SHe Is soooo beautifull!!!! so what should i do?

so I need help. There is this girl that i met the other day. she is sooo beautiful, we talked for a little then but very briefly... anyhow my other good friend works with her and they were drinking a little the other night and that girl let slip out that she thought i was really hot. And of course that gets to me and i got quite excited... although she has a boyfriend. so last night all our friends had made arrangements to go to this thing called "Zoolights" and this girl was also there... with her boyfriend.... apparently she kinda wants to leave her boyfriend as my other friend has informed me (that one friend of mine that works with her). I personally got along with her boyfriend quite well... and even better with her. In-fact I have a really really big crush on this girl now. This doesnt happen often at all... I am just a typical pisces man who cant stop my enormous thirst for love. And I really like this girl... grrrrr! why boyfriend... she was totally flirting with me last night... damn her boyfriend...

sorry if this has been confusing... im really really sick.... if thats an excuse at all...

anyhow... what should i do. I know we could be together I see it. is it wrong to persist these feelings and lead her away from him... should i just let things happen (as you all will probly say let things happen... .which is what i dont want to hear. HAHAHA)

blarp!!

 

it sounds like you're looking for a relationship with her, rather than just a one night stand. so with that in mind, i'd definitely wait until after she has broken up with her boyfriend (without "leading her away from him"). i know you said that wasn't what you wanted to hear, but i've got some reasons for saying it....

-- you could end up as the rebound guy. it might seem like everything can be sunshine and flowers, but human emotions and attachments are obviously a lot more complex than that. now that the obvious one has been said:

-- i've heard a lot of my male friends complain about how their ex/girlfriends act right after the breakup. a bunch have all had the same situation happen: they break up, the girl sleeps with someone else, and a few days later the couple gets back together. usually, my guy friends are comlpaining because the chick doesn't tell them that she slept with someone else. in fact, she usually runs back professing her undying love and devotion. of course, they break up again (for good) once the guy finds out about the sex. so if you want a relationship with her, make sure you don't end up being the "other dude." [of course, not all chicks do this.. but it is possible and not uncommon, so it's something to consider].

-- think about what it would mean if you're able to lead her away from her current relationship (even if you heard she might be considering ending things on her own accord). if you're able to lead her away from her current boyfriend, than another guy will be able to lead her away from you. do you want to be with someone who doesn't put her heart into a relationship and only remains in a relationship until someone new comes along? someone who won't try to work things out? she's human.. even though she's beautiful, she still has flaws. if she cheats on him with you, then you're likely to have a lot of trust issues in the relationship. it would be better to let her end things on her own. she mentioned to a friend that she was considering it... but she (as of the time of your post, anyway) hasn't actually done it yet. you probably don't want her to feel pressured, or interpret your actions as an attempt to control her.

-- if you respect her, than you need to respect her decision to remain in her current relationship. if the two of you end up in a relationship, she will probably have more respect for you (and your relationship) because you weren't disrespectful. was she flirting with you in front of her boyfriend? how are you going to feel when you're out on a date with her, and you see her flirting with other guys? either way, she was being disrespectful towards him, which might be an indication that she will also not respect you.

-- WHY does she want to leave him, and WHY is she not happy? if she's upset that he doesn't give her as much attention, for example, she might have only been flirting with you to make him jealous. just because someone is in a relationship, it does not mean that they stop being attracted to others... she may have mentioned that you're hot, but did she say she intends or desires to act on it?

i know this isn't what you wanted to hear... and i know it sounds fairly negative, which wasn't my intention. i just wanted to offer up the side you might not have considered as much.
i mean, maybe she feels such a strong connection and overwhelimg goodness towards you. maybe you're the only guy she's flirted with while being in her current relationship, and her feelings for you are so strong she is horribly confused with her relationship. maybe she would have never considered leaving a boyfriend for a new guy (whom she doesn't know very well) until you met her. but seriously, how likely is this? unless she's horribly innocent and naive (which i suspect she is not)...
you guys get along well, and that is definitely awesome... but be aware that she is not an ideal. keep your options open, and try not to get too hung up on her. once she's single, the two of you might have an amazing relationship.. but don't push it too hard or force it; her current situation makes your relationship (even a platonic one) fragile.

flow with it, pisces... don't get stuck in any fishing nets.

(sorry for the length).

 

ok, i dont know much bout love, but i have a boyfriend im preety sure i love, i believe this girl (yeah she thinks your hot, but if she drank and she said it, uh....she was probly just horny and said that so u to can,.....i donnno do whatever, ) but isn;t gonna leave her boyfriend she has cause if she says shes gonna, then she would of already....u know?? i have a freind , sara who would always cheat on her boyfreind and tell the guys that she dumpedher boyfriend. or that she didn;t have one, the question is, do you really know this girl?? so u say you really like her, how can you like someone if you dont "know" them?? like i think u should be freinds first.. but hey, thats just me, if you wanted to hook up with her, then (and if u havent and still want to) then wait till her boyfriend(not her) says there not goin out. hopefully your not the kind of guy who would cheat on a girl or be the "other man" ...i dont think u are, but since im only 15 i dont know much, and your older, so just remember, dont listen to someone who has been drinking, (even if it is the truth) and know all the information before you tell the story...in other words. make she she really likes you , and if she does then she'll brake up with her b.f for u, and cheating is the worst thing anyone can do, it shows you have no selfcontrol and your really insecure about yourself to (or your really horny) make someone elses life horrible so u can be happier...i hope any of this makes since, cause i cant put what im trying to say in the right words..

 

Hi,
If she has a boyfriend then she is not the girl for you right now and you should not really consider the possibility. Even if she was flirting with you, you should be the bigger person and remind her that she has a boyfriend and her behavior is not appropriate. I know that is really hard. But trust me in the long run it is for the best. If she is really interested in you and wants to persue a relationship with you, then she will realize this and break up with her boyfriend first. Then go out with you. If not, how could you ever trust her.

Just because someone doesn't really like the person they are with does not give them reason to cheat. Just rememeber that no matter how much she seems to be flirting with you. And I consider cheating anything that I wouldn't do when my partner is present, which includes flirting (to an extent).

Hope this helps.