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Not sure what to do, so figured I might as well start looking into it. I'm 17 years old, and plan on getting sex reassignment surgery to be female.

Well I don't really know where to start, and if I should start hormone therapy as soon as I can or what. That and I've been told I sound like I have a severe case of some sort of depression. Had it for last two years and been considering therapy when I turn 18 maybe which is a little over half a year from now.

I really want to be a woman, and have since before I was depressed. Though hearing horror stories about descrimination are scaring me. Though with the job I've been considering it wouldn't be a huge problem as far as insurance and stuff goes.

Well I don't know if this is the right place, but could anyone point me to a good forum or place on this one maybe that's the right place to start learnign what I need to do for the surgery and such. And as for the depresion, anyone have thoughts about what I should do there?

 

i wish you good luck for the future. but i only wish i knew more to help you. i wish i had the chance to experience every concious perception, from the beggining to the end.


forget anti-depressant meds from the doc. try going to the pharmacy and getting some St. johns wort, or 5-htp. if they dont work, then perhaps get the harsh sickly feeling meds.

 

I don't really know much about this subject, but I do know that you're still young, and you should definitely give yourself time to think about it, and learn everything you can about the surgery if you haven't already.

Ask questions like this, is it irreversible?
That is something important to know, because if someday perhaps, your mind changes, you wouldn't want to be stuck with something that is so permanent. When it comes to any type of permanent surgery, regardless of the subject matter you want to be 110% sure it is exactly what you want.

Don't take offense to the fact that I state you are young, it is just the mere fact that your mind and body are still growing very much so. I'm not a whole lot older than you are, and I find myself changing often, in my goals, in my opinions, etc. It's part of growing.

I understand it might be something you want really bad, and are impatient about, but I would definitely give it a couple/few years to think about, and if you still want it then, go for it. What's the rush?

There should be a link at the top of this forum for this sort of thing; the people there might be able to help you a bit more.

I think if it's something you want, and know you want, after giving yourself time, go for it, and fuck who wants to judge you; it's your life, your body, and your choice. But don't do something that you might end up regretting...

I don't just mean regretting that transition, but the look of the surgery itself. I am not sure what you all intend to do... I've heard about some people that get the whole shebang, and get their cheeks and face done as well, to make them look more feminine; you need to decide what you want with that as well. Would you be prepared, if perhaps you got an entire surgery, on your face and all, and it ended up looking nothing like you had imagined? If you got breast implants, and they were a failure, how would you deal with it?

I suppose the the breast implants aspect make me more frightened than anything, because if not done properly, they can literally start coming out of the seam after the surgery and such.

Take into account how you would be able to handle these things, how you're going to pay for it, what you want, and make sure you research plenty of different doctors before making a decision... You don't just want to go to the first doctor you hear about for a surgery that is as life altering as this is, you know?

I am not, by any means, advising you against it, I just want you to be sure, and be prepared for all the possibilities. Your desire to be female does not bother me, the surgery does.

But, as I said before, if this is something you decide to do, and go through with it, fuck what people think... if you live your life worrying about what they think, and letting them interfere with who you really are, you are never going to be happy. Maybe part of the reason you feel depressed is because of that; because of your uneasiness about what people might think about the real you.

If the people who are already around you react negatively towards this, find people that can either relate to what you're going through, or people who just flat out accept you for who you are. Maybe try finding support groups, or forums where you can talk to others that understand what you're feeling. It might make you feel a lot more comfortable with yourself, and being yourself in society today.

Aside from St. John's Wort and the like, there are even better ways to cope with depression.

The biggest thing I can offer as a suggestion is: exercise. Although you may not feel motivated to exercise while struggling with depression, you have to push yourself to do it because it WILL help. It will increase the levels of seratonin in your brain [the very thing that people are typically depleted of while depressed]

Get adequate sleep...not too much, not too little. For the time being, until you feel better, try setting a time you are going to go to bed every night, and wake up every morning...for your age, about 8 hours of sleep is what you need. Start dimming the lights about an hour or two before bed time, unwind, read, write, whatever it takes to start relaxing. Do not nap in between during the day; too much sleep can just make depression slide out of control. Too little will do the same. Make sure your bedroom is at a comfortable temperature... one that you are not cold, and one that you do not sweat during the night. If you don't already have one, try a matress pad, and lots of comfy pillows and soft sheets and blankets.

If you are feeling a lot of things right now, try expressing them either through talking to someone you trust, or by writing, art, or other ways that might help release the built up negative feelings.

Aside from that, if you need anything PM me. Good luck <3

 

Oh, also about sleep... melatonin is an important thing to pay attention to...its our body's reaction to light and dark; we are designed to sleep in the dark, and awake in the day...if you're having trouble functioning during greyish days, maybe try out one of those light boxes. I have one, and it works really well, but you have to be careful to use it properly because if you use it too long, or too close to you, you might experience a bit of a headache later.

