the first time we've gotten a little worried. Although she does have irregular periods and lots of stress sometimes, so honestly most of the time when she worries I don't so much because I figure it's her irregular cycle again like it's always been. But I understand that she worries and I do too, and if this is really what she wants then I respect that. I love her too much to break up with her over sex because we have so much more than that. But at the same time, I feel like sex is a special part of our relationship too, it's not just fun I feel like it's a really intimate thing too and...I would miss it! lol So how would you all deal with this?
How old is she? She worrie more then you because it is her body. She knows when things are not right. Plus I guess there is always that slight worry that if she got pregnant you would run off...which..I am not saying you would...but even when your quite sure your guy wouldn't there is always that vague fear in the back of your head that maybe he would. Is she on the pill? Perhaps looking into a quite reliable form of contraceptive will do you some good. The pill might help her irregular periods anyway making them more manageable... It probably is just a case of giving her time. I doubt she actually doesn't want to have sex...and as time goes by she will start thinking less irrationally about it. Just don't pressure her. If this goes on for a long time...talk to her about it.
We talked about the pill before but she doesn't really like the idea of it cause everybody reacts differently to the hormones, which I understand so I don't mind. Maybe you're right and she does just need some time to get over the scare, because honestly she has said once or twice before that maybe we should stop because of the same type of situation we just had, but that obviously hasn't lasted lol Only this time I was a little worried because she seemed really shook up by it and she sounded more serious this time, but I guess I'll talk to her about it later like you said if it seems like she's still bothered by it. Thanks!
Ask her if her concerns about getting on the pill are more important than her concerns about getting pregnant. Irregular periods? Sounds like a perfect candidate for the pill to me.
Worst case, you can still fool around without having intercourse, and maybe after a few weeks of that, she will come around on the idea of protected sex again. I'm not a big fan of the pill either, but it would solve the problem. If you like her enough not to break up with her over sex, then I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just enjoy your time together, and I'm sure you will come to an agreement on the physical stuff in time.
Thanks for the responses ^_^ Don't know if I would bring up the pill again, but maybe later. For now I'm just gonna go with the flow and see how things work out, we do still have fun in the other ways so we'll see how it goes.
I hate taking the pill but to be honest its alot better then getting pregnant... It is always worth a try..if it really sends her scewy she can always come off the pill again...
Yeah, I'm waiting for the day they come out with a pill for guys that makes em shoot blanks or something...seriously. I have tried every birth control pill out there, even the really low-dose ones, and they all mess me up. I become a person I don't like: emotional, needy, moody, bloated, etc.
me too.... I had an implant put in and that sent me insane... Currently i am on femidine (thats prob not spelt right) and it seems to be going alright so far...but i have only been on it a month...i had come off everything for a while but after two scares in a month both not my fault i freaked out and have put myself back on the pill... so we will see how this one goes...
use a condom its 99 % safe. if she still doesnt want to, tell her to give u a blow job. if she still doesnt want to, then shes probably getting it somewhere else!!!
i kno how you feel....my gf doesnt want to take the emergency pill even when we did screw up....lets js say i was fucking worried shitless when her period came late
