hey. im a man (20years) i have this big problem. i dont know what to do. i have a fetish for blowjobs. i think about it every day (for hours most of the days). i have this wonderful girlfriend who i love more than anything else. but she dont want me to cum in her mouth. i have tryed everything to make her. even licking her 2 orgasms i rowand still she said no. i lick her to she get orgasm every time we have sex. i do all i can if it takes me 5 hours or 10 min, through tears and pain. i have never given up on her. but nomatter how much i beg or what ever i do she wont let me cum in her. i cant even be close to girl i know does that because i just get deprest about knowing some one around me can and my girl friend wont. what the hell do i do? its no way ill force her i would never be bad to my girl friend sorry bad english :O
I think you should just explain to her that it's really unfair that she won't try it and that you can't help but taste her when you go down on her. If she really won't; she won't. But try to level with her, and if you have to, you could even refuse to give her oral until she tries it. Personally, I recommend leaving her; but maybe the rest of the relationship/her personality makes up for her unwillingness to pleasure you.
well i have explained it all (3 times) she started to cry 2 of them because she felt bad(very emosjonal). still didnt help. i even had tears im my eyes 2 of the times my self cause i felt so damn desperate and because i made her cry because of something so stupid. im abit emosjonal my self i would never refuse to give her plesure, i love here and would never be bad in bed just because she dont give me what i want. and i would never leav her. shes the closest to perfect i have ever known both in personality and look.
Hm, has she given you any reason why she doesn't want to? I understand what you mean and appreciate your honesty. I've cried just by making my girlfriend really sad. You sound like a really great guy and your frustration is understandable. Unfortunately, she may never let you do this; but keep up the good fight, and if the relationship is satisfying in all other aspects, don't let this one spoil it.
I would have dumped her a long time ago. You are the man, so you need to take the driver's seat. If she does not satisfy you sexually, you would be better off dumping her because chances are that you will stray and look for another girl who will. Don't waste any more time with her and leave her. There are millions of other girls out there.
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Sounds like you need to stop pressuring her to do something she doesn't want to, She has the right to not want to take your load in her mouth. Stop frusterating yourself by going the extra mile expecting that she will change her mind, It will be a sure fire let down. If you stop talking about it she might not leave you for being a pushy bastard... did you forget that no means no?
To me this sounds like a very sensitive issue to her and you have made your efforts and they aren't going through. Not every girl will do everything you want to do. Some women just refuse to let men ejaculate into their mouth, and that is OKAY! There are numerous other ways to have fun in the saddle. If it really is that big of an issue where you can't be with her then sit down and explain it to her that you need a woman who's willing to do that with you. I personally think if you love her you should be able to look past that, but if you can't then there is really only one fair option.
your working for your pleasure. cut the chord, stop her orgasms she will be on the receiving end of it. it's not mean, it's only fair.
Have you asked her if you can fulfill that particular fantasy with another partner while remaining committed to her as far as everything else? If she doesn`t accept, I only see two possibilities. Leave her for someone more compatible, or accept that the things about you which are compatible are worth sacrificing that particular fantasy for.
try eating your own cum a few different times a week and see how you like it. Unless your one then kinds that think all the textures and tastes are the same when they are not.. you could have a terrible diet, on medications, drink alcohol, many things make the Jizz taste nasty and some diets improve the taste 100fold.. check yourself, before you check your women..
...and that is when you start devising your exit strategy. Otherwise, be blunt and dump her right away. There are other girls who will be willing, so why waste your time denying yourself?
You say you love her so you're not going to be able to dump her as some have suggested. I think you could be more understanding but I also don't think it's a fantasy you should just try and forget about, because that'd be pretty damn difficult. I love cum. I like it in my mouth and on my face and I love to swallow, I'm seriously turned on by it in my pussy and I also like getting messy with it. I think it's seriously hot. I have girlfriends who find it disgusting though. Of course they shouldn't, but they do. I find that a lot of girls get all worked up by it and are intimidated at the thought when actually it's just a little bit of harmless goo from a penis. You can help your girlfriend get over it. Respect her when you talk to her and don't nag until she cries. Have a fair adult conversation about it and tell her you don't want her to feel that its disgusting when its a natural and important part of your sex life. Ask her if she'll let you cum on her. If she says yes then that's great, otherwise try just getting it in your hands. She needs to stop being afraid of it. Get her to know it and touch it and give it a little taste in front of her yourself. Show her you're willing too and tell her it tastes good and like none other. Then perhaps she'll taste it too. Work slowly and respectfully towards it without making her cry and hopefully she'll respect you enough to give it a whirl. It's clearly a big deal to her. Don't force her and quit begging her. Begging adds an enormous about of pressure. Be nice about it.
I had a girlfriend who would insist that when I came I would ejaculate into her mouth, as that was her biggest turn-on. It was a bit of a pity, really, that my favourite, as well as finding it difficult to do anything but ejaculate at maximum penetration. However, we did used to come to a reasonable compromise, taking it in turns, as much as possible.
well. the problem is that i think honesty are so important. and then she se how much it means to me its then she cry. i dont get angry or anything. i tell her on so harmless way as posible but still just like it is. i just want her to know what i feel.
because ill rather live in pain all my life with her than lose her. if you have experienced real love you would understand.
i love her more than anything else. but then im willing to even kill for her and she wont even handle a bad taste for like 15sec then i get a bit frustrated.
