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i have being quite happy recently accepting the fact that i might be bisexual, i can stop looking at cocks though, and noticing how good they look, and get me aroused

 

When you let the walls down and accept yourself for who you really are it's very liberating.You see everything differently including cock.Cock looks alot better after accepting the Bi fact,at least that's been my expirience.
May Peace Reign,

 

are you bisexual joey, where u ever with women at all constantly, then realised ur feelings for me, what was it that made u realise it, what were u going through

 

Yea I'm bi.
When I was a boy i had expirimented with a friend of mine.
I was really into him and us being somewhat intimate just caused me to want him more.I could have loved him,I did love him actually.Unfortunately he got weird after sex and stopped hanging with me.
I did'nt realize it then.
I lived in a very homophobic town.So I learned to hide my desires well,the other option was get my ass kicked everyday so I kept silent.I tried to be like all the other kids but never really fit in and became very unhappy.
My first girlfriend was a girl i got set up with (without me knowing lol).I tried to do what I thought I was supposed to.I was a nervous wreck and very insecure.
As time went on I got into relationships with girls and occassionally had guys for sex.I had had a number of guys when I was thinking of comming out.I got so freaked out about it though that i did'nt and tried to pretend.I was so afraid of people hating me so much.
I began a relationship with a girl and tried to forget about it.
That relationship did'nt work out and had a few more relationships with women.
Finally I began seeing guys again but only for sex.
Eventually I meet this guy(that I really liked)and began a relationship with him,or should I say he started a relationship with me lol.
When I finally realized I could have romantic feelings for a man,that's when I really began to know.Knowing,accepting and being guilt free has been a long road,I'm slowly coming out now and things are generally good.
Hope that helps,.
Joy & Peace
J,..

 

happy for u mate, but still leaves me eevn more puzzled, i have never had sex with man, but its like i need to try it to find out if i like it to put my mind at reast, why did evryone tell me i had hocd, thats what i am so upset about aswell

 

Actually, i don't know if having sex with a guy will lead you to any conclusion. I had to wait sometime between the time i found out i was into guys and my first time with a guy.
Turns out you're bi, like girls, and are attracted to cocks. weird you only talk about cocks, not about guys yet. Guess it's the next step on the acceptance way : as joey said, you will find out that same sex "romantic" relationship is possible (though i haven't found it yet).
But don't wait for gay sex to accept that, try not just to accept the fact that you are attracted to cocks, try to like it. Guess it will make it much easier

-x-

 

but when i see attractive men i feel something like there is omething there that is nice, i mean i use to think i was staright but in a way i know i am not

 

when u say acceptance stage, do aot ov u gay men/bi people tralk about cocks and how thye like them so much

 

Actually, i don't, as i don't have alot of gay/bi people around me to talk about it. My friends are all straight, men and women. And even with girls, u don't have the same conversation, u can talk about how hot a guy is, or even about sex with a guy, but talking about cocks, pretty rare.
I guess it depends on the person, and what u looking for first. Maybe u 're in a state of mind that u really wanna have sex with guys, so u kinda focus on it. Maybe.
I'm more looking for a real relationship. Some kind of romantic things, so what i look at first is a smile, or somthing in his eyes, even with straight guys (straight guys, it's always better...)

-x-

 

why is it always better with staright guys, just so confused its like i knw i like men, but where can i go from liking girls to not anymore,

 

What i mean when i say it's better with straight guys is that the guy in front of u is even more confused, or just wants to play. makes the thing different from two guys who are into guys, willng to be with guys, but not fancying each other. A straight guy doesn't know what his type of guy is, so that gives more... opportunities.
About the move from liking girls to not like them anymore, it's not that obvious, never that clear. And that totally depends on the way u liked girls.
If it's just physical, it may fade away, but if it's more about temper, behavior, connections, well it won't fade. You will still appreciate girls, not the same way, but the connections will still be here.

So, how do u (did u) "connect" with girls?

 

more physical like alot ov sex, but i liked the sex, was never good with relationships to be honest with u, but it was all about ghow the guirls looked to me, like she is hot, but guys, its like i see one and get an instant feeling about them staright away, and the thought ov sex with man use to bother me but now it doesnt,

 

Well, i was quite the same, about girls, but a bit younger. In high school, relationships with girls never lasted long, (meaning over a week) and i discovered i was not wired that way pretty young. I guess i was 15 when i started having doubts, and had sex with a guy i was 17. Never had the chance to try a girl.
U ever had sex with guys? U say u feel okay about that. Meaning u feel cool with it or ready for it?

 

no never had sex with a guy, but sayin i am ready for it, it like i just want to go do it so i know if i like it or not, so i am settled in my head, what is it like,

 

What it's like?
Well, depends on a lot of things. Depends on if you are top or bottom, depends on the guy, depends on how horny you are at the moment...
I used to find it boring for some time, when i had this sex mate, it had become like a habit, so no real feelings.
But otherwise, when u really want it, when the guy with u wants it too, even the first time is great. Well, mine was.


got a question for u: top or bottom? or both?
It would be way to easy to think that "former" straight guys are exclusively top...

-x-

 

i dont actauuly know, cause i have never actaully done it yet, what do u mean former straight guy, are u trying to say that i am gay/bisexual, i would say both why not try both if i am going to do it

 

what i mean is that guys whodated girls for several years, but turn out to be gay and start having sex with guys often prefer staying top, so they can still pretend they are straight, or at least, they don't feel like they give it all up.
But u sound pretty open to both sides, which is the best way to find out who you are.
Honestly, i haven't tried both, depends a lot on the partner and how ready you feel.

 

so where has this whole hocd thing i apparently had gone then, why do guys stay on top though once u get fucked by a man then all posotions are open to chose from,

 

Getting fucked means quite a lot for a straight guy. Just looks not "normal", just because they are not wired this way.
But that's true enough, once u do it, that opens dozens of possibilities.
I keep thinking there no such thing as hocd. I remember when i was younger, by the times parents think it's a good thing to talk with their children about sexuality. It was the time gay people were more frequently on tv, first gay characters on tv shows... I remember my mom telling me that if one of us turned out to be gay, he would directly be sent somewhere where we could be fixed... which explains why i still haven't come out to my parents. Have you?

 

why would i have comeout when i havent even dated a man, kissed a man let alone have sex with one, o why is there a reason for me to come out, i beleived this hocd thing, but then i started getting rite depressed, so then i accepted the possibilility that i was bisexual and felt quite happy with it, like i was back to myself, what do u mean fo straight guys getting fucked is a difference, if your gay ur gay simple as, doesnt mean they have to get fucked by a man, siome dont even like anal sex