Remember when people used to be nice to each other?

Not perfectly so, but much better than today… Most people were genuinely worried that if they were perceived as rude and self-centered, they would end up with no friends, and they truly wanted friends. Now, kindness is more likely to be perceived as weakness, insincerity, or foolishness. If you aren’t family, you are competition - the enemy.

Sometimes I think I’m better off living in the past than the present.

I remember people sometimes going out of their way to be extremely kind and thoughtful toward someone who was, at that point, only a potential friend or acquaintance. Nobody worried about that being perceived as gay or creepy or weird - it was just being nice. And I remember people making an effort to be polite even when they disagreed with others.

Having a warm personality used to be a personal asset, not just a business liability.


Serenity’s a long time
coming to me
In fact I don’t believe
I know what it means anymore

-- John Denver

 

I used to be nice. Then the world tried to kill me. Now I'm an asshole. Fuck if that's gonna happen again.

 

I'm Nice To People, And 99.999% Of People Are Nice To Me....



Cheers Glen.

 

I'm usually kind to other people so i usually get that kindness back, though it may help that I live in TX.

 

I'm wondering if you're seeing the past through rose-colored lenses...I'm 57, and it seems to me that people are about the same as they've always been. I do think that in this online age we get a lot more exposure to more of the nasties than we might have in our exclusive social circles in the past...but even in the social circles people could be kinda mean sometimes.

 

I am not that old, but it seems to me that people did used to be a lot nicer than they are today.

 

I think I'm pretty nice, and most people around me are nice.

It gets boring. I like hanging out with the mean people, they're funny

 

same here....but yesterday some old man in a wheelchair started swearing at me because I was too close to the crosswalk..I wanted to get out and wring his neck..it pissed me off that he felt entitled to bitch me out for no good reason

I dont flip out too often but once a guy on a motorcycle thought I stopped too close to him at a red light so he rolled back and bumped my bumper...I popped the clutch and laid rubber climbing his rear tire and wrecking his license plate and fender..maybe even the seat...:mickey:...he came up beside me all puffed up but settled down when he saw my size...I suggested we pull off to the side and call the police to settle it...he hopped on the bike and drove away instead

 

Sam said I used to be nice, what happened?,, ...LULZ..

 

I'm still keepin it parle vous francais you know what i mean? If you associate Nice with boring, you probably don't know what Nice can be like. Though Satire and pranks are awfully swell too, especially if you do them the Nice way! Yeah!

 

4reelz4reelz, keeping it reelz..

 

I hate to disappoint you Sam, but sometimes you're nice anyway, in spite of your best efforts not to (online, at least). Some part of your brain still knows that not everyone is out to get you.

You guys are both sweet, in completely different ways. You are exceptional. :cheers2: As long as there are a few left, the world still has a shred of hope.

Quite true, but it was still very different then. People in "polite society" would stab you in the back but act nice in front of you and other witnesses. There were limits to the nastiness. I think I liked that better.

Boring? You and I are using completely different definitions of the word "nice". Have you read any of my other posts? I'm not nice in the boring way.

Earlier this week, somebody behind me laid on the horn apparently because I was driving too slow to suit them, even though we were coming up on a traffic jam and there was nowhere to go. I checked the mirror, and it was a little old grandmother type with white hair! I gave her the finger, and I don't regret it. The old bitch earned it. Ten years ago, I would have bet you $1000 that I would never live to see that situation take place. I never thought about giving my grandmother the finger, but she never acted like a jackass behind the wheel.

Orison, you have to be nice to everybody until the end of squirrel hunting season! :rofl:

 

Most mean people deserve a "grace period". Were you continue being kind to them (for a short time) even if their being jerks. Most start acting nice because their used to getting the attitude in return instead of niceness. At least that's what I found.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8YXU1Yrfq8"]YouTube - Flanagan & Allen : 'Nice People'

 

I'm a nice person, and by that I mean that I don't take pleasure in hurting others or making them feel bad, and I enjoy helping people when I can, and if people think I'm weak or something like that for being helpful or kind....then so be it.

Common courtesy is almost dead as far as I'm concerned, sometimes I think I'm the only one on Earth who practices it.

Sometimes people think I'm mean or conceded because I can be a bit of a smartass at times, but that's just my personality and sooner or later they come to realize that I'm far from either

 

no i dont remember that

 

I'm nice in person and most people are nice to me. I can get mean when I have to, but I'm real nice in general.

People have definitely got a lot more comfortable being rude, but I don't think it's on that large of a scale, at least not around here.
Except on the road. Drivers have become maniacs.

 

I have lived in a lot of different neighborhoods and environments in my life. For more years than not I have been a distinct minority, and in more ways than one. To be perfectly honest, as far as I can tell, the great majority of folks are good, nice, family people. But, there's always been a few "bad apples" out there, for a variety of reasons. Unfortunately, these days there are more people than ever and more reasons to embrace hate and anger than ever. Therefore, I believe we are witnessing an era of more "bad apples" than ever. Nonetheless, I still believe that the great majority are fundamentally good-natured and good-hearted.

 

a kid (maybe 14 or 15) actually held the coffee shop door for me today instead of hurrying up to keep up with his buddy (I walk slow)


there is still hope