Draw the shades at night, and open them immediately in the morning. I suggest waking up a bit earlier than when you have to start getting ready for school or work, or whatever you do; open the shades, sit fairly close to the window or otherwise good source of light, and let yourself wake up a bit. For energy, while you're depressed, you might want to stay away from too much caffeine [though I don't really follow this, because I'm in love with coffee] possibly try drinking things that have guarana in them to get a boost of healthy energy, or take B12.

If you eat breakfast, eat LIGHT carbs. Heavier carbs like breads and such might just fill you up so much that you want to sleep... possibly try some light cereal or oatmeal. Fruits are a great thing for breakfast too.

Also, make sure your depression isn't related to anything physical like hormonal imbalances, vitamin deficiences, or anything of the sort. Before anything I would suggest going to a doctor and asking for a blood panel, and whatever they do for males to check hormonal imbalances. Straight out tell the doctor you've been feeling down, and you want to make sure it's not related to anything physical and they should be able to tell you exactly what tests you would need to go through.

The mind and body are exclusive to each other; how you feel mentally can affect your physical health, and vice versa: how you feel physically can affect your mental health.

If you don't seem to get adequate nutrition, take a multi-vitamin and possibly just some plain ol' vitamin C.

I could go on forever.
PM me if you need anything else.

 

http://hipforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=435

You might want to visit this forum.

 

thanks honey and o the author of this thread, I will happily move this to the transexual forum, if you would like, there posters will have had some experince of what you are going through, so just let me know what you would like
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Thanks, I've already had god knows how many conversations in the last couple years abut if it's really the thing I want. People trying to discourage me or it seemed like it but anyway. I want to get it earlier so I am done with it earlier, and because I've read the younger you are the better it will turn out. I won't really get started with it until I am 18 but that's still over half a year from now.

I plan on getting the full deal, even removing that which declares me a male ... Well as for pay, I've been working on saving up money but pretty sure it'll be paid for even easier once I take a job with my parents over in New Orleans.

Thanks about the tips, I'll try them out. Though not sure if they'll help.


And thanks for the forum link.

 

Not sure what to do, so figured I might as well start looking into it. I'm 17 years old, and plan on getting sex reassignment surgery to be female.

Well I don't really know where to start, and if I should start hormone therapy as soon as I can or what. That and I've been told I sound like I have a severe case of some sort of depression. Had it for last two years and been considering therapy when I turn 18 maybe which is a little over half a year from now.

I really want to be a woman, and have since before I was depressed. Though hearing horror stories about descrimination are scaring me. Though with the job I've been considering it wouldn't be a huge problem as far as insurance and stuff goes.

 

well first of all check out these threads, it may just help you get a clearer picture about what this is all about
http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=188579

http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=191159

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The second thing you should do is seek professional advice and that would involue going to your doctor, if s/he's your family doctor make sure s/he will keep this confidential, however they should do this anyway.
look in your local yellow pages for transexual support groups and telephone help lines near you, so you can start to speak to people who are in your situation.
you are never alone with this
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Well, I just want you to know that I am not discouraging it, rather I just want you to be sure its what you want, and be aware of any health risks that might come along with the surgery is all.

Basically Im more concerned about your happiness and safety; I hope you didnt take offense to that.

The tips for depression can help, but if you're supressing these feelings a lot, or feeling singled out because people aren't accepting of it...that's another story, then you have to talk with people that understand and such. Exercise won't help, if you are letting people bring you down

I think, with time, your courage to stand up to these people and not let them get to you will be your best medicine

 

Oh also Apples, you don't need breasts implants. My friend knows someone who took the hormones and got natural D cups from them.

 

Ah are there any other people here that sought to get sex reassignment surgery (MtF), to be a lesbian? Versus going after guys?

 

Well I don't really care what my family thinks, or my friends. I had planned to move off and start new and keep somewhat contact with family but.. I'd rather just not deal with the trouble of telling them. I will probably tell my parents to get them to help me pay for it, (not out of their wallet). They're considering taking up a dare care center job that the government is funding for a good bit of money. And 1/20 of the funding would easily pay for all of my surgery if I'm correct on cost(50,000 dollars)

 

Gah I keep forgetting to add stuff, I need to pause before hitting reply. Also I exercise a little but...I'll start doing it regularly, infact I just got done jogging about 3-6 miles. Not sure on distance but I had to do a round trip so giving an estimate.


Kinda scared about getting the surgery, fears of not being attractive or a convincing female after it. I'm sure it's a common worry but eh, you know

 

Ah what does everyone else do to exercise, and stay fit and all that?

Also, any specific exercises that'd help give a feminine figure?

I've started jogging and eating more subway.

 

whats subway?
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its not a generalisation to say that the male to female transexuals I know (and I have known a few) tend to be experimental with their sexuality after the op.
while gender and sexuality is not the same thing it certainly goes hand in hand, I hope that no ones offended by me saying this, do feel free to disagree!
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Ah subway sandwiches.

 

are they that healthy??
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