Relatives bringing their dog with them

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It's a week get over it. It's a tinny dog it's not like they are going to be there for months.

 

It's a little bit hard to just get over it considering we have NEVER had a dog in our house, nor do we want one. I would have an outside dog, but not an inside one. Why would I let someone bring a dog in my house when I wouldn't even bring one in. That would be like if I smoked, and just expected everyone to let me smoke in their house just because I was there visiting.

 

A little dog isn't going to damage your house. Seriously get over it.

 

Yes, a puppy can damage my house. It can piss and shit on my carpet, bite and scratch my children, and shed when my husband is allergic to cats and dogs. I've worked hard to pay for my house, that's why I choose to keep animals outside.

 

a puppy isn't going to hurt your kids. Talk about paranoid. I am sure that she wont let the dog run all over the place and yorkies don't shed much at all. If it was a big dog or more than one I could understand but it's a dog that weighs less than 5 pounds.. have a heart.

 

By the way, I would take your post to heart if you wouldn't have been rude from the beginning. Telling me to just get over it isn't helping me at all. I've had puppies before, and I don't really want my furniture chewed up either, considering it's not even my dog and we don't allow dogs in our house.

 

Paranoid is not the problem. My Daughter is blind in one eye because a PUPPY jumped up and scratched her EYEBALL, so DON'T try to tell me that a puppy wouldn't hurt my child.

Maybe I didn't go into all the full details about why I didn't want dogs in my house, but I didn't think anyone would be cruel enough to just say get over it.

 

Well you should have told her then and stop bitching about it. If you don't have the guts to tell her then stop bitching.

 

Yea, thanks. I've only met the woman a few times, so I'm not comfortable pissing her off yet over her stupid dog. But thanks for being a complete ass to me. I'm done.

 

It would be easy eneough for you to just tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her bringing the dog because of your daughters accident... Simple as that.

 

Thank you, I feel bad enough about what happened to my daughter. I appreciate you writing back. I know I got frustrated with you, but I know that you didn't know all the details and I felt like I was being attacked.

I'm going to take your advice and just try to explain the situation to her and hopefully she will understand without it damaging my husband and his fathers relationship since they only get to see each other once a year.

 

Also the dog wont be a small puppy any more by February. IF she treats the dog like you say she does it will spend all if it's time on her lap. I have an aunt that has a poodle like that.

 

I also know what it is like to having in laws bring dogs.... I get to meet my in laws for the first time next week. They are brining 2 100 pound dogs with them. So there will be 5 adults 2 big dogs and my little cat all our little house. My cat will be living in the bedroom for a week until after the wedding is over and the in laws are gone.

 

with it been only a week would it be posible to ask your in-laws to get a neighbour or friend to look after the dog?

if your husband is allergic to cats & dogs this should be something your in-laws know about. why not just gentley remind your mother-in-law of your husbands allergy & your daughters experience with dogs & say you would rather they didnt bring their puppy.

if they do insist on bringing the dog then set some restrictions within your home, maybe find a sutable room in which the dog can stay, say the utility room or the garage.

i hope you work something out.

 

Thanks everyone. I'm sure she won't get a sitter for the dog, but I have to do something at this point. I think I'm more frustrated than anything at the way it was thrown at me. I'm thinking instead of them coming here, we might have to take a trip to see them and stay in a hotel if we can't fix this.

 

I'm so sorry! Y'know, if it was me I'd be upset too. Not that she's bringing a dog... but that she's just INFORMING you that she'll be bringing one, and you've got to figure out how to deal with it.

Does she KNOW about your daughter? Because honestly, I would think it's rather heartless to just assume to bring a dog into a house where something like that had happened. I understand that you don't know her terribly well and that being your in-laws you can't just be blunt & say what you want to, but still... I'd say something!

How about something like, "You know, I'd LOVE to see you and your husband and we're REALLY looking forward to your visit! But between DH's allergies and DD still having a very real fear of dogs (I might even elaborate a bit here) I'm just not comfortable with Schnookie-Wookums being in my home." She can get mad, she can decide not to come, and she can even take it personally if she really wants to. But you've got some VERY real concerns & it sounds like it would be a complete nightmare for her to bring her dog into your home!

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love,
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its your house,, if you dont want the dog there then dont let them bring it..

you are under no obligation to cater to them just because they chose to get a dog.. they should have thought of the implications before hand..

here we require folks to keep there dogs on a leash,if they dont like it they can leave, plain and simple..

you are not obligated to give a explanation,your not obligated to give anything..

just say no...

 

Thanks everyone. I keep going back and forth on whether I should just let them stay to keep peace, but it's not really in my nature when I know that I have some valid reasons to not want the dog inside. I wish I could get my husband to "man up" and tell them, but he just wants to keep them happy.

My daughter still LOVES dogs, so I may just be really scared that something else "could" happen to her or one of my others. I know that it was just a freak accident, but I still think of it everyday. My MIL does know what happened to her, but honestly I think this dog is her whole life now and she's not even thinking about why I don't want it here.