Questions, out of curiosity. My husband and I just got a roommate - he's been a pretty close friend of mine for a few years, and he's known my husband as long as I have. He's a year younger than me (17; 18 in November) and the ONLY person we'd ever have as a roommate, which we talked about before he moved in. So, to people with roommates - do they smoke, too? How is the arrangement/agreement or lack thereof, if they do? Here in Canadaland, it's standard to get paid every 2 weeks. Luckily, we get paid one Monday, Fitz (the roommate) gets paid the next, etc. If one of us has money and we're all weedless, it's like an unspoken agreement that ALL of us make our best attempt/s to find/get weed and always - ALWAYS smoke each-other up. No hiding out in our bedrooms or anything, we just chill in the living room, crank the music and wonder "who's gonna show up tonight". Roaches all go into the same tin, and they're free-for-all ONLY when you're out of weed and the other person/people aren't home. Pipes, bongs, papers, lighters, busters, scissors, etc. are also free-for-all. The music, again, is another free-for-all. If someone asks to change the music, they're likely to be told "no" but we don't really give a shit if they just go over and change it without asking, haha. Same goes for the X-Box - if you want to play, just play, don't ask. So between us and the roommate, almost EVERYTHING is anything-goes, from the unspoken agreement that we smoke each-other up, to eating each-others' groceries, to dealing with our dog (he's mine and my husband's, but the roommate is allowed to walk him, punish him if he gets into trouble, etc.). But I've heard about a lot of people - especially stoners - having trouble with roommates. About their roommates bitching if they smoke in the house or right outside (instead of going AWAY from the house), or about roommates that also smoke, but steal their weed, break pipes and bongs, etc. So, if you have a roommate, how are things between you and them?
When I was in college, I had 2 different occasions with roommates. Once I lived with another guy and 2 other girls. (Worst decision ever!) Yeah, I thought it would be cool to have girls that I wasnt dating around the house, to clean and cook, have good conversation with, just general stuff like that, but it turns out they were bigger slobs than I was. They would constantly sneak bud or food or money from my room. They would never want to hang out or basicially do anything. And one of em fucked some hobo on my futon!! Second time I lived with 2 other buddys of mine, and our situation was similar to yours, where everything was shared. Well, most stuff. (Use your own bath towel and bar of soap, lol) That was a much more relaxed roomie situation, imo.
Yeah, funny until you saw this guys. He was actually a man with out a home, not just a scrubby looking guy. No idea why she did it with him, but I was so upset that it was on my futon!
Could I suggest one modification to your rules. If someone has a special pipe or something (senteimental attachment), it should be kept in that person's room; that person should inform the roomies that it is special and the roomies should respect that and keep their hands off. If someone has trouble respecting that request OR if someone gets a special attachement to all their stuff you are going to have so many other problems that pipe sharing will be very low on the priority list. P.S. Congrats on your marriage.
I think each roommate arrangement is different. I think though it's almost a given that there will be conflict. I mean, everything you stated sounds somewhat utopian, but... let's say you and hubby wanted to smoke out, just the 2 of you. You know, twist a fattie from the communal stash, go in your bedroom and smoke it. Could be a problem if he was there. And people are different, but if I was into a favorite tune and a roomate went & put his own stuff on, I'd be pissed. I think things would go MUCH smoother if your roomie had his own tv & stereo etc in his room and you guys had yours in the living room That way you and hubby and your roomie could listen & watch what each wants to.
This kid has stayed with us before, not as a roommate, but as a VERY close friend that I kind-of played "mom" to all last Summer and a bit longer. He has psychological issues (don't we all?) and I'm listed by his doctors, social workers, etc. as his "safety" person - and so, there is absolutely NO conflict, and there won't be. Nobody has any "special" pipes in our house, it's just made clear what we like/don't like with our pipes. Ours, we'll use iso (alcohol) to clean it. He doesn't because it VERY slowly weakens glass. We have a bong that's pretty badly cracked (acrylic 3-chamber) and it's understood that we all have to be incredibly careful with it, but we don't worry about that either. And, haha... my one HUGE rule is that ONLY I DO HOUSEWORK. Nobody else, dammit. Leave your dishes on the counter and your laundry in the hamper, I'm not picky about trash in the living room, if you leave your pipe/tin/whatever on the table and it disappears, it's in your bedroom. My husband wakes up between 4 and 5 AM for work and I get up with him, so the housework/cleaning is MY morning routine and I'm not a happy camper if someone fucks it up, doing my dishes or something... then I have nothing to do all day, haha. It's kinda silly to say "No, you can't clean up after yourself." but I'm serious about it, it's my daily routine, and neither of the guys are huge mess-makers or anything anyway.
i have a roommate right now who also smokes, but we got lucky with the buyign weed thing; we've been getting free stuff all summer. but when we weren't getting free stuff it was basically an informal buy-your-own-but-share sort of thing. as I own all of our pipes/smoking devices (3 pipes and a shit bong), i just let my roommate borrow them indefinetely (or until i go back east in a few days)... but if i want them back i just ask and go get them. TheRosesAreFree, i'm gonna learn from your experience... i'm living with 2 guys and 2 girls this year at uni too, except the girls arent the kind to fuck hobos on my futon, i can see them stealing my weed. i'm not down for people taking my weed - i'll give them plenty if they ask, but stealing is a no-no. and pieces, too... i hate it when one of my pieces go missing and someone borrowed it without asking... at least leave a note or something, ya know?
