Should women always be respected?

I learned that women should always be respected, no matter the things they do. They're the wombs, they're sacred. You don't have to like them or be friends with them, but you should always bring up "respect" - an attitude that goes much deeper than friendship or comprehension.

Ok, that's what I grew up with.

Now a few days ago I found out that one of my best female friends is a webcam girl. She has a university degree, she's a nice person, she's got everything she needs and if she wants to she could find a normal job.

But so she chose to become a webcam girl. She now "works" 6 hours per day, showing her body and her genitalia to whoever wants to pay to see it.

I had a big row with her because in the end I consider this to be simple prostitution. I haven't spoken to her since. I don't want to have anything to do with whores.

So the old words of my parents and my teachers kept popping through my head: "always respect women, no matter the wrongs they might be doing". I feel it's very difficult to maintain this. I don't think I can ever respect that woman again. I feel betrayed too because she didn't talk with me (or any of her other friends) before deciding to become a prostitute.

What do you think? Should I still respect this woman? Even though she is nothing but a cheap prostitute?

 

If a woman does not respect herself then I see no reason why anybody else should.

 

All people deserve respect, regardless of gender.

 

IMO, you have to give respect to get respect.. Everyone should be respected but if a woman/man is a constant bitch who gets in your face and constantly disrespects you then you should be able to fire back.. If you're big enough to dish it out you're big enough to take it.. People can only be pushed so far.

As for your friend, I think you should give her respect regardless of her 'camming'.. I find it funny how some men say (not so much the OP) women are a whore/slut for being sexual yet a prude for being nonsexual.. Sometimes women just can't win, no matter the situation.. Oh, as for you calling her nothing but a 'cheap prostitute', I think that is pretty shitty as she is/was your friend.. Why don't you talk to her and find out why she chose that path instead of turning your back on her?

 

I think if that is the way she wants to make her money, more power to her. I know if I were a woman, I would be using my physical attributes to make money. I mean, it's not like she's fucking for money. She's just teasing some people who are stupid enough to pay to see a naked woman. She's a pimp IMO, not a prostitute.

 

Yes you should respect this woman. No, she is not a prostitute. She is a model and/or actress. But that is irrelevant, even if she were a street walker she should be respected.

What do I mean by respect? I mean that she should be listened to. One should assume that she knows her own mind better than you do. Assume that she is strong enough to listen to critism and praise.

Respect someone does not require agreeing with them or liking them. Respect means letting someone make their own mistakes (even after you have given them your best advice) and take their own lessons from those mistakes.

Even constant bitches deserve respect. Cursing back at someone who curses you is not disrespect. Holding your tounge because they "didn't really mean what they said" or "they can't take the kind of toung lashing they deserve" is not respecting them.

Kindness is not disrespect. Treating people like fragile porceline is disrespectful.

 

I couldn't agree more. Don't forget the men who speak so lowly of women in that context yet like to get off to them.
Anyway, just because you disagree with your friend's decision doesn't mean you should stop respecting her, especially based on the way you described her. It would be understandable to lose respect for someone in that area if they surprised you with their promiscuity but 'whore' is an awful word, even for prostitutes. I think that a lot of the time their occupation can be considered quite unfortunate but that doesn't make them any less human. I'm sure your friend knows the way men are looking at her and that is why she is keeping it confined to a webcam - it will probably be short-lived.

 

They're also people. As fallible, changeable, fun-loving, insecure, serious, shallow, sexy, tough, beautiful etc. as anyone else. Sometimes it helps to remember that before you start polishing that pedestal.

Yes you should still respect her. She doesn't sound like a 'cheap prostitute', just an astute businesswoman. Maybe her camming has less to do with sexual commerce and more to do with self-expression anyway. And if it comes down to it, cheap prostitutes are people too, and subjecting them to convenient value judgements cannot take away any of their personal qualities (as above, and still etc.)

 

NO.
Some women (and some men) just don't deserve respect.

If you mean should you respect a woman if you don't know her, then yes.
Give people the benefit of the doubt, until they prove they don't deserve it.

 

if nude modelling makes someone a dirty whore not to be respected, and you look at that much porn on a daily basis, you have some very serious issues that need to be dealt with. If you can't speak to your friend because she caters to guys JUST LIKE YOU, then you've got some serious identity issues that are obviously destroying you and destroying perfectly good friendships.

 

well, after reading dangermoose's response i am even more upset at the opening poster's statement about his so-called friend. she's lucky to have gotten rid of him.

 

I feel lucky anytime i see a woman naked!

 

Everyone is entitled to respect. Sounds like you havent supported her very well, if you dont agree with her, maybe discuss your concerns instead of shaming her. That's not
r -e -s- p- e- c -t.

*sock it to me sock it to me sock it to me .....

 

pics?

 

who you talkin to?

 

nevermind, you have new pics in your gallery, nice!

 

I.J.,
My experience is that its more fun (for me) treating people better than they deserve. I'm not fantatic about it, but that's my experience.

 

Yes you should respect women, everyone should be respected unless they shit on other people. But you should also resect her right to make her own desicions and lead her own life. She can do what she wants with her body, its her decision. Just because it doesnt fit with your personal morals doesnt mean you should'nt respect her! If you really want to respect your friend, dont impose your values on her.

 

Some people don't deserve others respect, including some women.

If she were my friend, I wouldn't care if she is a webcam girl.

 

You're right but when a man watches porn he doesn't ask money for it nor does he show his genitals to people he doesn't know. It's a difference.
I will agree though that if nobody ever again watched porn, there would be far fewer women who would feel the need to prostitute themselves.

But that's like the debate about cocaine: if there were no consumers, there wouldn't be any drug dealers and drug crime gangs. But honestly, given that there are consumers, who do you think is worse? The consumer or the drug dealer crime gang? I think the latter.

Moreover, I may sound hypocritic, but I hope you never have to find out that someone you loved has become a prostitute. Watching porn is something anonymous, it's just out there, so men look at it. But when you suddenly realize that one of your best friends actually makes the stuff, then it gets an entirely different perspective.