Should I bother comming out?

Discussion in 'Coming Out and Confused!' started by justCHILL, Apr 15, 2008.

  1. justCHILL

    justCHILL Member

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    so today the my best friend came out to me as bisexual and if you have read my thread in the bisexual forum "is she, am i?" then you will know i have wondered if i my-self were bisexual. well after talking to my friend and getting all the advice from the forum i relized that everyone is a little bisexual or at least bicuirois. just on what level determinds how you would lable yourself. im not sure what level i would consider myself, if it is only slightly/strongly physical or if i could have a relationship with another female.whaat i was wondering was that if i should come out to her with the possiblity or formi9ng a relationship, even if it turns out i cant be in one with another female, or if i should only come out as bi-curious. also if i should not bother saying anything at all and wait untill i am a little more experienced and i can know what i really want, seeing as i have hardly even had a 'more-than-a-month' relationship with a guy and i am only almost 14. its just that i want to be completely honest and if their is a chance of a relationship, at least TRYING because i'd rather it not work out than to waist half my life waiting.

    ~Well what do you think...anything would help, i could use the oppinions!~
     
  2. Joey*

    Joey* Freaky Supportr Dude

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    I don't know but sounds to me you're making this more complicated than it needs to be.Either you come out or you don't.I'd say you're way to young to worry much about it anyway.If it's that important,you really feel you need to do something now well first determine what your orientation is or what you think it is (it can always change).Are you attracted to girls??Have you ever been with a girl??Would you have a relationship with a girl??Do you find boys attractive??etc etc.these are questions you should ask yourself and be honest.I think it's healthy to have some idea without it your just walking around blindly.I can understand you would'nt want to lose the possibility of something with your friend.I don't really see much harm in telling your friend you're attracted to her.I mean you want to be honest right?And she told you.
    Although you want to know what you want and who you are it's ok to just be yourself if you're not sure.Be yourself.You don't have to waist half your life waiting.Tell her.Be honest with yourself and her.and Be yourself,if it helps you can call yourself Bi-curious,being your age I would'nt jump to conclusions.You should know what you feel so that can guide you.It's not so complicated.
    Good Luck [​IMG]
    J
     
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