Haha, yeah. Our pieces DO NOT leave the house. There's no reason for them to. When the roommate gets weed, he asks me to roll him a few joints (he can't roll well at all) and we just use the pipes/bongs when we're home. Another rule is that we ARE allowed to smoke resin from each-others' pipes. He has this absolutely amazing glass pipe that collects resin like you wouldn't believe. You can smoke resin through the carb and get it to cherry and get mad resin hoots. So we're allowed to smoke resin out of the pipes because we're not selfish, resin is free and it's nice when we don't have weed and he isn't home to smoke us up, vice versa for him. Oil is also usually a free-for-all, since it gets hotknifed and just stays in the kitchen anyway, and we usually make it ourselves/almost never pay for it. As for my husband and me, being a married couple with a roommate... we don't have problems there, either. We never EVER abandon ship (see: the living room couches, haha) to smoke by ourselves. We'd rather make a million phone calls to try to get friends to come over so we can smoke them up, than just sit at home and get baked, just the two of us. That's just how we are. If we went into the bedroom to smoke a joint alone, the roommate would just pack a bowl and smoke it to himself, I'm sure of it. Fitz (the roommate) and myself are VERY laid-back, easy going folks. Not the type to get mad over little things, or even big things. We have A television, but we don't actually have television. No 'normal' channels, no cable, nothing. We have a TV, a VCR, DVD player, and XBox, along with the stereo system. My husband and I listen to pretty much everything, so far as music goes, and Fitz is a metalhead. So when he isn't home, that's when we listen to a lot of mellow stuff, old Country, reggae, basically the stuff that Fitz doesn't like. When he's home, we listen to stuff that he likes, or just let him pick the music. I have music that my husband doesn't like but Fitz does, so we only listen to that when the husband's at work. It all just kinda flows together, being three young'ins that smoke a lot of weed, listen to a ridiculous variety of music, and have gotten along incredibly well since day 1. The last roommate that we had accused me of stealing weed from him. He found it in his room a while later, but hadn't searched very hard for it because he was just SURE I had stolen it. Fitz lost his stash tin a few days ago, screamed "NIKKI!! WHAT DID YOU DO WITH MY DRUGS?!" and when I told him I didn't see his tin all morning, we searched his room until he found it between his bed and the wall, where he threw it that morning when he was half-asleep. He never made the slightest comment about it having been stolen or anything (other than those god damned gnomes that he's SURE we have living in our basement... I told him it's just the furnace, but he's convinced otherwise) and we giggled the entire time we were searching for it because it was such a mysterious disappearance.
If you love someone enough I'd find it a great thing to be out on your own with someone you love at 18.
I'm not getting defensive here, I really don't care, but I'm curious... What the fuck does being married at 18 have to do with this thread? And yeah, I didn't think I'd end up married at all... and figured if I ever was, I would have myself a wife, not a husband. But it happened, so it must be right. Didn't think I'd ever have kids of my own, either (I kinda wanted to adopt) but we're planning that in a few years, too. Funny how things happen when you meet that someone. Don't criticize... "This could be YOU!" *points*
When I had roomates we toke each all up but we all had own stash. Also we all understood that sometimes we all like to just sit alone relax toke watch tv and veg out. Also we all had a understanding that sometimes we are unable to share. You know a day before a payday and you maybe have just enough for yourself for the night. Taking money, weed or other things out of rooms is worng and not allowed Food and pipes and we all share but we all put in and also each person own tv radio computer in own room. I no longer live with roomates because alot of roomates never replaced food or weed and stuff so I instead I moved on to living with GF's when I was younger. LOL
I had the same exact situation as you DeathRowDisco. Only difference was that I was the "roomate" and i lived with my sister and her husband (in their 30's). We all had our own stash for like bed time bowls and what not but other than that we would always invite each other to come toke up. Same with food, it's just food.........I ate some of theirs, they ate some of mine it was just a good understanding. Same for music too lol. The only thing we didn't usually get "when we wanted it" was the computer. But most times all 3 of us would just chill around the computer playing games and what not and passin around the bowl. So I guess it was all in all just a nice, smooth living arrangement. Very fun. Then I started college and now im broke so I live with the parentals till i can either get a better job or until im done with college. - 42o -
