I have a friend whom I've known for a couple of years now, and in that short time, he has had his heart obliterated no less than four times. Unfortunately, I think he's on his way to number five. He prefers his girls young (18+, by the way) and very, very beautiful, but the catch is that all of the girls that fit this description so far have been full of themselves, wasteful, dumb little cockteases. He is looking for a girlfriend, when all of the girls he is attracted to are just interested in flirting with a guy and having him pursue them, then it loses its fun and they just kick him aside and move on. He gets crushed, and it is really hard, as a friend, to see him that way. I have already mentioned that maybe his standards need to be tweaked to keep from getting hurt so much, and he has acknowledged this, but has made no effort to save himself any heartache. I guess he's just a glutton for emotional punishment, but there has to be something that I'm missing or haven't brought up or tried. Any suggestions? Thanks, much love.
I really don't think there is anything that you can do. I think it's great that you are looking out for him and care what happens to him, but he's just going to have to figure things out for himself.
I know in my heart of hearts that you're right... I just wish I could make him see. Lol, damn free will!
You don't indicate how old he is, but it seems from your comments that he is much older than 18, and the teen babes he has dated look at him as a fling, not a serious boyfriend, due to the age difference. An 18 year old girl is not usually ready for a serious romance.
Tends to be when someone intentionally seeks out a person that is "full of themselves, wasteful, dumb little cockteases" they are more interested in the package than the content. Meaning they make great arm candy, but lack emotional depth. Your friend might be seeking them out to avoid an emoitional attachment. Depending on his age he could be dating girls much younger as a boost to his ego and when they leave his ego is crushed. People date who they date and until they see the error of their ways there is not much you can do to change it. Some people like dating those that are bad for them so they can be the victim. Others date people they know they could never love. So until he decides to date a different type of woman this cycle will continue. Not much you can do except distance yourself some as the fallout is happening. Maybe if he goes through it alone a few times he will see the flaws in his thinking. It doesn't make you a bad friend, but ensures preservation of your sanity.
