She doesn't masturbate, should I date her?

I was with this 27yr old girl for a brief period last year. We got along great for the short time we were together. We only had sex twice and from what I remember it was just ok. I know sex usually gets better after the first few times though. The thing is, I remember her telling me that she never masturbates. I on the other hand am a sex freak, I want it as much as I can get it. I've started talking to her again but I'm afraid I might be wasting my time if she just doesn't have the urge to have sex. I've asked her if she considers herself to be a sexual person and she says she is.

I guess my question is mostly geared towards the girls on here. Do any of you love to have sex but just don't masturbate, ever? I'm curious to know if it's possible to have a good sexual relationship with someone like that.

Thanks for any advice or stories you may have!

 

craving for sex and a craving to masturbate/orgasm are two entirely different things for me

admittedly, I usually do one or the other when I'm horny, but what I'm craving is one or the other usually.

I dont' think whether or not you should date someone should be based on their masturbation habits, but if you're gonna be that shallow she probably can do better than you anyways.

 

From what you remember? Geez.....

 

From my experience, the girls I've dated who masturbate the least, want sex the most

 

well... maybe she just doesnt want to. I dont think it will make a difference

 

It's not that I'm being shallow or anything. I've just been in a really awesome relationship before but the girl just had no sex drive. You have no idea how that makes someone who has a huge sex drive feel.... it feels like you're trapped or something. I just don't want that to happen again. I've been with a lot of girls but never one that doesn't masturbate. It makes me curious to find out if girls who don't are any different.

 

let me say this again:
masturbation and sex drive are not one and the same

it's true for me and my friends. When you want an orgasm, you masturbate. when you want sex, you call up your partner. Wanting SEX and wantign to MASTURBATE are two *DIFFERENT* things

and yes, I have a very good idea how it feels to get rejected for sexual advances time and time again, thanks. But the way you've phrased the original question, it sounds like whether or not she masturbates is the most important thing in your relationship, not her sex drive, if she appreciates you, cares about you, wants to make you cum, if maybe she gets off by getting others off, etc.

 

maybe masturbating doenst turn her on you know, like oral sex doesnt turn some people on.

Ihmurria is right, they are two separate things and you get different things out of them. Sure you can want them both at the same time, but you dont have to have both for either to be effective

 

Cool thanks a lot for the advice!

 

My ex-wife had never masturbated in her life, and had an extremely high sex drive, and came very easily during intercourse. Judging just by looking at her, I would say the two things (sex drive with partner and masturbation) don't have anything to do with each other. Maybe they do correlate in some cases, I dunno, but certainly not in all.

 

wait, you are really considering not dating her because she may not have as much sexual cravings as you?

you're a cockface
do her some good, don't date her

 

agreed.

 

actually he ahs a alid point though. You should consider these sorts of things before you date someone, because its this sort of thing that causes relationshoips to breakup when they shouldnt have begun in the first place

 

yeah...but its too bad that sex is one of the first things (if not the first) that he thought about eh?

 

I knew people would say that kinda thing
not wanting someone because of their sex drive, you really don't see anything lets say.. distasteful about that?

 

pf course I can see how its a bit crass
but it doesnt mean oits not worht talking about. Lack of communication can lead to very bad things. Like when people beleive its bad manners to ask a potential partner about their sexual healt BEFORE they have sex, and then blammo, they have herpres. Stop being so precious man

 

I also think wanting to masturbate and wanting to have sex are quite different things. My wife, for example, loves sex but she hasn't masturbated much in her private life (she told me this and there is no reason for her to change her facts to me--I mean, before we married her teen years). At the same time, sometimes when we don't have sex but I finger her (that's like masturbation right, not quite, but anyway) she wants this too; at one time I said to her while fingering her, "ok let's stop here, it's too late" (I was kidding) and she was like, "no, keep doing it". But she's never like "oh, I want sex so much, lets do it; or finger me, just finger meeeeee" she's quite subtle about letting know what she wants.

I think solo masturbation is not practiced by some girls alot because it's solo, its shyness and it takes an effort...so, yeah, I think this is pretty normal, I wouldn't stop dating her just because she doesn't masturbate as often as you want her to do it. But of course, I would care if she gets off or not during lovemaking.

 

but when you mastubate, it is quite separate from the closeness you expeirence with another person.

 

talking about it and not dating the person because of it is a completely different thing
whether or not you should talk about it is not the subject here

 

agreed!