rough sex

I get really turned on by biting, choking, and such... but I don't think my boyfriend will even consider anything like that. He's made comments before about how he doesn't see how people could like that. I'm get a little frustrated because we only do what he wants and it's not bad, but I like it rough sometimes. I don't really know how to tell him what I want. Any advice?

 

tell him what you would like to do .......if he has problems with it ....find a new boyfriend

 

Grab him by the hair and pull and say "BITE ME BITCH!" Then shove his face in your neck

 

hmm I like rough sex once in awhile but choking is pretty extreme. think about this no matter how much it turns you on could you ever look at your partner the same way again if he choked you? probobly not and I am guessing it would put some weird stuff on him too

 

I did what someone suggested above with my girlfriend and just took off when she said she didnt like it rough. Worked for me.

 

Ask what his fantasy is, then share yours. I mean, you're in a sexual relationship, surely this is something you guys should be talking about, no? It it's not for him, it's not for him and I guess you're on the hunt again.

 

guys dont care if you tell them what you want during sex.... it pleases me more to know im pleasing them then to alone please myself... if that means anything.

 

now theres a true man!!! love it!!!

 

I know exactly what your going through my fiancee he would not even think about smacking my ass let alone biting me. but after i explained to him how it turns me on and makes me get off he does it , not as often as id like but he still does it more than he would have. Also I had shown him what it feels like to be choked, bit, etc. After i had shown him he understood a bit more, cuz he got off reall quick. Im suggesting that you try to show him, be aggresive dont be shy these are things that you like during sex and you want it so take what you want. Or while you two are in the middle of having sex tell him to choke you or smack your bum and if he wont grab his hand and make him do it.

 

I too like it rougher than my boyfriend. But, he is willing to tie me up, this is a great start. And he will hold my hair, I generally have to do the pulling, but he is getting better. We bought a flogger recently and haven't yet to try it. But he was surprised by how much it didn't hurt, when he hit himself with it. So, I think he may be willing to use it on me, pretty soon.

So, he is starting to come around. I think he has just been afraid of REALLY hurting me. And I think that is very sweet. And he is a very nice guy, that doesn't have an abusive bone in his body, so I think it is quite against his nature to be rough with me.

And, I don't HAVE to have it rough. It's just something that I enjoy. But, I love him much more than I love rough sex, so there is no way I would ever give him up, over something like that.

 

rough sex to me, would be doing anal without any lube..

 

Anal without lube is not allowed in my bed... LOL

 

i tried it once without lube...big mistake...i need ky jelly

 

Ouch... yah, KY, spit, SOMETHING.... LOL

 

I got him to tie me up... that was nice. I just wish he wasn't so shy. He likes all things traditional and is the complete opposite of me. He not very confident sexually and it really drives me crazy sometimes. I like to let loose and I think that might make him uncomfortable. I don't want to pressure him into doing anything he doesn't feel comfortable doing, but if he wanted to do something different I would at least try it.

 

train him.....cattle prods are good learning tools.

 

I could try that, it might be fun! :X Hmmm...cattle prods, that never occured to me before. lol.

 

he tied you up? if you're trying to disciplen him it should be him tied up. just a logic thing i suppose.

 

I was kidding about that last post. I wouldn't actually shock someone with a cattle prod. And I don't want to discipline him, I just want him to loosen up a bit.

 

Tell him this- have a stick in your hand, stand 40 yards from me, and charge at me like a caveman.